Page 13 | My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

Teegan89 · 2023-10-20T09:18:52+00:00

it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

Sprogonthetyne · 20/10/2023 16:44

It does look bad, but my kids breakfast rotation if far more chocolate waffle heavy then I ever imagined it would be. So I'm in no position to judge. It won't hurt as a one off

Devilsmommy · 20/10/2023 16:56

bringbackneighbours · 20/10/2023 16:37

Mumsnet is full of weirdness. How would you react if your husband said he 'would tear you a new one' if you did this? He would be called abusive/controlling/a bully. Such flipping hypocrisy here.

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🙄 I wouldn't actually physically hurt him, it's an expression. But he would definitely get the sharp edge of my tongue. Or is that not ok either?

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:13

arethereanyleftatall · 20/10/2023 13:23

You would 'remind' a grown man that biscuits aren't a good choice?!? Do you really think he doesn't already know that but is so lazy and so selfish that he doesn't care?

Jfc. The low standards that some women will endure to have the prize of a man are jaw dropping.

Or - how about - don't have kids with men who aren't going to be able to parent without reminders.

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He probably does already know but he's not my DH so I don't actually give a shit. I was merely trying to highlight the fact that so many children in this country go without food that OP should be happy her child is eating and she can afford to feed them..but thanks for totally missing my point. JFC 🙄

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:16

MrsPinkSky · 20/10/2023 13:30

Did you really just type that??

I don't know whether to laugh or cry at you thinking a grown man might need reminding that a 2 year old might need something more wholesome for breakfast, than a bowl full of bloody biscuits and cake.

And as for 'at least DC is eating something', there was never a question of the child refusing to eat a wholesome breakfast 🙄

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Yes, yes I did. I don't actually give a shit if her husband needs reminding or not. My post was more about letting you judgemental lot know that there are more children in this country that are going without food so at least the child is actually being fed. But thanks for your comments.🙄

newamsterdam · 20/10/2023 18:19

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:16

Yes, yes I did. I don't actually give a shit if her husband needs reminding or not. My post was more about letting you judgemental lot know that there are more children in this country that are going without food so at least the child is actually being fed. But thanks for your comments.🙄

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Whats that got to do with anything? Yes, children are going without food. that's bad. But completely irrelevant when talking about someone who has plenty of food available but chooses shitty food for their kid

Aldicrispsareshit · 20/10/2023 18:20

As a one off I don't see the problem. As a wider issue though it strikes me as weaponised incompetence so you don't ask him again

LuditeLil · 20/10/2023 18:20

It's giving Disney Dad

MrsPinkSky · 20/10/2023 18:20

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:16

Yes, yes I did. I don't actually give a shit if her husband needs reminding or not. My post was more about letting you judgemental lot know that there are more children in this country that are going without food so at least the child is actually being fed. But thanks for your comments.🙄

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Oh for goodness sake turn it in will you?

Everyone knows there are starving children in the world etc, it's not breaking news.

However, it has zero bearing on the OP's child, her health or her teeth.

Ridiculous.

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 18:24

Aldicrispsareshit · 20/10/2023 18:20

As a one off I don't see the problem. As a wider issue though it strikes me as weaponised incompetence so you don't ask him again

It's a one off because he never feeds the kid breakfast in the first place.

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:28

MrsPinkSky · 20/10/2023 18:20

Oh for goodness sake turn it in will you?

Everyone knows there are starving children in the world etc, it's not breaking news.

However, it has zero bearing on the OP's child, her health or her teeth.

Ridiculous.

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You're being a little over dramatic. Yes her husband put some cake and biscuits in a bowl but she replaced it with fruit so her DD didn't actually eat it in the first place.
Are you telling me then that you've never given your child sugary treats?

Aldicrispsareshit · 20/10/2023 18:30

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 18:24

It's a one off because he never feeds the kid breakfast in the first place.

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And now he's made sure he never gets asked/trusted to do it again

MrsPinkSky · 20/10/2023 18:33

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:28

You're being a little over dramatic. Yes her husband put some cake and biscuits in a bowl but she replaced it with fruit so her DD didn't actually eat it in the first place.
Are you telling me then that you've never given your child sugary treats?

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I've never given my 2 year old a bowl of cake and biscuits and been unaware that it might not be an appropriate meal, no.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 19:27

LiveatCityHall · 20/10/2023 18:28

You're being a little over dramatic. Yes her husband put some cake and biscuits in a bowl but she replaced it with fruit so her DD didn't actually eat it in the first place.
Are you telling me then that you've never given your child sugary treats?

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There's a difference though between giving a child a treat, usually after they have actually had a meal beforehand and giving them the treat as the meal because they don't usually do breakfast and clearly can't be arsed because they don't think it should be their job.

bonzaitree · 20/10/2023 19:49

Crap parenting. I feel like he could have just given her some cereal or toast with less effort

DaftQuestionForToday · 21/10/2023 01:58

Cornishclio · 20/10/2023 15:48

@DaftQuestionForToday

Of course some cereals are better than a bowl of processed sugar.. weetabix or porridge with fruit is relatively healthy

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i don't consider porridge 'cereal' & I doubt many others do either.

