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Lost my cool with school run mum

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Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:18

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

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SeenYourArse · 15/09/2023 12:15

I’d block her in front and back with both your cars a millimetre off her front and back bumper and refuse to move them, ask her how she feels being prevented from leaving when she needs to! Tell her every single time she parks there you will do this and next time it will be overnight before you let her out

dontletsaskforthemoon · 15/09/2023 12:17

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I was going to suggest this.

I would even go so far as to take a day off work just to do this. And then when she knocks on the door for you to move your car, ignore her. Or answer it and say you've both been drinking alcohol so won't be able to move your cars for at least 24 hours...😂

Trouble is, if she's the total CF that she appears to be, she'd probably slash your tyres instead!!

Rockandrollfangirl · 15/09/2023 12:17

Vanilladanish · 15/09/2023 10:18

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

Ha brilliant. We have this problem too. Our drive has the school zigzags over it and people still park across it.

pythongreenporsche · 15/09/2023 12:17

I'm sorry OP. I live near a school too and while we don't have a drive there are plenty of issues with entitled parents. The PCSOs will come out if asked to speak to parents- might be worth a try. Beyond that keep speaking to the school

FarEast · 15/09/2023 12:17

Take photos of her car and her then post them on the Facebook “You Park like a Cunt” page.

dothehokeycokey · 15/09/2023 12:18

Plan a mutiny.

Wait in your car and your husband in his car not on the drive.

When she pulls up and gets out block her in so park one behind and one in front as close as you can and go indoors

When she comes back to the car she will have to knock on your door for you to let her out at which point youl say your busy and will move when your ready to.

Or she could agree not to park over your drive again and be done with it.

I would also make sure you have a ring door bell of some sort to film the whole thing.

vingraitte · 15/09/2023 12:19

She’s awful! Good luck contacting the school !

givemesomecandy · 15/09/2023 12:19

I'd post on your local area Facebook groups explaining as you have above and add a photo of her car blocking your drive. I guarantee when someone she knows spots her car, her friends and family etc see it, it'll stop!

SoupDragon · 15/09/2023 12:19

As she does it every day, it must be possible to hatch a plan whereby you can block her in.

In the meantime, I would ostentatiously take a photo of her every single day.

AndIKnewYouMeantIt · 15/09/2023 12:20

WandaWonder · 15/09/2023 10:49

Could you take a photo of the car turn it into a massive poster and stick it up in the area?

I'd be tempted to do this. Massive photo on a post, and "Wr72 0FJ - stop parking here, I am sick of asking nicely".

FarEast · 15/09/2023 12:20

Or approach her quietly and give her the details of how those you care for are in pain and the details of the consequences of her delaying you, for your patients who are very ill and/or dying. Describe the pain and suffering, in a matter of fact way. Let her realise that’s she’s a selfish bastard without telling her so.

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LivingDeadGirlUK · 15/09/2023 12:23

I'm 6 doors down from a primary school, its a very middle class area so entitlement is through the roof.

Residents managed to get the council to make the roads non accessible to non residents during school drop off and pick up. People have to park away and walk in and its split the parking up to the 3 feed roads instead of all outside the school. Its been great.

AlwaysFoldingWashing · 15/09/2023 12:24

Agree with blocking in. Maximum inconvenience. Leave overnight if need be. Will probably be resolved after one time. This would drive me crackers, hope you get it sorted

Crazycrazylady · 15/09/2023 12:24

Yip

I'd go out next time and take very obvious photos and when she asks why just mention that the principal has asked for them so she can identify her and the local police want them as well. These loons need dealing with

Gilmorehill · 15/09/2023 12:24

I wouldn't normally suggest approaching the school as I'm sure they ask the parents again and again to be considerate. However given the nature of your job, I think they have to do something. I'd actually ask to go speak to the head in person and explain that you are being made late to treat very unwell patients. That woman is an appalling person.

Jaemoon · 15/09/2023 12:25

I think I would lose my shit with her.

Sometimes becoming a screaming banshee works on unreasonable people.

The man who physically assaulted me in Tesco had no idea what he had unleashed.

Cowlover89 · 15/09/2023 12:26

AmandaHoldensLips · 15/09/2023 10:44

Empty a huge tub of Vaseline across her windscreen and side windows.

And sudocrem!

VerityRoss · 15/09/2023 12:27

Eggs followed by flour on the windscreen, it’s not your fault your cake ingredients fell on her windshield whilst you were trying to manoeuvre round her car…

housethatbuiltme · 15/09/2023 12:27

UsernameNotAvailableNow · 15/09/2023 11:09

Not sure if anyone has mentioned this but rather than slashing her tyres, take the valve cap off and use a small screwdriver or thin pliers to press down in the valve. It deflates the tire without any criminal damage.

It in fact is still a crime and does cause damage, the weight of a car on a flat tire can slice or corrode the rubber.

Brightandshining · 15/09/2023 12:29

Dont slash her tires thats illegal. Egg her car or cover it with cream. Or acrylic paint under the windscreen wipers. Removable things that will be very annoying but not actually damage the car permanently.
And just refuse to admit it was you. The police won't be interested in a bit of squirty cream or raw egg on someones car. Just do it every single time and she will get it.
What an awful person she is.

Motherland2624 · 15/09/2023 12:30

Slash the tyres

Alargeoneplease89 · 15/09/2023 12:31

I would shame her on social media, or block her with my car and DHs and have a glass of wine. Honestly what a dick she is.

YouOKHun · 15/09/2023 12:32

@FarEast you’d hope that would do the trick wouldn’t you? I fear that someone that selfish won’t care unless she is inconvenienced herself. The sign/stickers option which states clearly “on call palliative care nurse - do not park over drive, drive in constant use”, also publicly shames the person if anyone else sees the sign and then the sticker on her car because there are probably a lot of other parents who wouldn’t park across your drive and realising why it’s such a problem because of your job will add a bit of social pressure and let others know what a prat she is.

Of course difficult to remove stickers on windscreens are strictly illegal but she’d have a hard time trying to prosecute whoever it was who applied the sticker given what it says across it and how irritated the police/courts would be if she tried to pursue it. I wouldn’t slash tyres though.