Why is it always men?

[bobcat2424]

I think IABU, I hope so but it seems as though every single news story, every horrible brutality; wars, murders, rape, abuse... in the very large part of it seems to be caused by men. Am I wrong to think this?

Women must be very good at hiding the bodies if they are killing their current or former partners as frequently as men

I thought we traditionally used patios?

It's mainly men, but not always. One PP made a point about genocides being men. Perhaps this is true when it is unstructured violence in a wave like Rwanda in the 1990s. However the holocaust was mechanised and functioned with the aid and collaboration of thousands involved in its administration and operation (and note the prosecutions of female secretaries handling the office paperwork for example).

Large of it is caused by power.
Either power by strenght or position. Men are stronger and usually in leader positions hence why it's them.
If women were as strong and usually in leader positions we would be the ones being moaned about.
Power demands more power and is very greedy. More more more

On the other hand, women are biologically more nurturing. We have to be, so we don't kill the kids.

Actually I think women are statistically more likely to kill their own children than men are.

ETA: likely for different reasons

If women were as strong and usually in leader positions we would be the ones being moaned about.

Unfortunately the female leaders we've had in this country have either been destructive or epoch-definingly useless, but prominent 'western' female leaders have tended towards left or center left progressiveness.

I have no idea if this is true or not, but presumably the context is that women are far more likely to be the sole caregivers ( single parents), primary care givers ( have greater custody at separation or still spend most time with the children if still in a couple).

To be fair they are desirable masculine traits. I would go further and say they are mandatory. Without physical strength and some level of aggression, men wouldn’t be able to do the work they do which means this world can function. I don’t see women in general digging up roads, working on oil rigs or getting up at 5am to drive a lorry.

There a re a lot of domestic abuse cases where the perpetrator is a woman.

A lot 😂
I think you mean "a few".

Actually, there is every demand for this and the first woman who created a refuge for men in London was ostracised by feminist circles. Erin Pizzey: The woman who looked beyond the bruises - BBC News

As someone who used to work with male victims of DV, I can vouch that the demand is there but not he provision. These men have absolutely nowhere to turn and often cannot even go as far as disclose to their friends and relatives because they are being mocked for "not standing up to a woman".

Goodness! Where do you live?

It’s nearly always the men in positions of responsibility and power.

Men are the problem and if you say “but” then you don’t get it.

Let's not let facts get in the way of a good man-bashing thread - it's been at least 12 hours since the last one!

And to the OP, no - it's not always men.
I'm a male victim of domestic violence - if you like I'll paint you a picture and show you the scars from what I went through in the past.

I'll say but - but I was abused by a woman for many years, mentally and physically.
What excuse have you got in the bag for that then?

@Deathbyfluffy I said “nearly always”. I’m sorry for your experiences truly but you are in a vanishingly small comparative group.

Men in power cause wars.

I once read a book about hormones and their effects (can’t remember what it was called) and it said that it isn’t testosterone alone that causes aggression, but testosterone and stress hormones in combination.

It’s perhaps also a reaction to the hormones of others and the circumstances. I say this because I have two male dogs who started fighting as soon as the younger dog reached adolescence. Younger dog was neutered and the fighting stopped within three days. Older dog is still intact and is extremely calm around people and all other dogs regardless of whether they’re intact or not. Neutered dog is far less calm. No I’m not sure what I’m trying to say either🤣

@DelightfullyDotty lets castrate them? 😂

The fact a minority of women also abuse doesn't change the fact that its, in the huge majority, mainly men.

Abuse from anyone toward anyone is awful. But it's ludicrous to suggest there isn't a real issue in not only this country, but the world, with male violence that just is not seen in women to anywhere near the same extent.

Heard this interesting book being discussed by the authors on the radio (Times Radio https://www.thetimes.co.uk/radio/show/20231014-21262/2023-10-14
at 2:19:00 which may be of interest, discusses how we started off equal but this was suppressed once agriculture was developed and how violence and oppression are not inevitable/biological but a product of our society.
https://www.hurstpublishers.com/book/why-men/

You're wrong, seriously wrong.

The stats on infanticide are that fathers are significantly more likely to kill their own children than mothers are.

Although, when you look at female murderers as a population, the majority of them have killed their own children rather than any other people. Women are indeed more likely to kill their own baby when compared to how likely they are to kill anyone.

Female murderers however make up about 7% of the population of murderers overall. So 93% of murderers are male, who they are guilty of killing children, adult men, and adult women.
Adult male murderers are more likely to kill other adult men, and less likely to kill babies than kill other men, but still kill babies more than mothers do.

Yanbu. The reckless driving, drug dealing, flytipping etc round here. Almost all men.

Women rulers are more likely to declare war than males.

Well it’s not a bad idea for certain individuals😁.

It's definitely mostly men. My DH says to our son and daughter that the world would be a better place if women ruled it. I think most reasonable men who watched the news would agree. War, murders, rape, basically all of the heinous crimes are committed by men, with a few exceptions. I say this with a wonderful husband, son, dad, brother etc. I think they'd all agree that men are the main problem.