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I don't know how anyone could find life interesting

127 replies

Worriedsister223 · 03/10/2023 16:41

Life's such a boring journey. Working all the time just to cover the bills and if youre lucky get a week holiday a year to somewhere with slightly better weather. every day is basically the same. Get up, work, go home and sleep. Yes you can have hobbies and I do but again, same thing each week. What's the point really? Year in year out celebrating the same occasions. Don't want kids, can't even get into in this post just how dull I find them. Having to go to a playgroup Sounds like my idea of hell. I just kind of wonder what is the point to all of this and kind of dread having to do it every day for the next 50 years because it's just so boring and repetitive.

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Lammveg · 03/10/2023 16:42

Hmmm. Have you always felt like this?

Dominoeffecter · 03/10/2023 16:43

Are you ok? You sound depressed 💐

Boundoverbyacat · 03/10/2023 16:43

Without meaning to be rude it sounds like you might be the boring bit in this equation.

What do you want to do with your life?

Why do you think there needs to be a point to life?

CharlotteRumpling · 03/10/2023 16:44

Where do you live?

TimeForTeaAndG · 03/10/2023 16:45

I guess it depends on your outlook. If you view everything negatively "what's the point...dull...dread...repetitive" then of course life feels like it sucks.

If you're only just covering bills and scraping together for a week's holiday that's never going to enable you to actually enjoy life.

Is this just the way you always see things or is it age/mental health related?

hydriotaphia · 03/10/2023 16:46

I think you should visit a GP and discuss these feelings. You sound a little depressed. Hope you're ok. On a practical note you might try calling up a friend for a catch up, going for a walk somewhere beautiful, going to an exercise class...

HongKongGarden · 03/10/2023 16:47

Then don’t have children, and do something interesting instead.

Become a ski instructor, or a competitive free diver. Study artificial intelligence and design autonomous weaponised drones.

Cross the Sahara on a motorbike, move to Tokyo and work in a hostess bar, or to Argentina to work in a vineyard.

Isseywith3witchycats · 03/10/2023 16:47

My OH and i are in our 60s and life is far from boring i still work part time and my job is different each day, we are bikers so go all sorts of places on the bike, we go to live gigs, the theatre, out for meals, go somewhere different for our holidays each year, if you dont go out and grab life it aint gonna grab you back

Superduper02 · 03/10/2023 16:48

I feel like this some days. Work full time. Bills and nursery fees are high. No ability to reduce hours right now. Winter coming. No time for myself or fun stuff I used to enjoy. All feels a bit bleak. However, my DH and I are making plans to overhaul things in a couple of years which gives hope. Cam you make a 3 year plan to reduce the drudgery? And add some fun in the meantime?

CharlotteRumpling · 03/10/2023 16:49

The thing is, as a British person ( I assume), you have one of the most powerful passports in the world. You could move somewhere exciting, as pp suggested. A privilege that other passport holders do not have.

CancertheCrab · 03/10/2023 16:49

sounds like you need to come up with an ambition.

Why don't you train for and run a marathon, plan to raise a thousand pounds for wateraid, get a new qualification, decide what is the most beautiful sight in the world and plan how to get to see it?

Anything really

BibbleandSqwauk · 03/10/2023 16:50

Leaving aside depression issues, are you really saying out of all the hundreds of hobbies, activities, topics of conversation, way to occupy yourself that ALL of them are boring? If you have no kids, what's stopping you retraining in a job you would enjoy?
I'm far from Pollyanna but I love my teaching job and get huge pleasure from reading, watching films, seeing friends. Nothing crazy, probably quite boring to many but I enjoy it.

Dominoeffecter · 03/10/2023 16:50

HongKongGarden · 03/10/2023 16:47

Then don’t have children, and do something interesting instead.

Become a ski instructor, or a competitive free diver. Study artificial intelligence and design autonomous weaponised drones.

Cross the Sahara on a motorbike, move to Tokyo and work in a hostess bar, or to Argentina to work in a vineyard.

Now I want to do all those things 🌞

ilovesooty · 03/10/2023 16:51

Has there never been anything you found interesting?

PaminaMozart · 03/10/2023 16:51

You may want to invest in some counselling sessions to explore why you feel this way - and hopefully find a way to a brighter future.

EvilElsa · 03/10/2023 16:52

Life is wonderful. My friend who died of cancer at 43 a few months ago would have given anything to have even a few more years of day to day life. Every boring little bit of it.
I agree with others that you sound like you could be depressed.

Clarevoyant1 · 03/10/2023 16:52

It must be really hard to feel this way, I’m so sorry. Have you always felt that way or is it new feeling? Is there a chance it may be something like depression?

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Worriedsister223 · 03/10/2023 16:52

HongKongGarden · 03/10/2023 16:47

Then don’t have children, and do something interesting instead.

Become a ski instructor, or a competitive free diver. Study artificial intelligence and design autonomous weaponised drones.

Cross the Sahara on a motorbike, move to Tokyo and work in a hostess bar, or to Argentina to work in a vineyard.

I kind of feel like youre making fun of me here, I'm not sure if you are.
I can't just move abroad tomorrow, I have a job and a mortgage.

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Whenwillglorioussummercome · 03/10/2023 16:52

You do sound very depressed. How long have you felt like this?

I find joy in little things. Small excitements ahead and moments of happiness. I have learned that expecting life to be Just Fabulous will almost always be a disappointment. Today I had some really nice leftovers for lunch, achieved a task I was feeling guilty about neglecting, and I’m going out singing tonight. Also I have finally managed to find someone to give us a quote on a household job. None of that would make the papers but it adds up to something. I think you need to keep it small picture to avoid existential angst.

itsaquarterafterone · 03/10/2023 16:53

How old are you OP?

Justforlaughs66 · 03/10/2023 16:54

You're stuck In a rut that's all.

MariePaperRoses · 03/10/2023 16:54

That's your life that you find boring.
My life is nothing like a that and others will feel the same as you, worse than you or the same as me.

I've never been bored. My mother used to say, "Only biting people get bored"! and she is right!

MrsBennetsPoorNerves · 03/10/2023 16:54

It sounds like you need to find a purpose that's bigger than yourself in some way. Is there some sort of voluntary work that you can get involved in? An issue that you might want to campaign on? An individual who would benefit from your help?

I think life would be incredibly boring if it was all about me. Finding a focus outside of yourself changes that entirely. Some people find that focus in their work. Some find it in their kids. Some find it in voluntary work. Some find it in religion etc. Some find it in their local community. Some find it in a whole mix of stuff. It doesn't matter, but you need to look beyond yourself imo, otherwise it will inevitably start to feel pointless in the end.

Eyesopenwideawake · 03/10/2023 16:54

CharlotteRumpling · 03/10/2023 16:49

The thing is, as a British person ( I assume), you have one of the most powerful passports in the world. You could move somewhere exciting, as pp suggested. A privilege that other passport holders do not have.

I presume you're aware of the restrictions imposed by Brexit??

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 03/10/2023 16:54

I don't find life boring at all. I never get bored. I have enough memories, imagination and thoughts in my head to keep me entertained for a pretty long time even if I were sat in a chair doing nothing.

As for my day-to-day existence... I'm a teacher. My job can be tiring and stressful, but it's rarely boring. My dh and teenage dc are largely fun to spend time with, as are my pets. I have hobbies I enjoy and live in a beautiful part of the country, so I have nice scenery to look at. I don't even find my commute to work boring - dh and I listen to a (fiction) podcast en route.

OP - either you are depressed, or just a negative person, or you need to try and make some changes in your life!