NC obviously
Just wanting an anonymous space as I'd never voice my feelings aloud and won't. But also want to ask the question.
10 year old DD for the last couple of years has wanted hair increasingly shorter and not wanted or worn any feminine clothes.
Bright, funny, healthy, happy child who is fully loved and no resistance met to these requests.
The last couple of months when seeing photos or catching a glance from a distance I realise that there's nothing other than if you heard her name that would make you think she is a girl. Assumption would 100% be boy.
She's not said anything about being mistaken for a boy, again she's chosen this look and so I don't think would be upset if she was, and her happiness is paramount so I'm not going to bring it up. She's popular and loves her sports and friends etc.
But. If you've been in the same boat. Did it make you feel a little sad? I know it's unreasonable. It's only hair and clothes. But it's when I see photos of her when she was little it feels like that child is a totally different person.
Again, her happiness is above others' opinions of her hair/clothes/hobbies and I'm very proud of anyone who has the courage to be their authentic self, I never did.
So I know it's my issue that my preference is girls to be girly.
But would to hear from mums of similar kids to say if they've felt the same.