DH wants to sleep with the window open

[Dramatic]

Ok so I am aware it's a bit warm atm, however I cannot settle with the window open. Mostly because I have a deathly fear of moths but also the noise keeps me awake.

Aibu to want it closed?

I'm team DH, I can't sleep with closed windows.

Our bedroom window is open a few inches year round, although I do close it if we get snow.

I do have net curtains on a lot of our windows which minimises what gets in.

I'm with your DH though. Fresh air is needed, especially in this warm weather.

Window screens are your friend here OP. Buy them from Amazon. Not the cheap Velcro ones. They are useless. But you can buy ones with a metal frame that you customise to the size of your window.

This is the sort of thing that would flatten a new relationship for me, along with bed side! I couldn't bear to sleep with it closed at the min. And if you have the room properly dark you won't get huge amounts of moths.

Ha funny to come across this thread when I'm desperately searching for hotels with bloody opening windows! I hate the trend for sealed windows aircon is never good enough!

YABVU!

We sleep in different rooms for this reason. I want them open all year round, he doesn't want them open at all.

Doesnt the bedroom smell a bit... fusty without the windows open?

If you are a light sleeper, like me, I can HIGHLY recommend a white noise machine. Got one off Amazon and it has an option to sound like falling rain. Blocks other street noise, and I finally get a good night's sleep

Na it's fine, I still have my 13 tog duvet on too 🤷 I'm always cold

Same apart from I don’t care about moths. My issue is noise! When my son sleeps through I massively begrudge being woken by foxes, noisy neighbors who work nights coming home at a ridiculous hour and banging around and noisy lorries going past… all of which have woken me this last week!

I have a net curtain over my window, I can't abide flies. If I can't open my window I'd melt.
As for noise reduction methods, I can't use anything that's in ear, so I shove my head under my pillow. Feathers work better than hollowfibre.

I've got these on all my windows because of wasps and moths and they are brilliant ☺️

I couldn't bear to have the windows closed. We have them open 24/7 except in heavy rain (although no traffic noise admittedly). Moths won't bother you, especially if you shut the curtains

You do realise that house spiders don't come in from outside usually? They usually live indoors year round (behind skirting boards, eg) and just scuttle out when they're looking for a mate.
But something that might help: we don't like mosquitos and my husband put magnetic fly screens up so that the air can come in but even tiny insects can't!

It's boiling hot, so of course he wants the window open. Fixing a net of some kind to the window sounds a good idea - I've got one at the back door. It was from Amazon.

I had this issue but the menopause means I have to have the windows open now ) I have a blackout blind that stops the moths ( and some of the air from the open window but not all) and put on a small fan to block out the outside noise

Mine is shut but then I live alone and I sleep downstairs. It's hot but I don't feel safe with an open window.

Another moth-phobic here. But my window is always open. I don't turn lights on till the curtains are drawn.

I keep mine closed as our street can be noisy with cars coming home quite late and more cars going out really early. Feels constant with engines and doors banging. But I have opened it tonight in the hood of it cooling down enough to close it when I go up to bed as it’s really to hot tonight!! My kids both have their windows open and also fans on!!

@SayNoToDoorToDoor brilliant idea

I can’t sleep with closed windows and also scared of moths. My partner turns on the light outside the bedroom so no moths come to ours.

This love the fresh air

Question for everyone who keeps their window open all year - do you use heating in your house? Are you not just pumping the heat outside if you have the window open? Genuine question as I often think about opening a window in winter but having spent a fortune heating the house it feels like a waste

We don’t have bedroom radiators on as we have so many upstairs windows open. I really hate hot bedrooms and our kids are now the same.

I'd find it too stuffy with the windows closed. We have a small window open from April/May and when it's v hot like this week, the big windows get opened as well.
I sleep fairly badly anyway. I can hear next doors pond/fountain but indoor noises (tap dripping, DH snoring, cats scratching the carpet or meowing) are a lot more annoying!

YABVU!

Our windows are open all the time, except in winter, as it's too warm and stuffy otherwise.

We currently have windows open and fan on at the moment - there's no way I could sleep in a hot, stuffy room with windows closed 🥵