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What would your thoughts be if you received this text message?

485 replies

Cantsleep1234 · 08/09/2023 01:12

For context I have been messaging this person and sometimes I don’t reply quickly due to working or other things and this is what he says. Top message supposed to say ‘at messaging’ I’m guessing..I’m mid twenties and he is mid thirties.

What would your thoughts be if you received this text message?
OP posts:
Goldmember · 08/09/2023 06:39

I'd think that English is his second language and he is too needy.

ZickZack · 08/09/2023 06:41

That gave me the ick

FabFitFifties · 08/09/2023 06:43

Are you sure he's not a lot older than he says? 60 plus?

EarringsandLipstick · 08/09/2023 06:43

blueshoes · 08/09/2023 01:34

Do you even need to ask?

This - surely it's obvious what everyone, including you, will think.

GigiAnnna · 08/09/2023 06:44

He's pissed off/ a bit insecure about why you're not messaging as much as he'd like, so turning into his version of a joke, but coming across as an absolute bellend.

StopStartStop · 08/09/2023 06:44

Block.

pictoosh · 08/09/2023 06:44

Sounds thick but still infantilises you. I wonder if he'd offer a 'smak bum' to a woman his own age?

KatherineJaneway · 08/09/2023 06:44

Yuk! That would totally put me off.

EarringsandLipstick · 08/09/2023 06:44

blendedfamly · 08/09/2023 05:35

It's a passive aggressive way of saying they don't like it when you do that. My ex mil use to do it "I'll have to give blended a smacked bum if she does that again " Tinkly laugh.

It's patronising, irritating and shows a lack of ability to communicate proficiently . Also I would be annoyed at feeling like I have to jump when he texts. It would be a no thank you from me.

I really don't think the illiterate garbage deserves this level of analysis!

1Ragamuffin · 08/09/2023 06:45

YoureALizardHarry11 · 08/09/2023 01:35

He’s laying down his controlling expectations early while disguising it as a joke. He also comes across a bit thick, so it would put me off for that alone.

So true. You're being warned here.
You're not in a relationship with this guy, you weren't ignoring a question that needed an answer so he could make plans I take it. You were busy at work.

RampantIvy · 08/09/2023 06:45

RosesAndHellebores · 08/09/2023 03:54

He's a semi-literate frog and he will not turn into a Prince so there's no point kissing him.

Best answer.

Justyouwaitandseeagain · 08/09/2023 06:47

for those defending him as 'potentially dyslexic' my DH is dyslexic and never sent a text like that. I have dyslexic friends and work colleagues and they've never sent texts like that.

OP - unless you are looking for a sub/dom type relationship for some reason, and enjoy the threat of a 'smak bum' from a potential partner, I would block and move on.

Manipulatorsbemanipulating · 08/09/2023 06:51

Trez1510 · 08/09/2023 01:38

He's your prince. Nab him quick before someone else does.

🤣This!!

Hibiscrubbed · 08/09/2023 06:51

I’d think he was an embarrassing illiterate.

Aposterhasnoname · 08/09/2023 06:53

I’d think he was a thick creep and run a mile.

itsgettingweird · 08/09/2023 06:57

Well I'd be extremely bad at messaging back after that.

As in - I wouldn't Grin I'd be find the block button!

babyproblems · 08/09/2023 07:00

needy and illiterate!! Not my cup of tea

RudsyFarmer · 08/09/2023 07:00

He sounds uneducated which would turn me off and the attempt to be sexy is just cringe.

MeridianB · 08/09/2023 07:03

Catsmere · 08/09/2023 01:18

I'd think it was an illiterate troll/scammer/sexual harasser and block it immediately.

This. Ick. Block.

Viviennemary · 08/09/2023 07:04

Yuck.

Maddy70 · 08/09/2023 07:04

Immature and gave me the ick

Chippy4me · 08/09/2023 07:05

He’s trying to tell you that he’s a bit annoyed whilst still being flirty/sexual to let you know he’s still interested.

It would make me feel a bit eww but I wouldn’t judge him based solely on this.

Just tell him you can’t have your phone at work and so it takes a while to reply.

This would be a bit of a red flag for me because I don’t like being expected to reply straight away but if you’re taking over a day to reply then that may also be a red flag for him.

Apart from this text what is the relationship like?

WaltzingWaters · 08/09/2023 07:05

Ewwww. No. Ditch.

Fluffyfluffkins · 08/09/2023 07:07

YoureALizardHarry11 · 08/09/2023 01:35

He’s laying down his controlling expectations early while disguising it as a joke. He also comes across a bit thick, so it would put me off for that alone.

This exactly.

Nagado · 08/09/2023 07:07

I think that the first message would bother me slightly more than the second. He’s telling you that he expects a quicker response time from you. The lol is to soften that message. It looks like he’s thought about it for 20 minutes and decided to try and soften it a bit further by turning it into an opportunity to ramp things up a notch, again accompanied by another lol so he can say it was just a joke if you call him out on it.

Obviously up to you but that first message would seriously irk me. The second just makes me feel slightly grimy and would make me think that his confidence far exceeds his skill set.

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