Saw a text message on his phone

[Eviepea21]

I was round at my Bfs house yesterday and I was sat in his room watching TV and he went downstairs to make some food. His phone was next to me on the bed and it beeped so I looked. It was a message from a work colleague (he’s a kitchen assistant). The message said ‘ just tell that girlfriend of yours to shut the fuck up’. I know I shouldn’t have and I don’t usually snoop but I just really wanted to know what they had been talking about me for. The message my Bf sent was ‘can’t work any more hours this week, that bitch is already complaining’. He works a lot of hours, finishes late a lot. He had obviously been asked if he could work extra. I wasn’t complaining at all, I just wanted to spend time with him and I feel like we hardly see each other at the moment.

And to be referred to as ‘that bitch’ just threw me tbh. What would you do? Would you tell him you had seen the message?

I'd have taken a screenshot of the messages, text it to him and left.

You deserve more than that.

If you're not married to that man, run for the hills! He has zero respect for you

This.

It doesn't sound like he has much respect for you calling you "that bitch" to work colleagues.

Dump ASAP.

He's trying to set himself up as the victim, might even get him a pity shag. Leave him to it.

I discovered much worse messages on my sisters phone to all her friends about me. Calling me a bitch and a cunt after I'd just paid for trips for her kid. I won't talk to her anymore.

I'd tell him you saw and dump him.

I discovered sisters messages same way you did. It flashed up and then i snooped

Tell him or don’t but when I left I’d never be going back.

Fuck that, you can do better than this disrespectful cunt OP

I wouldn't be going round again, put it that way

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How did the rest of your evening go? Hope you didn't stay and hope you won't be going back. The screenshot idea would be a good one but I guess it's too late for that.

End it.

He's vile

You don’t need to put up with that! Know your worth.

Definitely end it. I wouldn’t even tell him why, I’d just tell him it’s over.

This

"If he wanted to, he would" spend time with you that is.

He isn't worth your time. Move on.

That said, given the angry tone to his message I would leave him in the safest way possible. I would pack up your stuff while he's at work, and pack up his stuff. Protect yourself.

Well, you can’t stay with someone who refers to you as ‘that bitch’.

Dump him asap, it’s completely disrespectful to you.

However, what were you expecting him to do, turn down work and money? He’s only your boyfriend, you both need to work around each other’s work hours, not expect him to cut back.

there no respect.

That's a disgusting, extremely disrespectful way to talk about your girlfriend. You deserve way better than that. He will not change and it will not get better. He's deeply misogynistic, as evidenced by the way his colleague thought it was okay to talk about you to him.

Get rid dump him what a arsehole----

Photograph the message chain, leave, and when you get safely home send him the photograph with a message that he can work all the hours he likes now because he no longer has a girlfriend.

LTB

Get some self-respect and leave him. He doesn't love or like you. Believe him as he's shown you who he is. It will save you a miserable life.

He's doing a smear campaign about you to his coworkers.