Why is it always men?

[bobcat2424]

I think IABU, I hope so but it seems as though every single news story, every horrible brutality; wars, murders, rape, abuse... in the very large part of it seems to be caused by men. Am I wrong to think this?

Look at the statistics. No it's not ALWAYS men. But given the vast numbers, it almost always is.

Women rulers are more likely to declare war than males.
Women are vanishingly less likely to be rulers in the first place so the stats are practically much irrelevant

Women cause most of the aggravation in my family. That's not as bad as violence or sexual violence, but it is still aggravating.

If we did not have DV refuges for women, many of those women would be murdered. Refuges are not nice cosy places for recovery, they exist to stop women being killed, and being murdered after they leave.

To be blunt, if there is such s lack of provision for men, but still the great need that you claim, where are all the dead men?

There are not the dead men, as they are not being killed by their female partners.

i don’t doubt that there are men who are abused, (but I do think the pattern of female to male abuse is very different from the pattern of violence to women.), and I think there should be support for these men. But your attempts to claim some kind of parity in male and female experiences of DV, with just male shame hiding the equality, is just plain wrong.

This is not a case of the stats hiding the reality. This is just a case of the reality being different for the two sexes.

Not sure you can extrapolate much from this (where did you get it from anyway?). In the whole of human history, there have been very very few women leaders. And many of them don't get to positions of power, without demonstrating very "male" traits - they have to almost out-male the males in order to demonstrate their capacity to lead.

It's a bit like when people suggest a large, strong and aggressive Bully XL is the exact same as a small angry jack Russell. Yeah they can both bite. Which ones more likely to kill you though.

Not always, but ALMOST always men.

It is mostly men and women who kill hit the headlines big style for a reason. It is also almost exclusively men involved in the most horrific animal abuse. I'm talking about the torture and rape of defenceless creatures which they film and share with other "mostly" men.

Ok we just had a female ruler until recently but anyway 🤷🏻‍♀️ continue with the victim mindset

I suspect “irrelevant” because you don’t want to hear it

Women are careless with violence and aggression because we suffer fewer consequences. I have seen women wage psychological warfare on both men and women.

If people are allowed to complain on here about “there are lots of rapes that aren’t reported” then can we also acknowledge aggression from women (towards both sexes, old people and children)is not uncommon?

University of Chicago
Leadership is a masculine trait so yes you’re right.
But the suggestion is that women are more reckless with aggression because the consequences for us are less serious.

We would never have got to where we are now if men were not programmed to be who they are. It served a purpose at the beginning of evolution, same as the fight or flight response,but is now surplus to requirements. I don't know what the answer is, some men do put this energy to good use, such as the job they do, whilst others use as a negative force.
I think though the biggest mistake women make is expecting men to think and act like they do, it's never going to happen.

Nope not at all. How often is a "terrorist" female? Very rarely.

This is simply made up. Since 1960 only 59 of 195 countries in the world have had a female in the highest position of executive power. So yes, very much a minority and that minority will still be a very much higher rate than for the rest of human history

women are careless with aggression as we suffer fewer consequences?! Where do you get this from?! Women are more likely to try to appease men for fear of the consequence of an angry man.

Aggression from women is less common than that from men and of is of less violence. I can’t think of a single measure to counter this.

ISIS had plenty

Yeah but come on. Those stories about female child killers and abusers etc get reported because they are so bloody unusual.

It is almost always men, like in the high 90s of % of the time.

I mean look at the prison population.

If it's not men committing most violent crime then they are seriously rubbish at being caught.

I’m seriously pleased to be wrong! Thanks for setting it straight.

@IDidntKnowMyOwnStrength

I agree with your last sentence. Men will never think and act like us. They are basically not programmed to be nurturing or monogamous. They are designed for survival through physical strength and to sow their seed as often as possible. This is not a male apologist comment, it is just the conclusion I have come to after sixty plus years on this planet. I know, I'm slow on the uptake.

Leadership is not a male trait.

Don't know what people are trying to achieve on here with its 'women too'.

Such bullshit.

99.9% its men.

Don't see many videos on tiktok of women being arrested for meeting 14 year olds in hotels.

Not most men but enough of them to be a problem.

Incidentally in the prison estate only 4% deals with female offenders. Of those incarcerated, most are prosdies or didn't pay their tv licence.

Because male violence is a huge issue that nobody, including men, seem prepared to address.

And no, not all men are violent, of course they're not. But most violence is perpetrated by men.

For the vast majority of the time, it's men

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Incidentally in the prison estate only 4% deals with female offenders. Of those incarcerated, most are prosdies or didn't pay their tv licence.

I was all set to type a haughty that-sounds-nonsense reply, but its totally right.

I mean it still sounds like nonsense, but it isn't.