Lost my cool with school run mum

[Vanilladanish]

I’m at my absolute wits end. Recently bought a house near the kids primary school and like most primary schools the parking at school run time is a nightmare. There is one mum that constantly parks over my drive blocking me in or out. I work as an on call palliative care nurse and twice now have been late to call outs to provide pain relief and other things to patients at the end of life. I’ve tried to talk to her nicely and she just drives away. A few weeks ago my husband was trying to pull in the drive after work and she was blocking again. There was a queue of traffic behind him and he had to pull over and ask her to move so he could get off the road. She said she would when she was ready. Sometimes she’s there and there are spaces all the way up and down the road but she still blocks my drive.
today she blocked me again - I’ve just finished a night shift and I saw red. I asked her to stop parking and tried to explain I needed to get in and out quickly for work. She just shouted over me so I told her I would slash her tyres next time. I know I was unreasonable to say that and I am really ashamed of myself but I’m absolutely at my wits end. What do I do?!

Keep reporting her to the head with her photo and reg number.

She's a twat and no amount of trying to reason with her will work. You have to resort to the community shaming factor by posting on your schools group or local area group on FB and Nextdoor. Looooooove the idea of pasting a note on her window with Vaseline- genius!!!

Film her everytime and send to head and block her in, you've got to make it hurt these arseholes.

I used to work in a school. I believe that if you talk to the Head calmly about your situation they will intervene and talk to the parent concerned.

Reason won’t work - if she was reasonable she wouldn’t be doing this in the first place.

My favourite piece of advice on a similar threat here was to stick a shitty nappy on the windscreen 😂

Police can arrange having the vehicle removed if she's stopping you from getting out of your drive, but not if she's blocking it so you can't get back in.
Call them next time she blocks you in, completely unacceptable. The cheek and entitlement of some people x

Or follow her to the school gates and loudly tell her she's preventing you from administering medication to Mr X (made up name) because she's blocked your drive. These people have no morals so embarrassing them socially is the only thing that'll work.

Cheeky cow!! I agree with talking to the school or shame her publicly if needs be.

Did she move when you shouted at her? I would just slash her tyres tbh

A couple of large screws or nails, strategically placed against her tyres so they pierce them as she drives off.
Make sure you do it by more than one wheel so she gets 2 slow punctures.
And repeat each time you get the chance.

Easy enough to deny any responsibility if she comes at you with the accusations but problematic enough to piss her off. And she will know its you but have no proof.

Make sure you check the road before you drive out of your driveway tho or this plan could backfire.

Yes but the problem is that now that she's said it, they will know it's her! Maybe have been better to do without warning 😂

The school can’t do much except ask nicely. They have no control over what happens outside the school gates and it’s not fair to make this their responsibility. I’d phone non emergency police every time and take photos every time. I think the idea of shaming her on SM, it’s probably the only thing that has a chance of working long term.

she's affecting your job as an oncall palliative care professional. she will do this again and when she does (and it's affecting your shift) film her and be cool, telling her the situation and how she has always been doing it. then post it on youtube. seriously, this is what people like this need to learn a lesson.

My local authority has an online reporting facility to report cars parked across a dropped kerb. I had to upload photos clearly showing the car and dropped kerb plus the car registration. 10 minutes later a traffic warden appeared and wrote a ticket. So satisfying! I imagine that the council follows up.by post if the car has moved away before a warden can deal with it.

Gosh that would be good!

If you are on any school social media or school group chat share it, take a picture of the number plate/Car explaining the issues its causing you and others, people on pallative care should not have to suffer because of her selfishness and entitlement. people share things like this its shameful soon as it gets back to her she will be to embarrassed to do it again. Honestly I would do this, you have tried talking to her. She is just a trouble maker and a complete idiot. Honestly I would not worry about talking to the school I dont think it will help you have to take this into your own hands. Sorry for you it makes me so angry on your behalf x

What would happen if you put veggie oil in the water pistol? 🤔

Not that I have ever accidentally splashed veggie oil on someone’s windscreen. 😎

Id take her pic and stick it on social media. Contact non emergency police number and ask if there's a community support officer that can be around for a few days.

A neighbour of mine had pretty much the same situation. Two different CF parents, if one wasn’t blocking the drive the other one was. Polite appeals didn’t work, losing it didn’t work, the school sending out polite and then stern emails about parking didn’t work. In the end she had a freestanding sign in neon colours saying “do not block drive - emergency on call medic” which she put on the edge of her drive and a corresponding sticker that had to be chiselled off tiny piece by tiny piece. Her neighbour on the other side helped with sticker application. It was the sticker that worked in the end because people like this don’t give a shit until they are properly inconvenienced themselves.

I wouldn't put the woman in the picture though just the car 🤷

I’d jot down her car reg, make and colour and inform the school. I’d also make a no parking sign to stick on your gates or something, a few people where I live have them because we also live on the same street as a primary school. If you could pull your own car out of the drive before school run times to block your own drive, that may be best. Can’t believe she’s deliberately still parking there tbh, what a cheeky twat.

OMG I would go absolutely mental!! What an inconsiderate idiot. Practically speaking, are you able to install bollards where she parks, perhaps ask the council? I don't blame you for losing your shit, it sounds as if you've put up with quite enough of her!

This is parenting website, there must be plenty of people reading this who park inconsiderately on the school run.

As it’s anonymous site, will anyone come on say why they think it’s ok to do it?

Many school parents are entitled and I get so angry on behalf of those living near a school when parents think it is ok to do it just for a few minutes with no consideration for the owner.

I would go down the naming and shaming route first. Take pictures and send to school so they can hopefully report in newsletter. Also local social media pages (and I would make sure the face of the woman is there too). Also agree with those who say to report on council website if yours allows it.

If she dares continue, the stickers/egging are brilliant suggestions for a deterrent!

Don't slash her tyres - she'll still be blocking you and won't be able to move. Write "twat" on her bonnet with a sharpie instead.