HOLIDAY/BIRTH CERT CRISIS 😩

[OHFUCKCRAP]

Name changed incase anyone can link me to previous posts.

IM PANICKING.

me and my dd age 7 are due to go abroad in 2.5 weeks. We have different surnames and I’m seperated from her father. Got his permission to take her out the country and he’s going to provide a letter no problem.

On the gov website it says I need her birth certificate to prove I’m her mother. Lovely ! Collect it from my stepdad (he keeps all my important documents always has done) and he’s fucking LAMINATED it 😩😩😩 so god knows what they are going to do if they ask for it.

I go back on the gov website to order a new one that is posted the next working day. AMAZING. Only I’m putting in her details TIME AND TIME again and nothing is coming up. Can’t even find her on the GRO index.

I’ve rambled and I’m sorry but WHAT DO I DO NOW?!! She has had a very shit year and if they turn us away her heart will break 😩😩😩

OP, off the point of the thread and someone may have already mentioned this but my DSD was in a similar situation (DV) she was allowed change the DS's surname by deed poll. Might be something worth considering in the future. Have a great holiday.

She doesn’t want to change her last name, I’ve already asked. She still loves her dad, it’s all very fresh for her. Thanks it’s well needed.

Call the registry office where her birth was registered and they will locate it, usually you can pick it up from the office too.

That doesn't mean it is OK though. I'm sure she wouldn't be happy if another couple turned up at departures and flew off with her children. I bet she'd want to know why they weren't challenged.

Not saying it’s ok.

just pointing out it’s not uncommon for children to be travelling with adults they don’t share a name with. And that you can be stopped whether all of you share a name, one or none.

it’s not the massive deal mumsnet thinks it is not to share a name with your children. You don’t get special treatment or exemption for stuff like this because you have the same name. You still need your documents.

I've been asked every time I've returned from hols. When she was little I didn't even know about it (7 years ago) I came back with her in my arms and she was twirling my hair and very happy and the guy said I can see how she is with you so it's fine, but next time you must travel with it. Not saying this is great, but there must be some scope - they don't hit a red button and immediately call immigration/police.
I don't see how lamination would be a problem... I also agree that laminated papers can be snipped and released.