AIBU to think a Tiffany heart tag necklace will be loved by a 12 year old ?

[Gobbledeygook]

My DH is quite unwell, worryingly so. He wants to get a personal gift for our 12 year old girl as a life-long momento for her from him. He asked for my advice and I have suggested one of the iconic Tiffany heart tag necklaces, which can be personalised on the reverse. Is this the kind of thing a 12 year old would like do you think ?

When DH died my eldest bought her sister a Pandora bracelet with charms for Dad and DH's initials.

DD loved it so much that she had to buy DD1 a sister charm for her bracelet. And so began the infinite circle of charm gifting...

A Tiffany necklace is also a nice idea. You know your DD best.

Whatever he gets, he should buy 2 of the same and let you keep one safely for your DD, just in case something happens to the one your DD has.

If she never loses it, you can give.it to her when she turns 25 or something.

Sorry your DH is so unwell. She would absolutely love a Tiffany I’m sure.

when I read your post my mind went to the Chupi North Star range.. a reminder of him as her guiding star. Chupi North Star

I’m so sorry you’re all coping with such a difficult situation. I have a very sick 2 year old and my husband got me a personalised necklace with a sentimental pendant, it’s from Haverhill: https://haverhill.com/ Their jewellery is a little more discreet than the obvious Tiffany branding, if you’re thinking of something she’ll want to wear (and not just own) into adulthood

I think he could give her a bottle cap and she would keep it forever, OP. I think the necklace is lovely and something she will cherish forever.

It's a timeless, perfect present.

I have a Tiffany Elsa Perretti heart I was given for my 18th birthday which I still wear regularly, some 40 years on.

I don’t think a 12 year old me would have known the significance of Tiffany ans would have lost it, given it away, allowed it to break.

An older me wouldn’t have wanted to wear something so easily faked or ubiquitous. I would keep the money till she is older and more able to chose her taste.

Sorry OP. And sorry for your difficult time.

Tiffany is fine but that one is naff. It looks like army dog tags.

They do some beautiful other necklaces. The Elsa Peretti open heart is nicer.

Tiffany is fine but that one is naff. It looks like army dog tags.

They do some beautiful other necklaces. The Elsa Peretti open heart is nicer.

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I would have personally hated it, but then im not fan of jewellry at all. What do you think your daughter would love?
Would you have carried on hating it knowing the sentiment behind it?

My dad died when I was a teen. I had a locket with his photo which I never wore because it just felt frumpy. I had a ring he bought me resized recently for my little finger (it was a signature ring) (I'm 50!). I really would have loved something pretty to wear from him. Back then there was no social media, no real memory box stuff etc so I clung to an old coat, some nice newspaper clippings (he was well known somewhere, not the death notices), and a birthday card he gave me.
Dd has a Tiffany heart and is 25 now, she likes it and wears it, I think amongst her peers it's a 'nice thing' not wow or wacky but classic.

So sorry to hear about your husband OP. Yes I agree, that's lovely x

I 100% agree. Lovely lovely sentiment but wouldn't buy Tiffany for many reasons

I received one as a Batmizvah present so I was 12 too. I didn't know of the brand at the time but my mum reassured me that it was fancy and something to treasure😅I definitely appreciated it a couple of years later. I don't wear it much now as an adult because I prefer gold jewellery but I still have it and I am sure it will get more use from myself or a future daughter.

Lovely idea to get her something, but make it something unique rather than a popular branded thing everyone has.

I'm going to go against he consensus here - they are not on trend at all, DTs are 12 and wouldn't wear Tiffany
The point if this particular gift is not about ' being on trend' though and she doesn't have to wear it now.
It would be special because it is something her dad wanted to get her as a reminder if him.

So sorry to hear @Gobbledeygook

If finanically ok to do so, I'd consider suggesting your DH chooses a second alternative one that you can keep safe with a note.

Even the most careful adult can lose jewellery by accident and I imagine it would be devastating if this happened

I’ve got the return to Tiffany choker. I’ve had it ten years and I wear it a lot.

Check out www.capturedkeepsakes.Co.uk

Sarah makes amazing jewellery that is heirloom quality and can be personalised with finger / hand prints. And she engraves too.

She is an amazing jeweller and she is also a master body caster.

Drop her a line to see what she can make that’s tuly special.

Shes made a gorgeous ring for me as a gift and I can’t wait to order something for myself.

A personalised necklace is a lovely idea, I’d go for one that’s not obviously branded as things certain brands go out of fashion, that way she can wear it as an adult.

I hope your DH is ok.

She will love it regardless and treasure it as it’s from her Dad. I have lots of Tiffany’s pieces over the last 10 years and they’ve all been great quality and I still wear them. They’re not trend pieces or tacky at all.

I think personalised/ engraved jewellery is a lovely idea. I’d probably go for something plainer than Tiffany though, it’s just a very specific taste?

I hope your DH is around to see her wearing whatever you decide for many many happy years to come x

My 19yr old wears hers all the time. It’s engraved with a message from me on the back and I know she loves it.

I think it’s a lovely idea and she’d really appreciate it

My husband passed away in 2017 when my daughter was 13 we purchased a bracelet for her & our nieces (his sister's children) for the Christmas present before he died. We chose adult ones deliberately, as we wanted them to still want to wear them when they were older.
My daughter also wears his wedding ring on a chain - this is more important to her & she actually had special permission to be able to wear it at school