Lost my cool with school run mum

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I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

If she does it again let them down but to not damage them. She is a selfish cow.

She will probably not change her attitude if the school or police have a word. She probably will if she learns she has to pump up the tyres each time.

OP get your jet wash out, ask her to move and if she still refuses jet wash your drive blast her car with shit, soil and rocks.

Cover her car with dirt and stones, I did that previously she will bloody move.

ITs her fault for parking irresponsibly and she will have been warned, nothing wrong with cleaning your own personal drive.

Every time post on social media - local Facebook page, say how it's stopping you from getting to eol patient care. Do it in a non-angry way- eg. I hate to do this, but I'm at my wits end and this is hurting people who need it most- kind of way.

Cover up the license plate and don't give any one any reason to turn it around to what you've done wrong.

Does she park on the pavement? Although this isn't illegal I think fines can still be issued. Take photos of her doing it

Get some dog poo and using a stick put it under the drivers door handle so when she opens the door she gets dog crap all in her nails!

Yeah - as annoying as it is to have to do this, I'd park across my own drive.
I have a neighbour's brother who parks across me when he visits, and he always says just give us a shout if you need to go out. Erm, I'd like to be able to go out WITHOUT having to knock next door and wait for him to move - particularly when, if he moved 2m backwards, he'd be across the wall separating me and my other neighbour, not blocking anyone in. Drives me fucking mad.

No, the school have more than enough responsibilities. Parking infringement is not one of them.

As PP’shave said, record and send to local council ( they have a department who deal with this) and to the police.

Like others have said. Instead of parking on your drive, park across your drive exit. Problem solved. She will soon find someone else to bother with her bad manners and parking.

I should have said 'she would come back another time, in darkness and slash your tyres'.

And I'm loving the idea of pouring a substance over the car like brake fluid or the vaseline on the windows/door handles.

Honestly, how the fuck does someone gets so entitled?! She deserves all kinds of shit thrown at her.

The OP says she has tried speaking to her nicely and the woman doesn't care.

Rule 243 of the Highway Code sets out where people can and cannot park. It says drivers should not leave their car in front of an entrance to a property, which means blocking someone's driveway would break this rule. You can pursue a legal claim for nuisance on the grounds that the driver is interfering with your use and enjoyment of your property. Perhaps if all else fails, you can get a "cease and desist" letter issued from a solicitor. It might be enough to frighten her off.

I wouldn’t normally suggest this, but have you thought about putting photos on a local fb group?

Blocking someone taking pain relief to someone at the end of their life will cause internet uproar. Hopefully she’ll be embarrassed enough to stop.

I would follow her into the school grounds in my uniform and humiliate her utterly. I would shout that this woman is repeatedly making me late to attend dying patients by parking across my driveway and is aggressive whenever you speak to her. I would ask what her name is so you can shame her on social media.

Someone near our school used to put signs on car windscreens saying something along the lines of

"Stop parking badly. It is lazy, selfish and dangerous"

He used to attach them with loads and loads of Sellotape onto windscreens.

Legend. We all loved him and people left rolls of Sellotape on his garden wall.

Didn't cause any lasting damage but took a while to pick all the tape off I imagine

Park your car across the end of your own driveway so this inconsiderate parent can't park there herself.

100%

Completely disrespectful definitely out her to the school and put a big sign and cones up, do not, I repeat do not slash her tyres 😉

THIS xx ( put sign up). Do anything in your power to make it obvious to others what a cow she is!

We called the police as got so fed up of it. If it is obstructing your access they will intervene. They called the person and explained the law and to move their car. They did. Then the neighbour who they were visiting came round to give a mouthful saying they are allowed as pregnant and it's too far to park elsewhere!!
Anyhow, they stopped after that!

I lived opposite a school, with a residents only spot. I got home from work at 3:20 every day, and residents bays were always full of non residents leaving me nowhere to park. One day I had a woman, sat in her car, engine off, tell me that she wasn't actually parked there. So I pulled up side on, leaving her no room to move. Got out of the car and told her that if she wasn't actually parked there then this wouldn't be a problem. Went inside and watched her have to wait for every other car in the row to move before she could do a 47 point turn and eventually get out. It took almost an hour because a sports match had over run so lots of kids were late leaving. My space was always free after that.

Very extreme but you can find out a lot of information about a person from a number plate.
I'd probably find out where she works and drop it into your next 'chat' with her. She'll feel very unnerved that you know that information.

But yeah, share online, share with the council, share with the police etc. Hopefully she can be shamed into having some respect