What would your thoughts be if you received this text message?

[Cantsleep1234]

For context I have been messaging this person and sometimes I don’t reply quickly due to working or other things and this is what he says. Top message supposed to say ‘at messaging’ I’m guessing..I’m mid twenties and he is mid thirties.

Thank you all for your replies. I just feel as though he is being very full on as well. We haven’t actually met properly yet and he has sent other messages such as these too

I was just wanting to see if it would put others off which is why I posted.

Nah. I have worked with people all over the world with English as a second language & I can spot the difference. People with English as a second language are usually pretty good. Same for dyslexic people- it is usually better than this.

Yes I may be rude (I have standards, sorry) but so is wanting to give a spanking to someone who is working hard & prioritising that over messaging them back.

Or they could have been drunk - that is what it looks like to me (yes I can see it was sent at 6pm ish).

The spelling and grammar is atrocious - that alone puts me right off. Then there’s the ick-inducing content.

That made me cringe !!🤑

Absolutely this. I did OLD for too long and there was always some creep loser who'd drop stuff like this in to try and take it to dirty talk.

He wants you to reply with something filthy.

I really can't imagine a scenario where I read a text and reading you're gets me excited but an incorrect your completely turns me off.

Genuinely op, he's absolutely hideous.

But more, the fact that you had to check this and have been clearly sending messages back, is concerning.

You have an extremely low bar.

I wouldn't have sent him a single message after whatever his first one was.

Sorry but this.

His last message is even worse. I'd love to know how old this man is.

He sounds gross from that one message.

The thing with dating is that I can be as discriminatory as I like, for whatever reason. I know I would be incompatible with this man because I value literacy and education. His spelling mistakes aren't from dyslexia - I know what that looks like. They may be from lack of opportunity but in this context, I don't care. I'm not obliged to date someone I'd be incompatible with because his poor choices and/ or chances in life mean he can't spell.

For the OP, that's up to her. But if the spelling doesn't put her off, the manipulation should.

@PeppermintMandy
Do people who struggle with spelling not deserve a romantic relationship?

What's deserving got to do with anything?

Does OP have to award herself as a good behaviour prize to semi-literate oiks?

@Keyworks

It is absolutely obvious from the tone, actual words used, lols, the (lame) attempt to 'banter'; that this isn't about dyslexia. This is a man of extremely low intelligence.

A person is perfectly allowed to choose not date someone of extremely low intelligence is they don't want to; it isn't being ableist!

I had a boyfriend with dyslexia last year - it manifests in his spelling, but he still expresses himself articulately. This man isn't dyslexic, he has low intelligence.

Cross post @WisherWood with almost the same comment!!

But on the plus side you both have a lack of sleep in common

I found them equally offensive! 🤢

You’ve not actually met yet and he’s messaging this crap? I suppose that’s good , just block and move on. He’s everything other pp have said, possibly controlling, attention demanding and just very 🤮 inducing.

His appalling grasp of the English language would be bad enough, couple it with the stupid, sexist and attention-seeking shite that he’s actually trying to write and it’s almost unbearable.

I would not send one more message to this idiot. Who punctuates sentences with lol xx. Is he a child

Gross. Block.

As a mum of a dyslexic son I'm heartbroken at some of these comments. No one will ever receive a love letter or correctly written card from him but he is clever, good looking, kind and has a lovely sense of humour. Hopefully, he will meet someone who values those qualities and be willing to overlook the massive failing that is his spelling.

The content of the messages are vile and you should run a mile.

The one man I knew who regularly dated women 10 years younger than him seemed lovely on the outside. He was very close to his mum and didn’t have sisters, only brothers. Very much a man in touch with his feminine side and I was his platonic close friend as well as very briefly for a few months his girlfriend.

He liked to tell women how to dress but sometimes in a mean way. He was controlling and moody but it’d come out at strange times and as a friend and me being a naive 26 year old wasn’t used to this!

It was only when we started dating and we went to a restaurant in Brighton where he took all his girlfriends and I mentioned “oh you took me there” (as a friend) and he said “but that’s only a place where I took my girlfriends (romantically not platonic!). I even shared his bed at his request as a “friend”. Red flags are screaming at me now!

OP, any man who can’t spell and you barely know and wants to smack your bum, that’s fine if you’re in a relationship in and off and you know he sometimes sends this but this early on it’s controlling and creepy.

Urgh...'Lols' aside, he's pretty pathetic mentioning being in bed on his own, trying the sympathy card. Poor thing.
Pretty obvious what he's after and you've said yourself that he's being full on, and you've not even met (luckily!) You've had plenty of validation on here now so you know what you need to do OP, good luck finding someone less desperate 😎

My DH's SPAG isn't great - should of instead of have, wrong type of too, etc, so this I could definitely overlook. Looking back now though I realise how much effort he put in to those early messages as the SPAG has got much worse since!

If OP had said he was in his early 20s I could have put a lot of the tone down to immaturity, but in his 30s gives me the right ick.

I went out with a couple of guys that were a bit like this and it's safe to say that when this shit started they soon got kicked to the kerb. He's acting like a randy teenager and that is not attractive.

Yes op it definitely would
What a creep