AIBU to think a Tiffany heart tag necklace will be loved by a 12 year old ?

[Gobbledeygook]

My DH is quite unwell, worryingly so. He wants to get a personal gift for our 12 year old girl as a life-long momento for her from him. He asked for my advice and I have suggested one of the iconic Tiffany heart tag necklaces, which can be personalised on the reverse. Is this the kind of thing a 12 year old would like do you think ?

Georg Jensen jewellery is amazing and timeless

I second this

It’s a lovely idea. Although as others have said that particular pendant is very love it or hate it.

What about the Infinity Pendant here..

With a card saying that his love for her is infinite. I think the sentiment of that could be lovely and possibly something a bit safer style wise.

Yes assuming she's not a big tomboy - I assume you know her taste enough to know if she would wear a heart or not though 😊

If you wanted another idea, I've seen beautiful necklaces on Etsy etc where you can have two birthstones so you could get something with his and hers. Just an idea and likely to be a lot cheaper than Tiffany if you want it to be (and you can pick metal type, chain length, size etc)

I am so sorry to hear the reason why you want to give this gift. It is lovely, classic and beautiful and I think she will cherish it.

This type of thing, if it helps:

www.etsy.com/uk/listing/1001584486/

Or you could do it in a ring/bracelet instead

I don't think most teens would want one now.

I'd honestly say who knows with a 12 year old. However even if it isn't her favourite thing now she will be thankful and absolutely treasure it when older. I'm very sorry to hear about your DH

I think a necklace is better than a bracelet because if she likes it she's more likely to wear it every day all the time. Depending on what job she goes into there are loads of jobs where a bracelet is major impractical hindrance.

I agree with @BarbDwyerHair about getting a back up/second one for your daughter @Gobbledeygook if you can afford it. A loss of a treasured item can be devastating. Make sure that your DH has held/touched/handled the back up too if as your post suggests this could be an issue in future ...best wishes to you and your family.

Maybe they could choose something together if possible so she loves it and can look back on the time that they picked it out? You would know for certain then that she likes how it looks and also would have that special connection with her Dad. Even if DH can't go out to the shops they could sit together and look online? I think it's a lovely idea OP, I'm so sorry that you are going through this.

It’s what you think your child will want. Some people love Tiffany’s and some don’t. Ignore strangers on the internet saying it’s tacky, it’s personal preference.

Why don’t you ask her what she thinks in passing? Even if she doesn’t like it as much when older she will always remember the kindness it was given to her. If your DH gets better it will be worn with happiness even more. If you are able to go into the store to collect it with her, she will feel very special.

In a way whatever you get her will be more important to her now, as this will be likely to be when she is feeling most vulnerable. Some of the suggestions provided I think are just too adult, and will be seen as ‘boring’ until in mid-30s, and fashion will have changed by then! Personally, I think Monica Viander is more costume jewellery. But each to their own.

I like the idea of buying two too. But don’t tell her you have another, as I suspect she will be naturally careless!

So buy what you and your husband like, and what you think your daughter will treasure.

Wishing you all the best xxx

I’ve had a bracelet for 20 years and I wear it as much today as the day I was given it.

I wish your family lots of love at this difficult time. X

I think it's lovely. It's classic and timeless. My 14 year old said she would definitely wear one. She said having it engraved on the back, would make it really special.

Both DD have these from boyfriends- I think they’ll go out of fashion and shoved in a drawer.

Find a one off on an individual Jewellery makers web page - so do resin pendants with finger prints -or a lock of hair etc - or engraved photos.

I think you can do bette. Sorry it’s a sad situation.

I've never had any issues with my Tiffany chains.
But DP bought me a lovely bangle from The Royal Mint, and it's something different that loads of other people don't have, and are much more well made.

Agree with most, lovely sentiment but get proper jewellery from an independent, some really timeless lockets upthread, not Tiffany's.

I’m sure she’ll love it. I have a silver pendant with my mum’s fingerprint etched on it. She died a number of years ago and it will always be my most treasured possession.

I would think her dad would like to see her wearing it. It can be replaced if needed 🤷‍♀️

I had one and it ended up in a drawer eventually, although I did like it at the time. I have a heart shaped necklace similar to the Tiffany necklace with my DDs handprint etched on one side and mine and my DH handprints on the other. It’s my favourite necklace now.

My mum has one with her mums handwriting etched onto it saying “love always, mum”.

Tiffany is a timeless brand, though their lower cost branded items may be considered 'tacky' as they're so very popular and they do tend to suggest that's all you could afford from Tiffany (which is the case for almost everyone!) How about unbranded like her or his initial Elsa Peretti® letter pendant. Sterling silver, small. Letters A-Z available. | Tiffany & Co. ? I think they're a bit more subtle... I definitely definitely would not go for Pandora, MV etc!! Alternatively, a locket really is a classic and very appropriate in this sort of circumstance - and if it's unbranded you should be able to find better quality for the same price as you're paying for Tiffany.

They're not like Pandora bracelets and are not a 'trend' item - they've been selling the Return To Tiffany's heart tags since the 1960s and they're pretty classic really. I have a RTT bracelet that DP bought me 20 years ago.

I think it’s a lovely idea.

My great aunt gave me a heart shaped locket when I was 7 and I still wear it almost daily 30 odd years later

It’s a lovely thought, and if jewelry is something she likes, then it’s pretty ideal. Classic, high quality, etc. and with personalization will become a treasured piece.

But is she the sort to like jewelry? Because if not, it might make her wonder how much her Dad knows her. (Which was my own reaction when my Dad bought me jewelry at roughly the same age).

I’m sorry you have to plan this.

i have a personalised piece from this designer that I have had for years that I go back to because of the thought behind it and I love the design-
https://www.fluidity-design.co.uk/fingerprint-jewellery-1

mine has a classic feel to me

I think it’s a lovely gift.

Something that just sprang to mind, when the children were young we bought DH cuff links with one of their finger prints on each one. I just looked at the company we used and saw they do finger print necklaces. I just thought that might be a very personal memory. They are called serendipity diamonds, we were very happy with them, but I have no connection with them and I’m sure other companies are available that do similar.