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To not get up and do DHs dinner when he gets in

380 replies

FlamboMango · 22/09/2023 01:14

Full disclosure, I have a lovely life. I work 2 days but the rest of the time am at home, school aged children, cleaner and dog walker, no financial worries. I earn a pittance and on my working days DH does dinner, school runs, activities whilst trying to WFH. DH earns hundreds of thousands a year and supports our lifestyle 100%, my salary basically buys 2 food shops a month.

Weds and Thurs are DHs client days, so he goes into office then entertains clients after. Often home late those days but always wants to eat dinner. I generally cook and plate his up then he when he gets in I get up, make him a cup of tea, heat his dinner up.

Tonight we had pizza so I had to get off my arse at 21.30 when he got in and cook a pizza. I can’t be bothered. My days are very restful but the afternoons - school
runs, dinner, activities, hustling kids to shower and teeth clean, packed lunches, cleaning kitchen, bed time etc…. By 8pm when I’m sitting down I want to stay sitting down not get up and cook pizza.

AIBU to say if he gets in after 830
he heats up his own tea and I don’t have to move?

OP posts:
SurprisedWithAHorse · 22/09/2023 07:57

"I had to get off my arse..."

To be fair, it was really obvious anyway, but that phrase absolutely cinched it. This is one reason why reverses/made up OPs are so crap. People are rarely good enough writers to do it. It's not supposed to be you speaking, remember?

financialcareerstuff · 22/09/2023 07:58

TheVofR · 22/09/2023 02:55

LTB 😂
(oh come on, someone has to say it)

GrinGrin

Tourmalines · 22/09/2023 07:59

She probably lives in her mums basement.

Iliketulips · 22/09/2023 08:00

Both of you are capable of switching oven on, then putting a pizza in it when DH comes in - in our household it would have been the first person to get to the kitchen (that's usually DH's first port of call here to drop his lunchbox off, so probably him), but then I'd check on it while he was changing and probably serve it up for him. It doesn't take one minute. Then one minute to serve with whatever else you prepped to go with it earlier (I assume there was leftover salad/something else).

Sigmama · 22/09/2023 08:05

8.30 is a bit late for dinner

wednesdayatone · 22/09/2023 08:05

Doesn't client entertaining include food?

Yanbu. He can surely do his own pizza? Ir heat up a pot of something

Fingeronthebutton · 22/09/2023 08:06

It seems you achieved your objective to wind posters up with your silly childish pack of lies. Rather sad really.

IncompleteSenten · 22/09/2023 08:08

Fingeronthebutton · 22/09/2023 08:06

It seems you achieved your objective to wind posters up with your silly childish pack of lies. Rather sad really.

Indeed. Smacks of bored incel tbh.

HotToddyColdSauvignon · 22/09/2023 08:12

This can’t be real. If it is - what a mean wife you are. Part of being married means supporting the other person. I’d be sad if I came home late from work and my husband had sat on his arse all day and couldn’t make me a cuppa / turn the oven on

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 22/09/2023 08:13

It was the sitting down by 8 pm that got me. How early do these school aged children, old enough to have activities etc, go to bed? That you’ve done that and got any post dinner etc tidying up all done and can get back to your relaxing by 8 pm?

Sunshinenrain · 22/09/2023 08:20

I assumed I was going to say YANBU but hearing something up is hardly hard labour is it?

If you’re in bed then he can do it himself.
If not, then just do it.

You do not need to shower him with praise whenever he walks in the door but you do need to remember that your nice lifestyle and the fact you only need to work PT is because he’s working hard to earn so much money.

I would love to know what this mysterious job is that earns hundreds of thousands a year!

TeddyFaces · 22/09/2023 08:21

You lot have fed the op way more than she feeds her imaginary husband 😅

ASCCM · 22/09/2023 08:21

The OP is either an overly indulged selfish cow, or a fake.

I’ve barely even bloody sat down by 8.30 let alone moaning about getting up!!! Jesus

willWillSmithsmith · 22/09/2023 08:23

I think this is a wind up. Why would a person capable of earning hundreds of thousands a year choose such a lazy, most likely boring (you don’t do anything to be interesting company) life partner?

If this is real then you’re a lazy and selfish person who doesn’t have much to offer anyone.

BrutusMcDogface · 22/09/2023 08:24

Fuck me, you’re lazy.

willWillSmithsmith · 22/09/2023 08:26

Sunshinenrain · 22/09/2023 08:20

I assumed I was going to say YANBU but hearing something up is hardly hard labour is it?

If you’re in bed then he can do it himself.
If not, then just do it.

You do not need to shower him with praise whenever he walks in the door but you do need to remember that your nice lifestyle and the fact you only need to work PT is because he’s working hard to earn so much money.

I would love to know what this mysterious job is that earns hundreds of thousands a year!

My ex earned hundreds of thousands a year which is why I find it hard to believe this thread is real.

Document · 22/09/2023 08:26

I know people think they are Very Clever for spotting a troll and are enjoying patronising the posters who have been ‘sucked in’.

But if she is a troll she is consistent. She posted a few weeks ago elsewhere about having a cleaner and dog walker and a husband who is a lawyer on £350k. She said she does f all till 1400 and has a nap and then rushes around till 2030 by which point she is ‘done’. She also said she works on Labour Ward.

So this woman may not be a troll. Just not suited to the challenges of being a working mum or supportive wife.

Mammyloveswine · 22/09/2023 08:26

Fucking hell.. how do I get one of these husbands?!

Although if he's entertaining clients I'd assume rate would include dinner out somewhere?! Which would negate the need for whacking a pizza in the oven..

MoonShinesBright · 22/09/2023 08:28

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Stillafatknacker · 22/09/2023 08:29

😂

Zimunya · 22/09/2023 08:29

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Exactly this.

LetMeGoogleThat · 22/09/2023 08:30

OMG! Did you have a lie down afterwards? I wonder if counselling or a helpline could support you, it sounds traumatic 🙃

LuckySantangelo35 · 22/09/2023 08:31

@Sigmama

youre right! It is late isn’t it. The husband who is working late and that’s why he needs a later dinner should just starve right. Cos it’s a bit later for dinner.

SurprisedWithAHorse · 22/09/2023 08:31

Document · 22/09/2023 08:26

I know people think they are Very Clever for spotting a troll and are enjoying patronising the posters who have been ‘sucked in’.

But if she is a troll she is consistent. She posted a few weeks ago elsewhere about having a cleaner and dog walker and a husband who is a lawyer on £350k. She said she does f all till 1400 and has a nap and then rushes around till 2030 by which point she is ‘done’. She also said she works on Labour Ward.

So this woman may not be a troll. Just not suited to the challenges of being a working mum or supportive wife.

You don't need any brains at all for this one, that's why it's so insulting.

Why would repeating it a couple of times make it true? It's not even consistent. Kids at school but nothing to do until the afternoon?

All we need is something about how only working class people would or wouldn't do the pizza and it's full house.

SleepingStandingUp · 22/09/2023 08:34

Can't you afford a takeout pizza on his 300k+?