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A woman is a woman

734 replies

EmotionSickness · 06/10/2023 07:29

For those who have been following the Tory conference and general themes of their speeches…

How do you feel about Sunak’s speech?

I know there has been a lot of discussion on here from those who didn’t want to vote for a party that didn’t know the definition of a woman.

Rishi has stated clearly that “a woman is a woman and a man is a man.” While I’d argue that still isn’t a definition, per se, he is appeasing this way of thinking.

So I’m just wondering. Is this enough for you to vote Tory at the next election?

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Nagado · 06/10/2023 08:27

hannahwaddinghamsbiceps · 06/10/2023 07:35

I've never voted Tory in my life. I work for the NHS.
However understanding what a woman is seems to be beyond the parties I would normally vote for.
How can the rights of a group be protected if the group being protected can't be defined correctly?
I am politically homeless.

I’m exactly the same (although I don’t work for the NHS, it’s in my top three priorities). I absolutely cannot vote for a party who clearly want to destroy it, even putting all the other reasons not to vote for them to one side. But, as a woman, I also cannot vote for a party that doesn’t recognise biology and is willing to dismantle my sex based rights.

I think that the Tories will still win the next election.

LozengeShaped · 06/10/2023 08:28

I feel this question is posed
a) to publicise what Sunak said, in case anyone missed it, and
b) to create a cheap focus group for Sunak's advisors...

Shodan · 06/10/2023 08:28

I'm not a 'Tory voter', although I have voted for them in the past. I've voted Labour, Green party and LibDem over the years as well, depending on what I considered to be most suitable for my needs at the time.

Generally I consider all politicians and political parties to be scummy liars, full of empty promises and ridiculous agendas, as my starting point, and go from there. But claiming that men can be women and vice versa is a scummy lie too far. Who can have even a tiny bit of respect for a party/politician who spouts such stupidities?

If voting were based on this one issue, I'd vote Tory for sure. As it is though, I suspect I'll end up spoiling my ballot.

Ramblingnamechanger · 06/10/2023 08:28

Would never vote Tory. But would never vote for a Labour MP who thinks it is absolutely fine for males to be in Women’s prisons, and who refuses to engage .

Gerrataere · 06/10/2023 08:29

I’m considering it. I hate admitting it but I very likely won’t vote Labour, certainly not Lib Dems or Green. If I still lived in Wales I’d happily tell the PC candidates where they could stick their vote - they completely lost the plot. I will be having a good look at Indy candidates when the time comes or I may abstain. I will wait until I see all candidates mandates but the reality of choice is either Tory or Labour and I currently think both parties are atrocious but at least Conservatives are openly atrocious.

I can’t say our local Tory MP has done a bad job, and it is important to trust who’s representing you locally not just the numpties in No 10.

LizzieSiddal · 06/10/2023 08:29

And no I’d never vote Tory, but in a million years.

ElleCapitaine · 06/10/2023 08:30

Oh for heavens sake, the NHS is in meltdown, schools are stretched beyond coping, there’s raw sewage in our waters, we are living through the biggest cost of living crisis since WW2, and we are being shat upon from a great height by a corrupt government. I couldn’t give a flying fuck if a man wants to wear a dress and call himself Brenda. The gender issue is a sideshow in politics, not the main event. Something needs to change.

LadyWithLapdog · 06/10/2023 08:30

No, not voting Tory.

For those who don’t read the DM, although it was reported in the Telegraph and the Herald as well

A woman is a woman
LizzieSiddal · 06/10/2023 08:30

LozengeShaped · 06/10/2023 08:28

I feel this question is posed
a) to publicise what Sunak said, in case anyone missed it, and
b) to create a cheap focus group for Sunak's advisors...

I had the same thought. Hope they get the message from Mn that whatever he says, people detest him and his party.

EasternStandard · 06/10/2023 08:30

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:26

Oh yeah, he's a transphobic wanker, that will make me change my mind and vote for all of his elitist privileged policies!

Betting mnhq won’t move this thread. About right for AIBU

Anything pro women gets shunted off

Dulra · 06/10/2023 08:30

These are just words and as the saying goes actions speak louder than words. The Tories are no friend to women, women are less safe now than ever, DV is on the increase, women and children are suffering the most when it comes to the cost of living crisis and poverty, childcare a mess and unaffordable and unavailable. Tory policies have not benefitted women in any shape or form. By standing up and saying a woman is a woman is basic stuff and meaningless if you do not put women front and centre or your policies. To me it is similar to pro choice people who are all about protecting the unborn child but the minute the child is born they could not care less about it.

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:32

EasternStandard · 06/10/2023 08:30

Betting mnhq won’t move this thread. About right for AIBU

Anything pro women gets shunted off

I am pro-woman, but I hate the fact that the level of transphobia on MN is ignored and allowed to continue. It's obscene.

Greenberg2 · 06/10/2023 08:33

MidnightOnceMore · 06/10/2023 07:55

The speech was a remarkable low point in this Tory government's deliberate destruction of the country.

Sunak is about to shaft the entire north of England - and therefore the whole country, because we all need economic growth - for short term political reasons and he threw in that line about women because it is an easy way to get a big round of applause. He didn't actually have any meaningful policies that would benefit women.

The important thing about that speech was it was so devoid of any announcement of value. Nothing on cost of living, nothing on the NHS, no investment in education (the A levels thing is just air), nothing on environment, nothing of substance on crime...

