DP has messed up the painting and thinks I'm over reacting for being annoyed

[Wouldyoube]

I bought a tin of paint for the living room wall, a dark green (bottle green from dunelm to be precise) in a matt finish. My existing (magnolia) paint job is completely flat with no shine at all as was intended.

I opened the tub and took a tiny bit from the top of the lid onto a cutting in brush, in front of him, and did a little 2 x 2 patch just to make sure I was happy with the colour before he started. I was.

Long story short he didn't bother to mix the paint or even read the tin (even though I had already told him the type I wanted and the type I bought)

2 coats later the job is done and after drying every square inch of the wall has a shiny sheen, the opposite to matt.

Confused, I looked online and the verdict was that the paint can't have been mixed properly so I asked him if he'd mixed it and he said no, I asked why not and he finally said "I thought you did"

When was I supposed to have mixed the paint? I think he's just saying that to avoid owning the mistake anyway.

He got really defensive and said I'm over reacting by being annoyed, why would he need to read the tin before starting, there's nothing wrong with it, he has never heard of "shiny" paint being a problem and it's not as if the wall is crumbling down (?)

But am I being unreasonable to be annoyed? I have a hospital appointment on Thursday which I'm quite worried about so may be a bit more touchy than usual, I don't know.

Why is the expectation that men will do the painting?

The op said the reason why she isn't painting
I can't get up on a ladder and paint because I'm ill and weak. If I could have done it myself I would have done. I do what I can

I do the painting here, though my dh does the bits that require ladders over the stairs. My vertigo will not let me do that safely.

And this warrants a thread on here does it ?

If you like the colour but have lost confidence in the paint you can take a sample to B&Q and they scan the colour and do a custom mix for you to match in a different type of paint.

These kind of facile responses are so irritating. Just because somebody is posting about one particular issue, it does not mean that they do not have other more serious problems. You have no idea what is going on in someone’s life and your comment is just a silly thing to post.

I've never heard of truly matt paint (without any other kind of finish) to come out shiny. Whilst it may have been better stirred before use it doesn't sound like that would have fully resolved the issue.

Well said, also, why does something have to meet some sort of "big problem" test before it can be posted? It's a public discussion forum where people can ask for opinions or share whatever issues they might have, if you're not interested in the topic JRM17, move on, no need for a snippy response.

Anyway @Wouldyoube +1 to the response above about getting B&Q to match it. You might not even need a sample as they have a lot of paint colours in the system already, certainly big brands like Farrow & Ball, not sure about Dunelm. We've used the matt and it is definitely matt.

Good for you...& your point is?
The OP said earlier in the thread that's she's unwell & has a worrying hospital appointment on Thursday, so obviously has other things going on in her life. It doesn't mean that she can't take pride in her home at the same time!

I can post about whatever I please, rude person. Why are you commenting on such an inane post then? Isn't there anything else to read? Oh, you just wanted to be an arsehole. Got it.

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And I have an extremely disabled child and earlier this year my husband had to spend time in hospital undergoing some extremely painful and worrying tests. So my point is, when you have other things going on in your life which are worrying / stressful then don't bother wasting your time worrying about / causing arguements over something as pointless as paint. If the colour of the wall hasn't come out as expected then it can be changed. Concentrate on your health first and don't worry about the colour of your walls.

Thank you 😊. Yes, definitely a different vibe in the evening light. I was worried it would be too dark but it's a lovely colour, dramatic! I hope you find a work around that you're happy with in the end, it's so disappointing whe you have a plan that doesn't end up how you were hoping.

If it was a non-drip paint, you shouldn't have been stirring it full stop. Non drip paints rely on the structure of the paint in the can to stop them dripping. If you stir them, you break the structure and the paint becomes thinner and drippy.
Aside from whether it was non-drip or not, no way would a matt paint become shiny because it wasn't stirred. Even if the very first bit was shiny due to anything that had separated on the top, the whole wall wouldn't have ended up shiny as you got further down the can. I would say you bought a duff tin of paint so you should go back to dunelm and complain.

Are you certain that mixing it is going to make a massive difference? Maybe the paint is naturally not very Matt (despite saying Matt on the tin)

Mine would have told me to get stuffed and do it myself if got angry with him.

@MystyLuna what, so if you are ill or disabled you don't get to care about interior design? Illogical.

Should you not have mixed it when doing the patch?

It's just paint that hasn't come out as expected. The OP had to Google why it didn't come out as expected.
So neither of them knew they had to mix the paint first and now they do.
There isn't any need to get annoyed with each other and try to assign blame over who's fault it is.
Now they know what the problem is it can be fixed.
Getting annoyed or upset with someone over something neither of them knew or did and something that can easily be fixed is illogical

Kind of sad that she made it about her husband being wrong/mistaken rather than just accepting both of them played a part in this, or maybe the paint just wasn't as expected.

Apologise to your husband for flying off the handle explaining that you're worried about your appointment. Plan a treat together. Leave the wall until after your appointment, at which point you might want to think about buying specific matte paint in the same/similar shade.

Mixing has never made that much of difference to whether a paint drys shiny or not in my experience (not mixing tends to cause more of an issue with evenness of colour) so I'm not sure where that came from. Watch out for paints with vague descriptions like 'soft sheen' and accept that a strong colour will always appear slightly more shiny then a white or cream, that is literally down to the way light is absorbed.

Ive never heard of paint changing type through lack of mixing. I think its been a bad batch/mislabelled tin rather than someones fault. But if someone had tested it, id assume they had shook the tin too.

If you are very particular about colour and finish I would paint it yourself.

I’ve used dunelm paint before and both of the Matt ones have a shiny sheen to them - and are a nightmare to keep clean as they show up every finger print! I think it might just be the paint, can’t imagine not mixing would change it this much….Do you have a pic?

If you go for another paint, I recommend Little Greene's Absolute Matt Emulsion - they have some lovely dark greens. I painted my bedroom with one - totally matt and excellent coverage. Also Farrow & Ball have a Dead Flat Emulsion, lovely dark greens - I used one in the conservatory. These brands are pricey but better value than cheaper paints if you're going for a dark colour as you won't need as many coats to achieve the depth you need.

Oh wow that really doesn’t look right at all

this is the same paint in our downstairs loo with the light on a small sheen but in daylight completely flat

Thread police, what is allowed? Certainly posts as helpful as yours, I'm sure.