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To not get up and do DHs dinner when he gets in

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FlamboMango · 22/09/2023 01:14

Full disclosure, I have a lovely life. I work 2 days but the rest of the time am at home, school aged children, cleaner and dog walker, no financial worries. I earn a pittance and on my working days DH does dinner, school runs, activities whilst trying to WFH. DH earns hundreds of thousands a year and supports our lifestyle 100%, my salary basically buys 2 food shops a month.

Weds and Thurs are DHs client days, so he goes into office then entertains clients after. Often home late those days but always wants to eat dinner. I generally cook and plate his up then he when he gets in I get up, make him a cup of tea, heat his dinner up.

Tonight we had pizza so I had to get off my arse at 21.30 when he got in and cook a pizza. I can’t be bothered. My days are very restful but the afternoons - school
runs, dinner, activities, hustling kids to shower and teeth clean, packed lunches, cleaning kitchen, bed time etc…. By 8pm when I’m sitting down I want to stay sitting down not get up and cook pizza.

AIBU to say if he gets in after 830
he heats up his own tea and I don’t have to move?

OP posts:
MrsPelligrinoPetrichor · 22/09/2023 01:22

Cook a pizza? You mean bung it in the oven for ten mins? 😂

Fedupmumofadultsons · 22/09/2023 01:27

Sorry but you are beyond lazy ..work two days .you don't clean or walk your dog and you can't be bothered to bung in a pizza ..🤣🤣

Weatherwax13 · 22/09/2023 01:30

YABU. I thought you were going to say midnight or something. It's just a nice gesture for your H surely? It's not starting a 3 course meal from scratch.

Aquamarine1029 · 22/09/2023 01:32

You can't manage this? Really? I suppose your gruelling days of doing fuck all are quite exhausting. Poor thing.

AlltheFs · 22/09/2023 01:37

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RunningAwayToJoinTheCircus · 22/09/2023 01:45

Learn to meal plan so you have meals where it's easy to save his portion to heat when he comes in... Oh! Wait! All you have to do with pizza is stuck it in the oven... Or buy those little Chicago town microwave pizzas and really run his nose into how many fucks you give...
Or get off your presumably gold plated fanny and cook something.

Mangotango39 · 22/09/2023 01:45

Surely a wind up?!

HerMammy · 22/09/2023 01:46

The two days you work he does everything but you can't get off your arse to make him something to eat?

Glorifried · 22/09/2023 01:47

Get a slow cooker, it'll keep his hot.

Codlingmoths · 22/09/2023 01:48

Are you for real? It’s 9:30 not midnight and you’ve had your extended relaxation period for the day. I’m not sure I’ve ever taken this side of who should do the housework and cooking argument before but yes you should jump up and cook him dinner.

Mothership4two · 22/09/2023 02:01

I'm not sure what you are expecting from this thread OP? I thought you must be a troll, but I think I recognise your username.

I think your DH would be taken aback dismayed? after working late two days a week (from his full time job that gives you your lovely life) and getting in at 8.30+ that you couldn't be bothered to get off your arse and he had to get his own supper AND it was pizza

Raincloudsonasunnyday · 22/09/2023 02:03

I mean, is it really too much to ask for someone who provides so well for you and your children? It’s not a male-female thing. It’s a decent person thing.

tabulahrasa · 22/09/2023 02:09

Why would you not make something he can just reheat himself easily when it’s his 2 late nights? You could just save stuff like pizza for when you’re both in, surely?

Roiesin57 · 22/09/2023 02:13

I just got up for a drink only, now I want a pizza!

Oldthyme · 22/09/2023 02:19

Do you not work as a team?
Is this a wind up?
Your are being really mean.

What will you do on your salary when the scales fall from his eyes and he kicks you into touch?

Mothership4two · 22/09/2023 02:19

Roiesin57 · 22/09/2023 02:13

I just got up for a drink only, now I want a pizza!

I want a cleaner, a dog walker (not really) and restful days

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/09/2023 02:27

I've had a good run of guessing reverses recently. Double or nothing?

coxesorangepippin · 22/09/2023 02:27

Make a casserole earlier in the day, easier to just ping in the microwave once he arrives??

coffy11 · 22/09/2023 02:31

Can't he just heat it up when he gets home, why is that so hard? When I come home late I don't expect my husband to drop what he's doing and come and heat up my dinner, I'm a grown adult, i can do that myself.

Summerslimtime · 22/09/2023 02:35

What a demanding bastard! Tell him to buy a takeaway with his hundreds of thousands! Sheesh! I do get it, op, it's borderline abusive.

SnowyPetals · 22/09/2023 02:48

I am not sure this is about serving dinner. It seems more like a lack of teamwork and communication. Plus sometimes the less you do in life, the lower your capacity to manage simple tasks. Having dinner ready for the main provider of the household when they get home is really just a normal task, it really is.

Itsallok · 22/09/2023 02:50

This must be a reverse or madeup. Noone could have actually have this view

mumtoboys12 · 22/09/2023 02:51

You literally do nothing all day apart from a couple of hours for school aged children. Not babies. How lazy.

Tourmalines · 22/09/2023 02:52

You are a selfish woman .

ClaraBourne · 22/09/2023 02:52

Your Dh earns hundreds of thousands, does his share when you are workimg but you can't be arsed to heat up his dinner?

Entitled lazy you or wind up merchant.