DP has messed up the painting and thinks I'm over reacting for being annoyed

[Wouldyoube]

I bought a tin of paint for the living room wall, a dark green (bottle green from dunelm to be precise) in a matt finish. My existing (magnolia) paint job is completely flat with no shine at all as was intended.

I opened the tub and took a tiny bit from the top of the lid onto a cutting in brush, in front of him, and did a little 2 x 2 patch just to make sure I was happy with the colour before he started. I was.

Long story short he didn't bother to mix the paint or even read the tin (even though I had already told him the type I wanted and the type I bought)

2 coats later the job is done and after drying every square inch of the wall has a shiny sheen, the opposite to matt.

Confused, I looked online and the verdict was that the paint can't have been mixed properly so I asked him if he'd mixed it and he said no, I asked why not and he finally said "I thought you did"

When was I supposed to have mixed the paint? I think he's just saying that to avoid owning the mistake anyway.

He got really defensive and said I'm over reacting by being annoyed, why would he need to read the tin before starting, there's nothing wrong with it, he has never heard of "shiny" paint being a problem and it's not as if the wall is crumbling down (?)

But am I being unreasonable to be annoyed? I have a hospital appointment on Thursday which I'm quite worried about so may be a bit more touchy than usual, I don't know.

You’re equally to blame. Just do another coat, and maybe do it yourself this time, god knows your DP won’t be offering another favour!

Why don't you get more and mix it well and do another coat or get a very Matt paint for the top coat?

If you think mixing a tin of paint makes such an enormous difference, then I would also have assumed you did this before doing your patch test, otherwise what is the point of the test.

But then again, I think you are hugely overestimating what stirring paint does, it certainly doesn’t change a glossy paint into a matt one.

I think you are being very unreasonable to blame your husband for the paint you approved.

So the patch test you did turned shiny afterwards? It looks like both you and DH made the same mistake then.

Just saw your update but even if it the issue was the lack of mixing, YABVU for blaming him for the exact error you made in your patch test.

Why didn’t he ask if you had mixed it?

why didn’t he mix it again regardless? Some paints settle faster than others and need mixing every time you pop the lid.

I can’t possibly be the only one to mix a paint can every time I open the lid?

I don’t think it’s all his fault tbh. If it was so important to mix the paint you should of told him to do it. He could of assumed you did it like you assumed he would read the tin.

TBH OP, doing a good job with cheap paint is nearly impossible.

@SauronsArsehole yes but even if it was a mistake not to mix, didn't OP make the same mistake with her patch test as well?

With paint there's a specifc difference. The last sample I bought I had mixed at Homebase. That meant colour going into white and being shaken in the machine with far more force than a human could.

Stirring is what you do at home with a stick.

The paint needing to be "mixed" implies a part of the industrial process has been missed, which would explain the finish being off.

You both made a mistake.

You didn't stir it, painted it on and said you were happy. He then did the "whole job" just as he'd seen you do.

If you didn't mix the paint for the test patch, you can't be certain that this is the final , dry colour of the mixed paint.

This ^

I'd have assumed that as the patch test wasn't mixed and you were happy with it, the tin of paint was good to go

Let us know how the hospital appointment goes xxx

I'm sure the OP is free to redo it if her taste is paramount, her husband may prefer this finish.

I agree with this

I think the paint finish isn't to do with (not) stirring. It's probably because it's a cheap paint

It's just paint.
Neither of you mixed it.
It can be fixed with another coat if its that much of an issue.

With paint, mix has two meanings.

One as you state, the other is to stir/shake the already mixed paint, which would normally be done immediately before using it.

This. Yabu.

Here is one example of the term mix being used in the way it is being used on this thread, by a professional firm - they use the term 'mix' because they talk about both shaking it and stirring it.

https://www.promain.co.uk/blog/the-dos-and-donts-of-mixing-paints/

I think you have got bigger problems than paint finish...

If you don't mix it first the colour swatch may not be accurate. It's reasonable to assume you mixed it before swatching it.

But in the case the difference is important. It may well be that it was mixed incorrectly and therefore and stirring OP and her DH did or didn't do would have been redundant.

The fact that the difference is important is immaterial. The way it is being used is perfectly valid.

dont think I have ever mixed a tin of paint before use!! why would mixing it change it to matt insteady of shiny??? dont get that at all. better to get a decent paint!

Aye, men, defensive bastards 😆