Page 12 | My DH gave our two year old breakfast this morning and

Teegan89 · 2023-10-20T09:18:52+00:00

it was an assortment of random unhealthy snacks… 🤔 Yes, I appreciate he was in a rush but aibu to think is pretty bad? I mean how long does it take to throw some fruit and yogurt in a bowl. Give me strength 🙄

viques · 20/10/2023 14:52

Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:10

I replaced it with some fruit which is currently sat on the table while she screams for crisp 🫣

Genes will out! She is certainly her fathers daughter.

ActDottie · 20/10/2023 14:59

Omg wtffff???? I’d be seething is my husband did this.

anotherside · 20/10/2023 15:00

Looks perfectly nutritious to me.

potatoheads · 20/10/2023 15:18

@Coffeerum
It’s highly unlikely that a serving of your average breakfast cereal has even half as much sugar as a chocolate mini roll, flap jack and 2 biscuits.
Never mind the fact that at least cereals have added vitamins plus are served with milk.

Actually having gone through and checked, the sugar in the bowl shown is about the equivalent of the amount of sugar in an average bowl of Frosties with 100ml semi skimmed milk

There are obviously lower sugar cereals but people do seem to think cereal is a healthy option when usually it isn't

arethereanyleftatall · 20/10/2023 15:24

I'm fairly (Christ I hope so) sure nobody thinks Frosties are healthy @potatoheads

Parker231 · 20/10/2023 15:28

ActDottie · 20/10/2023 14:59

Omg wtffff???? I’d be seething is my husband did this.

Why - it’s a one off. Do you feed your DC’s a perfectly balanced healthy diet every meal, every day?

DinnaeFashYersel · 20/10/2023 15:35

DuplicateUserName · 20/10/2023 13:33

Another one with low standards when it comes to very basic parenting 🙄

The excuses being made for this man is I imagine why so many dads get away with shit parenting.

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Do get over yourself.

DinnaeFashYersel · 20/10/2023 15:37

GilChesterton13 · 20/10/2023 14:09

Where do you buy Tears of Nuns? In a Popeular supermarket?

The supermarket ones are so heavily processed. We get ours straight from the convent.

Its much fresher if you keep a couple of nuns around so they can squeeze their tears out directly from the source.

Blackcatballoon · 20/10/2023 15:41

I don't see the big deal if it's once in a blue moon.

JustAMinutePleass · 20/10/2023 15:47

DH put mine in front of the TV with a bowl of whole grapes. I would rather he have been given DS a shot of whiskey

Cornishclio · 20/10/2023 15:48

@DaftQuestionForToday

Of course some cereals are better than a bowl of processed sugar.. weetabix or porridge with fruit is relatively healthy

Honeybee798 · 20/10/2023 15:50

There are people saying they don’t see it being a big deal if it’s only the once but surely the big deal here is that the Dad/DH has done this in a passive aggressive way because he didn’t want to give the child breakfast? Surely, someone who is parenting a toddler doesn’t think this is a healthy breakfast (because it’s absolutely not)? Also, why is it yet another thing that Dads get to do in a shitty way because they can’t be arsed, yet Mums have to do it properly and be the responsible one every time? If a Mum that was responsible for breakfast everyday fed their child this, there would be plenty of judgement. The Dad is a parent so he should parent properly, it’s quite simple.

HoneyButterPopcorn · 20/10/2023 15:53

On the other hand - kiddo will be demanding that daddy makes his breakfast every morning.

CliantheLang · 20/10/2023 16:06

HoneyButterPopcorn · 20/10/2023 15:53

On the other hand - kiddo will be demanding that daddy makes his breakfast every morning.

"Kiddo" is a she and Dad has weaponised his incompetence to the point of deliberately giving her a breakfast he would have known she wouldn't eat if he wasn't busy being such a dick.

Parker231 · 20/10/2023 16:07

Honeybee798 · 20/10/2023 15:50

There are people saying they don’t see it being a big deal if it’s only the once but surely the big deal here is that the Dad/DH has done this in a passive aggressive way because he didn’t want to give the child breakfast? Surely, someone who is parenting a toddler doesn’t think this is a healthy breakfast (because it’s absolutely not)? Also, why is it yet another thing that Dads get to do in a shitty way because they can’t be arsed, yet Mums have to do it properly and be the responsible one every time? If a Mum that was responsible for breakfast everyday fed their child this, there would be plenty of judgement. The Dad is a parent so he should parent properly, it’s quite simple.

