Days out, wanky names, and whining kids

[Tonightsthenight91]

I know ibu and this is a light hearted ish thread. Feeling riled after yesterdays and todays outings.

yesterday went out to a popular attraction with my DC. Very busy with it being last day of summer holidays for most. Today to a local park, some schools have gone back near us and some haven’t.

Both times - EVERYWHERE there were kids crying, whining, parents flustered, kids having tantrums and/or injuring themselves. Sometimes I take a step back and observe scenes like these and think WHY do we do it to ourselves? It seems the vast majority of parents are stressed up to their eyeballs on days out with kids that can’t seem to be pleased. Watching parents struggle whilst sun cream gets slapped on, soggy picnic sarnies, ice creams attracting wasps.

Then there’s the insta mum brigade trying to keep everyone picture perfect for photo shoots getting worked up when their kids aren’t Co-operating shouting at their oh-so-uniquely-named kids to pose/keep clean/don’t go in the mud/hug their sibling. Ugghhh it’s draining to even overhear never mind be in it!

every time kids are around I’m silently cringing at the “unique” name trend some parents seem to be on. Do people not realise the more unique they try to sound they ironically appear more common in the try hard to be different group?! Some that stood out to me were “kitch” 3 siblings called “blue beaux and B” “winter” “Adonis” and the best of all “darling dolce” 🙃

I know iabu I’m just grumpy after a long 6 weeks and sick of having to do child friendly stuff every day. Roll on Wednesday when my DC are back 😂

Obviously I never meant it literally it's just a phrase.

That makes no sense! 😀

What do you mean you 'didn't mean it literally'?

The phrase is a horrible one to use with respect to giving birth, it doesn't really matter what you meant!

🙄

Great thread OP! Whenever people
open up with a spontaneous light hearted rant like yours there are people who look to be offended and clearly you’ve touched a nerve with one or two over the name thing.

But overall your post is spot on and most people will be able to relate to it at some level even if they don’t admit it. MN would be a dull place without threads like yours.

Yeah we know that. It's still misogynistic

Ok it’s all getting a little tetchy here. Like I said this is lighthearted on the back of my annoyance for kids being… well little shits quite frankly.

to balance it out, I cringe at the fact I’m what would be classed as a “yummy mummy cool wife” on mumsnet and hate the fact. So find myself trying to actively steer away from that cliche, so I myself am a try hard… but in the opposite way!

Thank you! I do worry some of those families I’ve mentioned are the ones commenting 😬😂

That's so sad. You should parent/wife however you want

Calling some children's names wanky isn't particularly light-hearted. It's unkind and rude. That's probably why some people are a little tetchy.

I appreciate you might have thought you were being funny but it isn't really.

Insisting that your unpleasant opinions are light-hearted doesn't make them so.

I can't agree.

I think OP expressing the hell that can be days out with small DC is fine. The scene she described in the park seemed just like normal stuff for anywhere with small DC, to me.

My DC are now older but I'm impatient by nature so when they were small, we went early to places likely to get crazy busy & removed ourselves when it got to that point.

The names bit ... no. I can't tolerate the sneeriness at all. I often hear names that I don't like but that's all - for example, my preference is for Irish names, so all mine have those. Other people would hate that & choose completely differently. Sure, I sometimes hear unusual names that I think 'really?' to, but that's it. I don't comment or have an excessively negative view on them. They are just names!

It'd certainly be a nicer place without people being offensive about other people's choices.

(And no, @Tonightsthenight91 ) I'm not "one of those parents" you were being insulting about. (Mine's 20 and has a very traditional name and I don't use Instagram. Funnily enough, I can see when something is offensive even when the intended victim isn't me)

That's so sad. You should parent/wife however you want

Yes (tho I'm trying not to wince at the use of 'wife' as a verb). I don't even know what this actually means or how it's classified on MN? I’m what would be classed as a “yummy mummy cool wife” on mumsnet I haven't come across it here.

Calling some children's names wanky isn't particularly light-hearted. It's unkind and rude. That's probably why some people are a little tetchy.

Exactly this.

The names seem fine to me. I wouldn't choose them and would probably chuckle inwardly at 'Adonis' but I wouldn't think further than that.

Yes sorry. I hated it too as I typed it!

i have pet names for my kids and use them in public - I wouldn’t shout it out but might say in normal voice! They have perfectly normal names - DD’s was pretty uncommon when she was born but in much wider usage now esp on TV so you never know with slightly unusual names.

I'm just going by my experience of working in childcare. I'm not judging anyone for having to use it, I've used it myself. But in my honest opinion some children learn bad behaviour from other children and when they spend time with their parents it's a readjustment for both parent and child, especially when that child spends 5 days a week there often from 7am-6-7pm at night. It's a huge difference to spending 24/7 with a parent and you can the difference between a parent who is constantly with their kids and one who is not so much.

I've seen it a few times on here now. Like someone writes a thread that is light hearted and then gets upset when people say . Er that's not lighthearted.

@jallopeno lighten up, I've plopped out 3 myself. Albeit I had 36 hour labours before they plopped out of course.

Yeah, posting nasty, sneery comments about children's names is such a great thread! Well done!!

There's nothing lighthearted about calling them wanky.

No. Shan't.

Yes, it seems to have become a get out clause for posting offensive stuff really.

"But I put light-hearted so I can be as nasty as I want because it's FUNNY!"

Yes sorry. I hated it too as I typed it!

😂 forgiven! (In fairness the sentence called for it!)

I'm just going by my experience of working in childcare

You've worked in poor places then

especially when that child spends 5 days a week there often from 7am-6-7pm at night.

A very small minority do this. My DC went to crèche at about 8 & were collected a lot 530. Sometimes they had longer days, yes. They still spent time with me each morning, bedtime & all weekends.

Family values & behaviours are not going to be excessively influenced by some misbehaviour in childcare or school.

Each family makes choices that work for them, and I'm fully supportive of a family where 1 parent chooses to stay at home.

There will be pluses and minuses to each approach, and your generalisations are silly.

No. Shan't.

😂😂😂

Love 'shan't'. Not used in Ireland so my DC picked it up from the My Naughty Little Sister books (she said a lot, I recall!) & loved using it!

I hate it when people get snobby over children's names. I recently had my friends 2 foster kids for the day, they are named after cities (not Florence, that ones acceptable apparently) and you could literally see the eye rolls from other people in the National Trust cafe.