I don't know how anyone could find life interesting

[Worriedsister223]

Life's such a boring journey. Working all the time just to cover the bills and if youre lucky get a week holiday a year to somewhere with slightly better weather. every day is basically the same. Get up, work, go home and sleep. Yes you can have hobbies and I do but again, same thing each week. What's the point really? Year in year out celebrating the same occasions. Don't want kids, can't even get into in this post just how dull I find them. Having to go to a playgroup Sounds like my idea of hell. I just kind of wonder what is the point to all of this and kind of dread having to do it every day for the next 50 years because it's just so boring and repetitive.

I have done one of these things with a job and a mortgage. And two DC. I won't say which. But I have done it.

Are you suggesting that OP becomes a vampire?

So what, sell the house and bank the money or rent it out while you take a year out to go and work abroad/have adventures!

@Eyesopenwideawake there are about 40 countries maybe, that offer digital nomad work visas.

Life isn't boring. It's YOU that's boring!

Sorry to sound harsh, but you map out your own life and choose your own pathway to follow. If you are finding life boring, then only YOU can fix that.

You are CHOOSING to go to your job day in day out, buy a house, pay a mortgage etc...

Sell the house, quit your job, go work for a charity in a developing country. Move elsewhere, find a different job, take up a new hobby...

As the expression goes, "The world is your oyster". Emphasis on the "your" e.g. it's up to you.

Well, there's all of Tolstoy to read. That'll keep you going for a while.

I felt like this a few years after a major bereavement. I didn’t make the connection but undoubtedly it must’ve been depression.

Life doesn’t have to be colourful to be interesting. But you need to know what sort of person you are. Are you creative, do you like helping others, are you driven by learning?

You can do things that others find boring but that give you satisfaction.

I love "only biting people get bored" :). Not true though. My daughter had a bitey phase, and I can assure you she didn't find it dull.

I think if you think too deeply and too far ahead it can all seem awful but then I think it comes back to the little things again, eg if you live far from the sea go marvel at the seaside, go meet up with someone you haven’t seen in forever, go for a hike, read a book in front of the fire. These are the things that break the monotony. X

Well, there's all of Tolstoy to read. That'll keep you going for a while.

In my experience, Tolstoy makes life slightly more boring, not less so.

It is very easy to fall into this mindset, and it's not easy to get out of it either. I've been there myself and it's awful so I really feel for you.

I think I was always waiting and hoping that something would change, it took me many wasted years to really realise that all that needed to change was me and my attitude.

You need to work on changing your mindset and perhaps counseling or something could help with that but you need to help yourself.

What does bring you pleasure? What do you enjoy doing? For me it's being out in nature and really opening myself up to it and experiencing the awe and wonder of it all. There's beauty and magic all around us if we allow ourselves to see it. I'm a big believer in creativity (in whatever form you like) being greatly beneficial.

It's the small things that add up that make life worth living, in my opinion. There is no meaning, we make the meaning.

Boring people! Not biting people! 😩😬😂

No, I’m not making fun of you at all. Rent your house out to cover the mortgage, apply for a visa if needed, and go.

Sort this out while you’re working out your notice, and loading your savings onto your Revolut card.

I picked some of these as I already know people who’ve done them. DH has done the Sahara motorbike thing and the weapons design, our good friend was a model in Tokyo, and I twice packed up and jumped continents.

DH still motorbikes across the Alps, another friend moved to Amsterdam and bought a football team, while yet another built and sold a finance company and now promotes Pickleball in the Caribbean.

It’s a wonderful, big, diverse world, throw yourself at it.

It depends on your job, my job changes from one hour to the next sometimes it’s bonkers and other times it’s calmer but I never know from hour to hour what is going to happen, makes life more interesting and outside work I like to explore, you need to make what you can of it.

As @HongKongGarden says you don’t have to follow the norm rules. You can change what is making you unhappy.

How old are you OP? Married?

If you've not got kids and you are working - why are you spending your weeks doing things which don't excite you?!

What do you love doing?
Sell the house and move somewhere else and go do it!

I'm not making fun by the way. I got sick of London, the noise, the smell, the rubbish the daily grind with no nice view ...so i sold up and moved the whole family to the wilds of the countryside. Knew no one. Ancient old cottage. Did it up slowly myself, made it beautiful. Made new friends. Filled the cottage with pets and got all the DCs horse riding 😀 Hard work but never regretted it for a moment. Still got bills obvs, but i've got a view across the hills and i love it here so much i'm a new person.

It sounds like you feel your life lacks purpose? I went to a talk recently and heard people talk about the myth of this big purpose in our lives and our big journey. Instead, it makes more sense to enjoy the every day and look for joy in the little things. Appreciate that that can be very difficult for people who are having a hard time with money or health or family but I don’t think that’s you OP?

for me, that means being happy with my job and my home as that takes up the majority of my time. I also take joy in things like walking in the sunshine, hugging my cat, a new TV show or a nice meal. If that sounds a bit dull, I do occasionally do more exciting things or things that make me scared or push me out of my comfort zone. If I haven’t done one of those for awhile, I do you start to feel in a bit of a rut.

Don’t feel pressured by anyone suggesting that you give up your financial stability to go and do a wild adventure. Of course you have to think about your old age. And wild adventures don’t tend to pay financially (and sometimes also require a niche set of skills and years of training).

But can treat yourself to things that are more local and doable. A night in a fancy hotel, for example.

You either sound actually depressed in which case please seek some support. Otherwise - as an adult you do have to make an effort. I don’t have kids; and find life interesting! But I make the effort to make plans with friends, do hobbies, have projects, go out. Doesn’t have to be pricey stuff there’s always free things on in my area

I am, are you?

Are you also aware of how many countries there are in the world that aren’t part of the EU?

I do love this post, especially the last paragraph. Spot on.

I've never done the exciting things people are suggesting

But, life can be full of small satisfactions / pleasures and that's OK too

Do you have friends or family IRL who could support you?

I suspect I could spend years trying to make the perfect sourdough loaf and still feel there was more to do. There are myriad ways to add some interest to life.

My life after children is a lot more restrictive and grinding than it was before.

I was never an exciting person but I really used to enjoy reading, bit if travelling, comedy show, theatre etc. you have time, try to schedule and activity into one day a week. Doesn’t have to be anything too demanding, even if it’s just one night you go out to the movies.

We also did a bit of work about the five things which can improve well-being, which I think were exercise, being outside, giving, learning something new and I can’t remember the final one! I find learning new things at evening classes, or a weekend event really makes me satisfied. I also volunteer when I can this isn’t regularly, but if there is an event where they need a marshall or someone to help for the weekend, then I’ll find that really rewarding too. And I do love a walkie talkie and a hi-vis tabard!

ps found the link Five ways to well-being

Glad I’m not the only one.

There are so many interesting books - my latest revelation was ‘Are We Smart Enough to Know How Smart Animals Are?´

A bit niche and you have to be interested in ethology, but find your equivalent !