Just chucked partners clothes in the bin

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Been with DP 5 years. Good as gold usually but I've had enough of picking up after him all the time. Asked him to put the new bedsheets on and he said he will in a minute. Half an hour later, he's still sat on his phone. He's also permanently got a pile of clothes on the floor next to his bed with a bunch of crap he can't be bothered to put into drawers.

Another thing, he recently came back from a golf holiday and left a whole load of washing in our spare room, some needing washing, some ironing. Been repeatedly asking him for 3 days to do something with it, and today I've just got so fed up, I got all the clothes from the floor and spare bedroom and put them in a bin bag and chucked them in the bin. He went absolutely crazy but I am at my wits end of having to tell him to clean up after himself!

well done you!! i didnt throw stuff out but my hubby plays sports on saturday. this happened many years ago. last match in may, comes home and dumps sports bag in hall where it sat for a week and a half!!! I picked it up and threw it in the cupboard at the bottom of the stairs. His cupboard!! Come september, start of new season on match day and he opens bag to make sure all his stuff is there!!! Kid you not, he just about collapsed with the smell when he opened the bag!!! He said you might have washed my sports kit!!! I just said you might have taken it out the bag for me to wash!!! To this day, has never done it again!!! that was 30 years ago and he is still playing weekly games!!!

Good grief. What a man child. His clothes- his problem. Your clothes your problem. Bin them, kick them aside but I wouldn't go on at him about them.

He sounds like a lazy git btw!

We have head lice, found them yesterday after our treatment, unprompted DH changed all our beds, and washed everything. So he should, it's not my job or his job it's shared

Errrm why can't he wash his gown sports kit

So stop behaving like you are his mother 🙄

Why are you treating him like a child? Are you his mum? Why not try having an adult conversation about how you can live together when you have different levels of contentment with tidiness and hygiene.
Not everyone has similar levels you know. And it does not automatically make you right.
To look at it from another angle if this was a reverse situation how would you feel if your cleanliness obsessed husband wouldn't let you relax after dinner but insisted that all the clearing up had to be done immediately to his standards no matter what. Even if you share chores it's always his standards you have to meet not yours. And before you put the bike or pushchair or car away it has to be washed and dried and polished every time. Or you can't leave a glass out overnight to be washed in the morning. Or you can't sleep for more than one night in the same sheets.
Do you see where this is going? You are not right you just have a different perspective but have so little respect for him that you can't deal with it.

Hope DH does not see me posting on this thread because I am the more slovenly in our relationship and he is far more domestic than I ever will be. But I absolutely refused in the past to clean up after any ex partners and wholeheartedly agree with your approach. I do like a reasonably tidy house to feel relaxed and it would annoy me if stuff was dumped on the floor. An ex did this for a while and left his dirty woolen sweaters in heaps on the floor. I decided to wash them. At the highest temperature. A few times. They ended up being snug on even a T-cup chihuahua. To be fair, I was about to split up with him and it encouraged his immediate departure.

He leaves it there as weaponised incompetence hoping you'll crack and wash,dry,iron and put his clothes away like your his mother.

I don't know why people are suggesting the OP buys him a nice washing basket;all that'll happen is it'll be a nice washing basket of unwashed smelly clothes that'll start to overflow as he won't do his washing.