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Lost my cool with school run mum

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Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:18

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

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BlowMyBubbles · 15/09/2023 13:18

A school I used to work with would take complaints from the local residents very seriously. They would take the make, colour and number plate of the cars and publicly tell them off on the school Dojo. At drop off/pick ups they would have a teacher on the road to tell people to move and note down who the offenders were.

Get in touch with the school, and keep ringing every time the jerk parks over your drive.

DifficultBloodyWoman · 15/09/2023 13:18

CatamaranViper · 15/09/2023 13:16

Very extreme but you can find out a lot of information about a person from a number plate.
I'd probably find out where she works and drop it into your next 'chat' with her. She'll feel very unnerved that you know that information.

Oooo! Tell me more. How do I find this stuff out?

NewbieSM · 15/09/2023 13:18

Ooh the cheeky bitch! Got a dog OP? I would be sooo tempted to smear dog shit on the underside of all her car door handles. Not a mature reaction I grant you but HIGHLY satisfying..

Lailamae15 · 15/09/2023 13:19

If it were me and she'd p1ssed me off this much I'd be waiting until she parked and then reverse my car to her bumper and get my hubby to do the same other end and block her in so she has to knock on and ask for us to let her out. I'd be on stake out waiting for the moment 🤣🤣 I am that petty if someone was persistently going out if their way to annoy me😂

Mummy2mybear · 15/09/2023 13:20

DifficultBloodyWoman · 15/09/2023 13:18

Oooo! Tell me more. How do I find this stuff out?

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👀 yeah how do you do this ?

Z1hun · 15/09/2023 13:20

I totally get that rage! Please please don't actually follow through and slash her tyres. Its criminal damage and you'll be done for it regardless of her parking across your drive. Annoyingly the only people who may be interested is the council. The police won't act on right of access to private land. If she parks on your land then it's trespass which is civil not criminal so take her to court. As she's parking across your land it's not trespass which means there's not alot you can do (and she knows this) other than park your car across your drive.

LlynTegid · 15/09/2023 13:21

Perhaps the unreasonableness was to threaten to do something. Acting in some way would be better.

The person concerned is unfit to drive, end of.

Sianywoo · 15/09/2023 13:22

Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:39

Thank you so much for the good advice. There’s lots of things you’ve mentioned that I haven’t tried so that’s what I will do next. Plus you’ve all made me feel better about my burst of anger. Thank you! X

Let us know how it goes. I'm always a fan of egg on the windscreen. 🤣

TheresASnakeInMyBoots · 15/09/2023 13:23

I honestly don't blame you for losing your cool OP! We live about five minutes away from a school and always have this problem. DH once came home from work to discover a woman parked not infront of our driveway but actually ON it. When we confronted her about it she said that she was just waiting for her son to come out of the school! She didn't even seem aware of the fact that she was using our driveway as her own personal parking space.

The entitlement of some parents collecting their kids at the end of the school day is unbelievable.

Like others have said, park across your drive to block it or do what our neighbour once did - stick some traffic cones in front of it 😂Hope you manage to get the situation sorted!

Largecatlover · 15/09/2023 13:23

Leave broken glass or a couple of glass bottles either side of your driveway in the road near the pavement so she has to drive over it. You will be ok driving straight in and out of the driveway but she will have to drive over glass to park across it. It will either put her off or flatten her tyres hopefully!

drinkuptheezider · 15/09/2023 13:24

dothehokeycokey · 15/09/2023 12:18

Plan a mutiny.

Wait in your car and your husband in his car not on the drive.

When she pulls up and gets out block her in so park one behind and one in front as close as you can and go indoors

When she comes back to the car she will have to knock on your door for you to let her out at which point youl say your busy and will move when your ready to.

Or she could agree not to park over your drive again and be done with it.

I would also make sure you have a ring door bell of some sort to film the whole thing.

Answer the door with large glass of wine in hand, can't move until next day.
Or, sorry BIL and MIL have gone on holiday, taken car keys, back in 2 weeks. Leave in place 2 weeks.

JLM1981 · 15/09/2023 13:24

This is terrible behaviour. Let the school know. They contact parents at our school and ask them to park considerately. I once saw someone in your position block a cheeky parent in by parking super close to them and then went into their house and refused to move. The parent was blocked in for hours 🙈 point made.

confusedmum2023 · 15/09/2023 13:24

When I used to work in a mainstream school we had junior road safety officers who went out with teachers. They patrolled parking, gave out leaflets and so on. Believe it or not these horrible entitled parents were still rude to them!

Certainlyreally · 15/09/2023 13:28

whereaw · 15/09/2023 12:37

Cover up the license plate and don't give any one any reason to turn it around to what you've done wrong.

How could there be any reason to turn around to sometihng OP has done wrong?

Car is on a public road, badly parked?

Fizbosshoes · 15/09/2023 13:30

I live near a school and thankfully this has only happened once or twice (and I generally don't need to go out at school times)
The school used to "name and shame" in the newsletter weekly with the make and registration of the car/s parked inconsiserately

ThinWomansBrain · 15/09/2023 13:30

re the oxtail soup - I was thinking something irritating enough to make her think twice, but not as drastic as slashing they tyres.

Assuming there's no sun roof, "Parking Twat" across the window screen in lipstick?

Georgeandzippyzoo · 15/09/2023 13:30

Unless rules have changed, it IS an offence to block someone on their drive ie you can't get out (especially as an oncall nurse!), but not an offence to stop someone getting back on their drive.
Personally i think that previous posts have offered best advice. Go out and record at every opportunity , let her see you doing it, make a report to PCOS and really lay it on regarding your job and how important it is you can immediately leave. Let them speak to her!

LodiDodi · 15/09/2023 13:31

I'd be putting the bloody windscreen through nevernind the tyres

ColleenDonaghy · 15/09/2023 13:32

I like the post-it idea. Pick a really bright colour, and that will up the embarrassment factor. She'll have to spend a while taking them off, while everyone walks past and sees, but you won't actually be doing any damage.

notlucreziaborgia · 15/09/2023 13:34

Assuming no one heard you, you could pay a local teenager to shoot out her tyres and/or windscreen with an air rifle.

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 15/09/2023 13:35

I'm angry just reading this

Hart92 · 15/09/2023 13:35

You did well threaten to slash her tyres, I'd have driven stariaght into her car and dealt with the consequences.

Some people are so inconsiderate it boils my blood.

I'd start blocking your own drive, put a sign there and contact the school and pcso as others have said.

Try not to feel bad, it's a frustrating situation and when it's effecting your patients then it's made it more emotional for you.

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 15/09/2023 13:35

notlucreziaborgia · 15/09/2023 13:34

Assuming no one heard you, you could pay a local teenager to shoot out her tyres and/or windscreen with an air rifle.

Paying a child to carry out criminal damage. Good one 👍

timetochangethering · 15/09/2023 13:36

You can legitimately smash her window to gain access to push the car out of the way in an emergency....

notlucreziaborgia · 15/09/2023 13:36

Regholdsworthswaterbed · 15/09/2023 13:35

Paying a child to carry out criminal damage. Good one 👍

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saves her from doing it herself.