To just want to stay at home and make pancakes

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Last week of being at home with Dd, 5, until it’s back to school and work..all the rushing, emails, WhatsApp school groups and so on.
Lovely, slow morning making pancakes for Dd for breakfast, early morning dog walk, baking later.
Aibu to want to live like this everyday?
I’d very happily never work again, given the choice. People say they’d be bored, I wouldn’t, I’d walk the dog, meet friends, work out, read, write, cook great meals, be fully present with Dd without feeling rushed/stressed at times

I feel the same.

I was just saying this!

I think sometimes it's a case of wanting what you don't normally have to be honest. I'm currently on mat leave and so bored 🫠 And the idea of spending all day everyday with a baby and toddler fills me with dread every day. Whereas before I left work I was so longing for more time with DD1 and envisioned the lovely days I would spend with them both. Actually I feel quite stressed most days, and now long for work. I think a balance works best for me, so I'm only going back 4 days a week. Enjoy your day today with your DD and hope she has a lovely first day!

I like the balance. I work two days with my little one at nursery three days and his brother at school full time.

I won't be going back to work full time when they're both in school

I don't work Monday to Friday & Sometimes I do get bored. Although there is plenty to do at home 🙃 I do go to the gym and out with friends for lunch quit a bit.

I was thinking this morning that I didn't miss making packed lunches in the morning 🤣

Not unreasonable to think it, but sadly adult life doesn't work like that does it? We need to work to put food on the table. Nobody is going to do it for us.

Can I come? I loooooooovvvve pancakes

To do this it usually means someone else who has to work and someone has to pay this bills, mortgage/rent

I've been sahm, done home ed even, and am now working full time. I couldn't go back to being sahm, I need something that's mine. I spent many years meeting the needs of other people, and I feel like my career is for me now. We benefit from the wage, of course, but the satisfaction is my own.

I wish we had a more family friendly set up just a few days of work a week rather than 5 full days would definitely make me happier. Alas I can’t afford it

I never get why people say they are bored being at home looking after their own children. A whole new person who changes & learns every day.
Why did you bother having them?

I work full time but still work out, see friends, read etc I would not only be bored but it also wouldn't feel right leaving my husband to provide for me financially when I'm more than capable of doing it and so sharing the financial load.

DS goes to nursery full time but I feel like I'm still present when I'm with him and we still get plenty of quality time together.

I’d love to do this but it wouldn’t be fair to DH to pay all of the bills! I wouldn’t have a pension either!

People? Or do you mean mothers? Because no one questions fathers not wanting to be at home looking after their own children and asks them why they bother having children.

Absolutely, while your brain rots.

@SouthLondonMum22 yes I meant people, which is what I put - mothers & fathers; so if there are any fathers on here my statement is directed at them too.

I suppose that's ok if you're married or have a partner who's happy for you to do that?

Do you have a pension?
Any idea what would happen if you split up ?

I could easily fill my time if I didn't work, YANBU.

YANBU. You wouldn’t be bored you would still have a lot to do. But as your DC gets older you might start to feel bored and want to work, almost needing to start over

Absolutely. We are trapped as capitalist drones. We should realise this and then all demand a better quality of life.
There must be a better way to live than the way some (most?) of us are living?

Two or max three days of work for everyone and then the rest of the time doing the real things that matter in life.

I was feeling low at returning to the treadmill of routine. I had a great summer with the kids and managed 3 weeks off with them in total. I like my job but I'd like a 3 day weekend now please.

I'm a SAHM and will be until my son goes to school (I don't think my brain is rotting as per a PP states!)

I was just thinking yesterday how wonderful it is. I love not working for these few years.

I spent yesterday afternoon in the garden, we had the paddling pool out, ice lollies, card games, boules...and spent a fair bit of time lying on our backs watching the sky. It was gorgeous.

Wouldn't swap it for anything.

God no. I was a sahm before mine started school and I won’t lie I was lucky to have that time and we we had some great times, but the monotony of the park and going for walks and the park again and soft play and the kids whining by 9am and nothing but cleaning up all day every day drove me round the bend.

Much happier now I work (mostly part time though) and kids are at school. I never got to be a sahm with school age kids though, I’m sure I could fill my time if I tried.

How would you pay the bills and put food on the table ?.

I wasn't particularly talking about being a SAHM- the primary school run could be extremely monotonous and I only ever did it part of the time. Also I wouldn't want to be funded by anyone else but my own private income would be nice! I could definitely fill my time without working as a parent of older children and without my brain turning to mush. I could study what I wanted and work for fun without worrying about income.