I also doubt plain weetabix is what most children are having over coco pops, cheerios variation of chocolate cereal, Frosties etc and even weetabix isn't great.

givemeasunnyday · 21/10/2023 04:00

For crying out loud - as a one off it will do no harm at all. Chill.

Tohaveandtohold · 21/10/2023 05:56

I mean it’s not a good breakfast but If you did the food shopping, you bought them as well and plan to give all those unhealthy items to yourself or your child, maybe just not for breakfast so no adult comes out looking like saints. The matured thing is to talk about these things among yourselves as bringing it online will generate the sort of responses some people have been giving.

Goldbar · 21/10/2023 06:09

As a one off (he doesn't normally give breakfast) it's worse because it suggests he either has no idea how to feed your child healthily or what an appropriate diet is or he just doesn't see the value in it. And it's not like breakfast is a difficult meal. He's also 'stealing your slack'... a bowl of sugary treats in the morning means you then have to work harder to balance this later on. Like you said, time for a chat.

Baffled1989 · 21/10/2023 06:45

@Teegan89 that’s called parenting, everything you say he did is called parenting not “being king”

if my partner gave that for breakfast he would be ripped a new one but thsnkfully he’s not an idiot.

Hibiscrubbed · 21/10/2023 07:20

Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:23

I wasn’t there. He is WFH on a Friday and was kind enough to get her dressed and ‘fed’ this morning while I got myself ready which I really do appreciate as I was working late last night. I got a shock when I came downstairs to see her breakfast. We both struggle with our weight and I really don’t want the same for dd. I will need to chat with him about this.

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Jesus. What a lazy twat. A fucking mini roll? What was he thinking?

I was going to ask if he had weight issues, because that is in no way a sensible breakfast and suggests someone with food and nutrition issues.

If you both struggle with weight, why not just remove all that temptation and don’t buy that sort of thing? Your daughter doesn’t like it anyway.

HoppingPavlova · 21/10/2023 07:40

This is lovely. But OP's kid is two. She's not going to remember this. It will just harm her teeth, make her grouchy mid-morning, and (hopefully not, but maybe) set up an expectation

Some of mine were two. I was hardly going to do this with the older ones and make a 2yo the usual healthy bfast. That would have gone down a treat, the 2 year old chowing down on porridge with chopped banana while the rest of us are tucking into junk food and ice cream! Glad your 2yo would have accommodated this, mine would not, so 2yo or not you were included in naughty breakfast. Once a year is NOT going to damage a 2yo teeth, get a grip. A grouchy toddler mid-morning, meh, small price to pay. An expectation this may occur once a year, shit yes, hardly horrific. People really need to unclench.

I also gave mine a little treat, such as a chocolate frog, in lunchboxes roughly once every 4 months. March me to jail🤣. All my kids grew up to be thin, healthy adults with healthy teeth, who don’t gorge on chocolate frogs for lunch or have junk food breakfasts every day due to the occasional treats they were given.

SouthLondonMum22 · 21/10/2023 08:28

HoppingPavlova · 21/10/2023 07:40

This is lovely. But OP's kid is two. She's not going to remember this. It will just harm her teeth, make her grouchy mid-morning, and (hopefully not, but maybe) set up an expectation

Some of mine were two. I was hardly going to do this with the older ones and make a 2yo the usual healthy bfast. That would have gone down a treat, the 2 year old chowing down on porridge with chopped banana while the rest of us are tucking into junk food and ice cream! Glad your 2yo would have accommodated this, mine would not, so 2yo or not you were included in naughty breakfast. Once a year is NOT going to damage a 2yo teeth, get a grip. A grouchy toddler mid-morning, meh, small price to pay. An expectation this may occur once a year, shit yes, hardly horrific. People really need to unclench.

I also gave mine a little treat, such as a chocolate frog, in lunchboxes roughly once every 4 months. March me to jail🤣. All my kids grew up to be thin, healthy adults with healthy teeth, who don’t gorge on chocolate frogs for lunch or have junk food breakfasts every day due to the occasional treats they were given.

This isn’t what happened though. DH fed her junk simply because he couldn’t be arsed as he believes it’s OP’s job to do breakfast.

There’s a difference between intentions and that’s why if I was OP, I’d be furious.

misskatamari · 21/10/2023 08:31

Fucking hell. That’s weaponised incompetence if ever I saw it!
Ridiculously unacceptable and I would not be impressed. There’s nothing wrong with those foods as treats, but when you give breakfast you’re setting your child up for the day and they need something vaguely nutritious. I would be so cross about this.

Mikimoto · 21/10/2023 08:48

It's actually Frosties/CocoKrispies in a different form.
Look on the bright side - could've been processed pork.

Lostthewilltolive1970 · 21/10/2023 09:58

My kids are grown up now but only recently told me they had sweets for breakfast every weekend if I was working 😁😁😁
They never melted 😄