AIBU to think a Tiffany heart tag necklace will be loved by a 12 year old ?

[Gobbledeygook]

My DH is quite unwell, worryingly so. He wants to get a personal gift for our 12 year old girl as a life-long momento for her from him. He asked for my advice and I have suggested one of the iconic Tiffany heart tag necklaces, which can be personalised on the reverse. Is this the kind of thing a 12 year old would like do you think ?

Yes but I would get her to keep it somewhere safe until she is older as she is unlikely to understand the value of it and might lose it now

Yea, and she'll appreciate it now. DD has had a bracelet since aged 6 and has never done anything daft with it.

Beautiful gift she will love it

Yes my 12 year old DD got one as a christening present and I've kept it safe for her until a month or so ago and she loves it!

My dd got one in NY age about 13 she still wears it 13 years later. Be warned the chains are shit and break easily, DD upgraded hers to another chain.

It's lovely, the chains on tiffany items are usually very flimsy and weak- I'd recommend an alternative tbh having owned Tiffany jewellery.

A necklace with his birthstone, or with an engraved message from him on the back maybe. Etsy have some good solid silver options.

I'm so sorry you're in this situation x

What a lovely idea OP. Good advice here too about keeping it safe for her and possibly having another chain ready. Very sorry to hear about your situation though 💐

I think it's a lovely idea.
Echo that the Tiff chains are a weak point. If he wants something customised maybe try Stephen Einhorn?
Ive had my S.E chain that my mum got me for my 18th for 27 years now and it's as solid as the day I got it. Wear it most days.

Would he have the money to get a spare too, just in case in got lost ever? It will become such a precious item to her it might be reassuring to have a second that he'd also bought and touched in safe keeping for her.

I came in here ready to say YABU from the title because 12-year-olds are individuals with their own preferences so some would love it and some really wouldn't.

However, reading the context, the important thing is that it's from your DH. That will make it special and meaningful regardless of whether the necklace in isolation is something your DD would pick out. So for that, YANBU.

I wish your DH all the best.

Absolutely - She will love it. x

alternatively? with both their names on and more delicate.

https://www.tiffany.co.uk/jewelry/necklaces-pendants/return-to-tiffany-mini-double-heart-tag-pendant-22309307/

Sad to hear your husband is so unwell @Gobbledeygook 💐

I'm not sure about the Tiffany one as it's a bit of a 'trend' item in my mind like Pandora bracelets. I would go for a beautiful locket, engraved with a message from him and she can put a photo of them together in there. We recently lost a family member and this is what we have bought for our daughter to remember them by. Sorry to hear your husband is so unwell.

My dd was given a bracelet about that age
Never worn it- not her taste- have no idea where is even is now (she is 28!)

Beautiful. Alternative as a PP has said, pandora. Could get a bracelet engraved with a message in his handwriting

I think it’s lovely. Although as others have suggested I’d do the Pandora bracelet but I’m just biased cuz I love the charms.

I would have personally hated it, but then im not fan of jewellry at all. What do you think your daughter would love?

If it’s to be a lifelong remembrance, will she like it as an adult too?

It’s the thought that matters and it’s a lovely one. Hope your dh is ok op x

I'm going to go against he consensus here - they are not on trend at all, DTs are 12 and wouldn't wear Tiffany. I'd go for something much more discreet that she can wear as an adult as well. have a look at Monica Vinader or maybe Abott Lyon if you wanted something personalised.

We brought one for our daughter on her 16th birthday, best money we’ve spent as she wears it almost every day - and absolutely adores it. She’ll be 21 in May and we’re going to get her something else from Tiffany’s.

Maybe manufacturing has changed but my Tiffany tag necklace has been worn daily for years and has survived a few babies and toddlers pulling at it without any hint of damage.

I'm also going to go against the consensus here OP and say that the idea and thought is WONDERFUL but I have 3 nieces ranging 10-14 and none of them would where Tiffany as see it as tacky. I've also not seen anyone over 15ish wearing one.

So if it's to be a lifelong gift which is a beautiful idea I'd go against anything that is 'in trend' and therefore has a lifeline. Monica Vinader is a great suggestion as PP mentioned

Posh Totty also do some gorgeous engraved necklaces

I think my DD would like it but lose it within a week.