Neither DH or I fed DC’s a healthy breakfast every day. Busy full time jobs and occasionally we dropped a clanger and had nothing suitable in the house for a healthy breakfast. A pain au chocolat brought near the Tube station on route to nursery/school sometimes had to do.

Not a disaster - we parent jointly - no one’s fault - just real life. We all survived

Dramatic · 20/10/2023 16:09

potatoheads · 20/10/2023 15:18

@Coffeerum
It’s highly unlikely that a serving of your average breakfast cereal has even half as much sugar as a chocolate mini roll, flap jack and 2 biscuits.
Never mind the fact that at least cereals have added vitamins plus are served with milk.

Actually having gone through and checked, the sugar in the bowl shown is about the equivalent of the amount of sugar in an average bowl of Frosties with 100ml semi skimmed milk

There are obviously lower sugar cereals but people do seem to think cereal is a healthy option when usually it isn't

Mine have nesquick every day 😬

mathanxiety · 20/10/2023 16:13

lifesnotaspectatorsport · 20/10/2023 12:21

My husband did similar for our 3 and 6 year old's snack boxes (they have a 10.30 snack at school). Two kinds of biscuits and a cereal bar. I was

He grumpily replaced one of the biscuits with fruit, he was in a rush etc - but I honestly don't think he thinks it matters. He always grabs packaged snacks because it's quicker. I confess to occasionally checking the snack boxes now (it's one of his jobs to do them) to make sure it's not 100% rubbish.

Slippery slope there.

SouthLondonMum22 · 20/10/2023 16:22

Parker231 · 20/10/2023 16:07

Neither DH or I fed DC’s a healthy breakfast every day. Busy full time jobs and occasionally we dropped a clanger and had nothing suitable in the house for a healthy breakfast. A pain au chocolat brought near the Tube station on route to nursery/school sometimes had to do.

Not a disaster - we parent jointly - no one’s fault - just real life. We all survived

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This isn't the case here though. Other things were available, DH just couldn't be arsed because he sees breakfast as OP's responsibility.

Zebedee55 · 20/10/2023 16:26

As a one off, it won't hurt. No need to ditch the DH. 🙄

Bbq1 · 20/10/2023 16:32

Snugglemonkey · 20/10/2023 14:43

My dc went through a stage of refusing breakfast. I took eating shots of and an apple as a win many mornings.

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You gave your child shots?!

Gerrataere · 20/10/2023 16:34

Zebedee55 · 20/10/2023 16:26

As a one off, it won't hurt. No need to ditch the DH. 🙄

It’s not really the point here. I will get flamed for this but there are many a morning where my kids have pop tarts or Nutella on a bagel for breakfast - they’re autistic and some days literally nothing else in offer is good enough bar a chocolate something.

The issue is that mum usually makes a good breakfast that her two year old will eat (god I’m jealous) and dad has to step in once and can’t be arsed. It’s not a one off treat, it’s dad being lazy and undermining mum.

LylaLee · 20/10/2023 16:35

Bbq1 · 20/10/2023 16:32

You gave your child shots?!

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Well, obviously. There was alcohol in the house, so what else were they supposed to do?

bringbackneighbours · 20/10/2023 16:37

Devilsmommy · 20/10/2023 10:20

My husband would have been torn a new one if he gave my little one biscuits and cake for breakfast. I mean really, he couldn't just give him a banana or something?

Mumsnet is full of weirdness. How would you react if your husband said he 'would tear you a new one' if you did this? He would be called abusive/controlling/a bully. Such flipping hypocrisy here.

IggityZiggity · 20/10/2023 16:38

Wow. Your husband has massive issues. Is he angry at you and trying to get bacl at you for something and taking it out on your son? Honestly this is ridiculous- does he not often make his kwn child breakfast?! What does your husband make himself for breakfast? Whst a prick.

IggityZiggity · 20/10/2023 16:41

Teegan89 · 20/10/2023 11:23

I wasn’t there. He is WFH on a Friday and was kind enough to get her dressed and ‘fed’ this morning while I got myself ready which I really do appreciate as I was working late last night. I got a shock when I came downstairs to see her breakfast. We both struggle with our weight and I really don’t want the same for dd. I will need to chat with him about this.

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"Kind enough" to dress his own child? Whose words were those?!?!??!?!