Sunak is going to rip up HS2 and is pretending he will build other schemes - but these are just empty words. He's going to sell off the HS2 land so NO future goverment can ever build an upgrade on that land - that is such a short term act of vandalism and shows his contempt for the entire north.

Sunak = short term decisions for a shitter future.

All of this. This is the Tories in a nutshell: selling off people's futures for some short term tax benefits: Brexit, tax cuts, HS2, selling off council homes, selling off public utilities. It's all absolute shit and costs us massively in the long term. But the media, who are largely owned by foreign based oligarchs keep telling us they're safer for the economy. And people actually fall for this rubbish because someone puts a slogan on a bus or reads something on FB about Keir Starmer. Unbelievable.

TeenDivided · 06/10/2023 08:34

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:32

I am pro-woman, but I hate the fact that the level of transphobia on MN is ignored and allowed to continue. It's obscene.

@SeptemberSuns If you see transphobia then report it and MN will delete it.

Disagreeing with a statement such as TWAW is not transphobia. GC beliefs are protected in law and part of that protection is about being allowed to state those beliefs and the implications that come from them.

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2023 08:35

No one GC cares if a man puts on a dress and calls himself Brenda either. More power to men who break gender stereotypes!

however Brenda is not a woman and doesn’t belong in women’s spaces. We don’t want Brenda in our changing rooms, sports, prisons, refuges, menopause groups, rape support groups, programmes to improved women’s representation in STEM or advising the RC Obs & gyn on maternity policy as a lived experience representative. That’s the issue, not whether ‘Brenda’ wears a sodding dress. As it stands though Labour & Lib Dem’s would say that Brenda IS a woman if they say they are and is entitled to do all those things

I can’t believe this still has to be spelt out

Gerrataere · 06/10/2023 08:35

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:32

I am pro-woman, but I hate the fact that the level of transphobia on MN is ignored and allowed to continue. It's obscene.

What would you consider to be transphobia that hasn’t been removed? I would hope any actual abuse directed to or about trans people is removed. Unfortunately many people are conflicting actual transphobia with ‘but I don’t like that opinion because you don’t believe trans women are actual women’. I’m sure you didn’t mean that though.

countrygirl99 · 06/10/2023 08:36

I agree with some of the policies of all.the parties and all of the policies of none of the parties. Ver the years Ive voted for 3 different parties. I'll vote where I think the best balance lies and at the moment that's Labour as many Conservative pronouncements leave me horrified.

Xol · 06/10/2023 08:38

ElleCapitaine · 06/10/2023 08:30

Oh for heavens sake, the NHS is in meltdown, schools are stretched beyond coping, there’s raw sewage in our waters, we are living through the biggest cost of living crisis since WW2, and we are being shat upon from a great height by a corrupt government. I couldn’t give a flying fuck if a man wants to wear a dress and call himself Brenda. The gender issue is a sideshow in politics, not the main event. Something needs to change.

This. Sunak coming out with a meaningless soundbite is going to make zero difference to my voting intention.

EasternStandard · 06/10/2023 08:38

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:32

I am pro-woman, but I hate the fact that the level of transphobia on MN is ignored and allowed to continue. It's obscene.

What are you including as transphobic?

Do you mean single sex spaces (based on sex not gender) as that’s usually what pro women posters want

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:40

@EasternStandard - no of course I don't mean single sex spaces - I mean the outright transphobia on here. It's never very far away.

Having an opinion on something is one thing, but would you say, "I don't like black people" on here and expect not to be called a racist?

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2023 08:41

Report the transphobia, it’ll be deleted

ClairDeLaLune · 06/10/2023 08:42

Not in a million years.

Also - “a woman is a woman” is meaningless without defining what a woman is. A sub-atomic particle is a sub-atomic particle but that doesn’t help me understand what one is.

Sunak would say any fucking thing at the moment to try and get votes. So fucking transparent. Cunt.

EasternStandard · 06/10/2023 08:42

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:40

@EasternStandard - no of course I don't mean single sex spaces - I mean the outright transphobia on here. It's never very far away.

Having an opinion on something is one thing, but would you say, "I don't like black people" on here and expect not to be called a racist?

I can’t say I’ve seen the equivalent ‘I don’t like trans people’

But if you do report mnhq will delete it

Shodan · 06/10/2023 08:43

Theeyeballsinthesky · 06/10/2023 08:35

No one GC cares if a man puts on a dress and calls himself Brenda either. More power to men who break gender stereotypes!

however Brenda is not a woman and doesn’t belong in women’s spaces. We don’t want Brenda in our changing rooms, sports, prisons, refuges, menopause groups, rape support groups, programmes to improved women’s representation in STEM or advising the RC Obs & gyn on maternity policy as a lived experience representative. That’s the issue, not whether ‘Brenda’ wears a sodding dress. As it stands though Labour & Lib Dem’s would say that Brenda IS a woman if they say they are and is entitled to do all those things

I can’t believe this still has to be spelt out

Edited

This with bells and whistles on.

It is not 'transphobic' to assert facts. Neither is it 'transphobic' to want to keep women's spaces safe and for women only.

Utterly tedious that it still has to be repeated.

SeptemberSuns · 06/10/2023 08:46

Yep utterly tedious, ill-informed, transphobic attitudes. Go back to the 1950s where you could live your best racist, misogynistic, homophobic lives too.

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