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To not get up and do DHs dinner when he gets in

380 replies

FlamboMango · 22/09/2023 01:14

Full disclosure, I have a lovely life. I work 2 days but the rest of the time am at home, school aged children, cleaner and dog walker, no financial worries. I earn a pittance and on my working days DH does dinner, school runs, activities whilst trying to WFH. DH earns hundreds of thousands a year and supports our lifestyle 100%, my salary basically buys 2 food shops a month.

Weds and Thurs are DHs client days, so he goes into office then entertains clients after. Often home late those days but always wants to eat dinner. I generally cook and plate his up then he when he gets in I get up, make him a cup of tea, heat his dinner up.

Tonight we had pizza so I had to get off my arse at 21.30 when he got in and cook a pizza. I can’t be bothered. My days are very restful but the afternoons - school
runs, dinner, activities, hustling kids to shower and teeth clean, packed lunches, cleaning kitchen, bed time etc…. By 8pm when I’m sitting down I want to stay sitting down not get up and cook pizza.

AIBU to say if he gets in after 830
he heats up his own tea and I don’t have to move?

OP posts:
TheVofR · 22/09/2023 02:55

LTB 😂
(oh come on, someone has to say it)

Cyclebabble · 22/09/2023 03:04

I call reverse…

ZiriForEver · 22/09/2023 03:05

So he comes home at random times?
If so, he definitely can heat his own plate sometimes.

Coyoacan · 22/09/2023 05:10

Hahaha. The OP deliberately paints herself in an awful light and most people fall for it, hook, line and sinker

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/09/2023 05:23

Coyoacan · 22/09/2023 05:10

Hahaha. The OP deliberately paints herself in an awful light and most people fall for it, hook, line and sinker

Except multiple people think it's a reverse or not real. You're not the only one.

GodDammitCecil · 22/09/2023 05:28

Do you need advice on how to cross the road as well, OP?

As for this issue. Why do you need to set a rule? What a bizarre way to live.

Surely some evenings you will find it within yourself to haul ass into the kitchen to put a pizza in the oven for your husband - even if other evenings it’s outwith your capabilities?

NewbieSM · 22/09/2023 05:28

I don't think this is real but if it is, girl I hope you you don't get too comfy on that couch as your husband might eventually get fed up with your sponging laziness and leave you.

TeddyFaces · 22/09/2023 05:29

Wind em up and watch em go.

DinnaeFashYersel · 22/09/2023 05:31

Do t believe a word of this

TeddyFaces · 22/09/2023 05:38

DinnaeFashYersel · 22/09/2023 05:31

Do t believe a word of this

Exactly.
Can't be arsed to bung a pizza in the oven for her husband at 21.30, yet she can post at just turned 01.00 about it.
As I say, wind em up and watch em go.

TheLadyofShalott1 · 22/09/2023 05:44

Raincloudsonasunnyday · 22/09/2023 02:03

I mean, is it really too much to ask for someone who provides so well for you and your children? It’s not a male-female thing. It’s a decent person thing.

This.

@FlamboMango @Raincloudsonasunnyday has made an excellent point here.
So please be a decent person for your lovely sounding husband.

AprQ · 22/09/2023 05:50

This and the neighbour thread HAS to be a reverse because seriously, no one can be this delusional to actually post this on the internet.

I’ll still bite though! If he’s able to make you dinner on the two days that you work then surely it’s nice of you just to return the favour? Even if he does finish later than usual and comes back at 9:30pm.

You don’t seem to be doing much throughout the day so why’s it so hard to make dinner for him at this time? Especially if you’re still awake?

AprQ · 22/09/2023 05:51

MrsTerryPratchett · 22/09/2023 02:27

I've had a good run of guessing reverses recently. Double or nothing?

‘Double or nothing?’🤣🤣🤣

comingintomyown · 22/09/2023 05:51

What a silly thread to start

user1492757084 · 22/09/2023 05:52

I think it is fair that you get up.
Plan for a meal that is easily reheated.
Plan to also eat with him, without the children, for one of those nights to have some adult talk and connect time.

If he arrives home after 10:30 pm (you are already in bed asleep) I think it fair that he heats up the meal.

TheLadyofShalott1 · 22/09/2023 06:04

Summerslimtime · 22/09/2023 02:35

What a demanding bastard! Tell him to buy a takeaway with his hundreds of thousands! Sheesh! I do get it, op, it's borderline abusive.

I agree @Summerslimtime, how can he be so cruel to her?

In all seriousness I - like several others - am finding it hard to believe this is true, or not a reverse. But if it is a reverse (if I am understanding correctly what a reverse is), then it still means that the real OP - the poor husband - has actually got a wife who is one of the biggest CFs that I have heard about on here.

If you are actually the DH @FlamboMango, please show your not so Dear, but very expensive and entitled wife, this thread. If that doesn't make any difference to her attitude and behaviour, then I think you need to really think about how great her blow jobs, and other sexual activities really are, and how generously they are given ... 🙈🫦

fortheloveofjamdoughnuts · 22/09/2023 06:11

TheVofR · 22/09/2023 02:55

LTB 😂
(oh come on, someone has to say it)

🤣🤣🤣🤣

Superduper02 · 22/09/2023 06:13

Mangotango39 · 22/09/2023 01:45

Surely a wind up?!

I actually LOLd. Stay sat down after 8.30pm? That is really scraping the barrel OP.

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 22/09/2023 06:13

Why no trigger warning with thread? Its awful op.
Tell him he's pushed you over the edge op and going forward you're swapping roles and HE can take on your arduous role and you'll do his?
awaiting the 'omg it's lighthearted edit.

TibetanTerrah · 22/09/2023 06:15

I think chucking a pizza in the oven is the least you can do to show appreciation for the lifestyle he keeps you in!

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 22/09/2023 06:15

Superduper02 · 22/09/2023 06:13

I actually LOLd. Stay sat down after 8.30pm? That is really scraping the barrel OP.

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Well that's a whole 4 hrs of parenting, feeding and supervision at bed time?! The STRESS and exhaustion!!.

EnjoythemoneyJane · 22/09/2023 06:22

Ducks in a row time OP 💐

EmmaGrundyForPM · 22/09/2023 06:24

When you said "get up" I imagined him coming home at midnight and you having to get out of bed.

If this is real, YABVU.

NeedTheSeaside · 22/09/2023 06:27

coxesorangepippin · 22/09/2023 02:27

Make a casserole earlier in the day, easier to just ping in the microwave once he arrives??

Do you really think she needs 'easier' than a pizza??

@FlamboMango
This HAS to be a wind up. A nasty one too in the CoL.

WTF, in your fantasy, are you eating that 8 days work is buying 2 food shops?

if this was real, you'd be married to an absolute bloody saint & should appreciate your situation and want to sort out his dinner when he gets home late from work/socialising for work.

if I was him I'd get dinner out & & resent your attitude. I wouldn't feel much like fully supporting your lifestyle.

Meeting · 22/09/2023 06:30

I'm sure you could use your hundreds of thousands of pounds to hire a servant

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