Sister announces wedding just before mine

[Finallygettingmarried]

Due to get married in Feb next year, has been planned almost a year.
Nothing big and flashy, but a small do with family and friends, very low key and rustic, in quaint little village hall.

Sister called to let me know she's getting married just before Xmas (this year), she's been married before and they're planning a small ceremony too.

I'm normally very laid back and really don't have much of an ego about stealing thunder. And of course, I'm really happy for them.

But it just made me feel a bit..funny?! Am I being stupid?

For a bit of background, we get on okay, we've had our ups and downs, but we get on fine now. Very different people - she's quite 'showy' and materialistic I guess, very competitive and I prefer a more quiet life. But she's a nice person and can be caring (sometimes!).

What do you think?

I agree with your approach, OP. Sounds like you will come to peace with it.

But when you're killing her with kindness, don't be too kind. If you come across something really nice for the wedding, there's no need to share it with her.

@2chocolateoranges puts glasses on

Sorry read wrong year

Only if you're a certain type of person!

If my sis announced she was getting married 2 months before me I'd just be happy for her and excited for her wedding as well as mine. We are very close though.

@Cudjoe
As a rule, how long do you think about the weddings that you attend? Why would any be thinking about someone else's wedding weeks later.

The bride will be the center of attention on her wedding day. There is only so much interest anyone has in the build up to a wedding. There are certain activities in which you may engage, but that is essentially pro forma. I suspect not many people are excited about attending yet another shower or hens event. Those are things that you do out of a well developed sense of obligation.

Chances are there will be enough of a "lime light" to go around. Family will be all smiles and happy on both days.

You don't get to monopolise this year. Her wedding isn't even the same year as your wedding 🙄🙄🙄

I think you are being a bit unreasonable. It's not as if it's just the week before, and you say she is also planning a small celebration, so it doesn't look as if she is trying to out-wedding you.

I get how upsetting it is, OP

I had similar happen to me many years ago before I married my first husband, but with my group of friends.

I'd had my wedding booked for over a year and then about two months before my wedding another friend decided to have her wedding the weekend before mine.

Which then meant that all my friends were very focussed on her wedding, getting outfits to wear etc, and although they were all invited to my wedding a few dropped out as they'd 'been to X's wedding the weekend before'

I dropped the friends that dropped out of my wedding but it was so upsetting at the time

I totally get you on this - my sil did the same. It's not okay esp when she knew yours was already booked