If someone said this to you

[CloakandDagger1]

Basically, DH friends wife is an arse pt 2. from the other day!

I had to go out with this woman amongst others last night (long standing arrangement I couldn't get out of)

Her sneering continued as do her snide, belittling comments.

I paid for my meal in cash. She was all sneering and smirky. "Why are you paying cash" in a you're from the 1940's kind of way 🙄
So, I explain I do often use cash. Just making innocent chat, I say I also prefer to use it for mine and DH monthly food budget. I find it stops me from overspending when it's actually hard cash rather than flashing my card at the checkout. I've trialled it for the last few months and find it works better for me. (She then says in front of everyone, "I'm not meaning to sound like I'm being funny towards you, but we do this with our child". (Whilst smirking and sneering the whole time). "Why can't you budget properly, we have weekly menus and food spreadsheets".

I wanted to tell her to fk right off with her condescending, belittling comment!! And who the fk has menu spreadsheets. To keep the peace I didn't. Obviously unloaded it all on poor DH when he picked me up.

This woman makes snide jibes towards me all the time. I'm literally done with going out with her.

Am I overreacting or would it grind your gears too??

@whatwasIgoingtosay I read that twice thinking how does the OP shoehorn that exchange into their next conversation 😁

If she thinks you’re from the 1940’s, I would say ‘oh 1940’s me wouldn’t have told you to f* off though - smug little giggle’. ‘Perhaps that’s just future me’ another little chuckle!

I’m so glad I was taught to stand up for myself. She’d have pulled that shot once on me and known never to do it again.

She treats you poorly and you never challenge her so of course she carries on because she’s a total cunt.

I think we meet some people in life as we have something to learn - you do need to speak up - find your voice and in a clever way call her out. I have no doubt everyone else present would agree with you. She is clearly jealous of you for some reason.
Find your spoken voice! Its the only way to stop this inter turmoil.

😂😂 I was a bit confused

She sounds pathetic. I use cash all the time by the way. Helps with budgeting etc as you say.

Same here. I haven't used a card at a till in years. Suits me and couldn't give a toss what other think.

Hacks off the cashiers in B&Q, that's their problem.

I always try and have a bit of cash on me for tips in coffee shops, hairdresser etc.

Menu spreadsheets? smile That seems so controlling and OCD. We like choosing our meals as we go along since my family doesn't live in a prison. But hey, you do you! Thumbs up

I don't have an ATM/Debit card. I never need to worry about my acct, being drained by some lowlife and having to wait months to get it sorted.
It's either cash or credit card. They mess with your credit card and you're protected and no tied up funds.
And your point is SO valid. With cash, you know you have xyz to spend. With a debit (and yes, even a cc), it's too easy to go, "Oh, it's a little over but I'll make it up elsewhere." And do that every time you shop and it's uh-oh time.

Absolutely this. Unless you're enjoying this. You aren't forced to be with this person, you actually are choosing to go. Fallout with who? You've made this into such a drama when there isn't any. Why can't you say something to her? Very odd of you.

You sound exactly like the woman I'm talking about