To think this message is patronising or off in some way

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I’m just wondering what others think as I don’t really like the tone of it but not sure if I’m over thinking it. It’s from someone who I’ve been seeing but I’ve been busy recently, single mum, work and my daughters just started school so not had as much time. What do you think? Also he knows I can’t have come to his this morning as I already told him I work Thursdays. Thank you

With your child starting school you are right to put your child first.

It looks like captain bugger-nuts lacks the maturity to understand your child needs you right now so he needs to be told to either:-

Be patient......or to take a long walk off a short pier.

You told him you were working and he is feeling sorry for himself. Sounds very childish & needy. I couldn't be doing with this or his texting style. He sounds annoying.

My vagina slammed shut at "chick" and then cemented over reading the rest of it.

I'd say it's pass agg emotional blackmail rather than patronising.

He's winging that you're not making the effort chasing him.

Tell him to fuck off.

Also, first time I've ever seen a man call a woman chick in a text. Cringe.

Chuck him for being an illiterate, self-centered twat.

He feels you aren't interested and would make more effort if you were, which tbh you probably would.

As for "chick" nothing to get worked up about, very commonly used, and as for people slating is grammar etc - I'm pretty sure he thought he was sending a text to the Op, not thinking MN was going to be scrutinising him!

Can barely make sense of that so that’s an immediate no, let alone the tone. Life is too short to decipher this shit.

Screams bootie call to me

'Chick'?

I don't think he's being honest. I think if you replied and said yeah you're right I don't think I'm interested he's due of shock. He's only saying that to manipulate you.

Manipulative bellend vibes.

That’s a guilt trip. I don’t like guilt trips. I’d bin him off for that text alone.

Well anyone who called me “chick” would dropped like a hot turd, before I’d even read the rest of the pathetic needy message.

I feel this is passive-aggressive, only the aggression is very well hidden. It's literally saying "I don't feel you're paying me any attention, and I want to seem like I am cool with that on the surface, but underneath I'm pissed off and determined to make you feel guilty about it". Manipulative AF.

He sounds tragic and manipulative OP - it's designed to have you overcompensating to 'make it up to him' - "a man can feel these things" - vom.

I wouldn't date anyone that spoke this way, or tried to tell me what I would or should have done better to appease their own emotional problems. I'd just block him and move on, if you really have to reply I'd only really confirm that I'd prefer not to be contacted again.

its a little worrying that you even have to ask, I hope you don’t meet any more passive aggressive manipulative losers like this whiny selfish arsehole.

Definitely seems off to me. My DH (a lovely caring man) wouldn't dream of taking that tone with someone. It's patronising.

He's being a pathetic man baby and he can't even write properly. Get rid.

No truer words were ever spoken

Needy fucker. Bin!

"A man can feel these things" 🤣🤣🤣

Yeah, alright dickhead, course they can 🤮🤮

Oh he’d have been binned at “chick” urgh!
I though hun was patronising enough, but chick makes me want to gag!
boy bye!

Did I post under a different username drunk? Because this is word-for-word what I think.

That can be regional, and have a different context.