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What's something you wish you could like more?

171 replies

Kangaroobrain · 09/10/2023 23:22

Is there anything you really wish you could like more than you do?

Mine's gardening. I have friends who swear by how therapeutic it is, and I really do like having a garden, but I mostly find doing it an exhausting, frustrating chore. I feel like apologising in advance to any plant I bring back from yet another trip to the garden centre, its chances of survival are so slim.
And as for grow your own - I've successfully brought up three kids but it seems I don't have what it takes to nurture a single tomato to fruition. Sigh...

OP posts:
thaisweetchill · 10/10/2023 09:06

Wine! I just hate the taste of every flavour.

MWNA · 10/10/2023 09:09

Decorating
Drinking water
Late nights

Can't bear any of them.

RosesAndHellebores · 10/10/2023 09:13

Enforced sport and exercise
Dancing
Dogs

Star0Fire · 10/10/2023 09:14

Tomatoes and cucumber's! I so wish I liked them. They look so juicy and fresh but I just can't especially cucumber 🤢 but I wish I did

dizzygirl1 · 10/10/2023 09:16

Kangaroobrain · 09/10/2023 23:22

Is there anything you really wish you could like more than you do?

Mine's gardening. I have friends who swear by how therapeutic it is, and I really do like having a garden, but I mostly find doing it an exhausting, frustrating chore. I feel like apologising in advance to any plant I bring back from yet another trip to the garden centre, its chances of survival are so slim.
And as for grow your own - I've successfully brought up three kids but it seems I don't have what it takes to nurture a single tomato to fruition. Sigh...

Same gardening....everyone says how wonderful it is but I actively hate it. I only get joy in sitting in the garden in the sun. Grass, patio, stones none of it bring me joy and needs so much continual maintenance.

User0000009 · 10/10/2023 09:16

Olives.

RedPony1 · 10/10/2023 09:29

Cooking. i HATE it.

Relaxing. I also hate it.

Purplefriends · 10/10/2023 09:30

My husband

Kangaroobrain · 10/10/2023 09:37

Purplefriends · 10/10/2023 09:30

My husband

😂

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MrsB74 · 10/10/2023 15:19

dizzzydeee · 10/10/2023 00:48

Garlic and seafood, baking, food shopping, beach holidays,

You’ve just described my favourite day!

For me it’s mornings (I just cannot function properly until at least 9) and exercise - I do it, but don’t get that buzz that others seem to get. I also hate board games, but tolerate for the dc.

tillytoodles1 · 10/10/2023 15:26

Cinnamon. I hate it and it's in so many things now.

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 10/10/2023 15:29

Exercise, definitely. I don't hate it, but I don't like it enough to prioritise it when I'm busy.

KimberleyClark · 10/10/2023 15:30

Fish and seafood. Most of it just looks and smells revolting to me. I can eat smoked salmon, and haddock in a fishcake but that's it.Cod literally makes me sick.

BodegaSushi · 10/10/2023 15:34

The heat.

sockarefootwear · 10/10/2023 16:02

Exercise- I try to force myself to do it, because I know how important it is for my health but I have tried all sorts and not found anything that a) I enjoy or b) I am not absolutely terrible at. I know lots of people who say they get an incredible high and/or sense of achievement but the best I can manage is not hating EVERY minute.

Baths- I love the idea of an hour or so in the evening soaking in a long hot bubble bath, perhaps with a nice scented candle or maybe a book. I would then emerge feeling relaxed and clean and wrapping myself in a lovely fluffy towel/robe ready to go to bed all warm. relaxed and cosy. In reality the bath is always either so hot that I feel sweaty and stifled or goes cold within a few minutes. If I get my hair wet, I then feel like I need to have a shower to wash it after my bath but if I try to keep it dry (even in a shower cap) I end up with frizzy, sweaty hair. I can't read without glasses, which steam up in a hot bath so reading a book is out of the question unless the bath is too cold and I am yet to find a scented candle that doesn't make me feel slightly queezy.

Big Xmas/birthday get-togethers- Love the idea of being part of a big group of family and friends who all gather together for special occasions. In reality the only experiences I have of attempting this have been horrendous, with arguments and complaints/passive aggressive comments at all stages and invariably some sort of falling out on the day.

Loverofoxbowlakes · 10/10/2023 16:22

Coffee and olives. Feel like I'm failing as an adult because I can't stand them, yet I'm told relentlessly how much I'm missing out. Starbucks menus terrify me and waiters swear under their breaths as I refuse the teeny green nibbles.

Routine - I'd love a housework routine. Meal prep routine. God knows I need one. But I just can't do it. Everything is just so OVERWHELMING - i know the benefit, I see the benefit but I can't stick to it for more than a week.

forgotname · 10/10/2023 16:23

Films + porridge

PerspiringElizabeth · 10/10/2023 16:23

Relaxing/doing nothing. Makes me anxious!

Johnisafckface · 10/10/2023 16:24

Cleaning
People/Socializing/Living with other people
Doing errands
Driving long distance
Eating healthy

nanodyne · 10/10/2023 16:27

Beer - I really feel like I'm missing out from the way people rhapsodise about craft beer, but I just can't stand the stuff it all tastes like earwax to me. It'd be lovely to have a cheaper and less alcoholic option than a glass of wine, but I just can't bear it.

Gardening - I would so love my little garden to be well curated with fruit and vegetables growing, but the idea of rooting around in the dirt and the chance of accidentally touching a slug makes me gag.

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 10/10/2023 16:31

Cheese. It's in everything and I don't like it!

KickingEAP · 10/10/2023 16:33

Exercise. I've just rejoined the gym though. Perhaps as I get fitter it'll get more enjoyable?

CrapBucket · 10/10/2023 16:35

Mango
Gardening
Mornings

PTSDBarbiegirl · 10/10/2023 16:35

Socialising. I have been masking my whole life. People think I'm outgoing but all I want to do is be at home where I feel safe. I don't even answer the phone or door at home and love it.

Justrolledmyeyesoutloud · 10/10/2023 16:36

Cooking.
Such a relentless chore.