I run my own business and I have a bit of a long distance thing with a man in the same industry (although entirely different jobs). It’s just a casual, fun thing when we’re in the same country (he lives in Australia).
I do a lot better financially than he does because of the nature of our jobs.
We had been talking about him coming to visit for a couple of weeks and I said I’d pay for his ticket.
He then asked if I’d pay for it at a certain time of year, so he could go on from the U.K. to Paris, to see some friends for their birthdays.
I was ok with that and asked if, in return, he’d help put me in touch with a couple of people that he knew in the industry, which he did, immediately.
I’ve not booked the ticket yet but two things have changed since he asked me:
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He has now said he’ll only actually come to visit for 2 days and then go straight to meet his friends, which makes me feel like he’s just wanting a free ticket to see his mates, really.
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I got hit with a huge, unexpected expense related to my house and am worried about my own finances.
I’m unsure what to do now. I have to see him again in a couple of weeks at ann industry event so I can’t really just cut ties with him, but I don’t really want to pay for his ticket now!
I am aware I said I would though and that he helped me out with those contacts.