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Minor celebs wife being rude in pub

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cattreatsanddragrace · 04/09/2023 09:28

Went to a country pub yesterday with my partner. Nice little place in the Surrey countryside, part of a chain, not fine dining. Very busy as the weather was really good, some stressed looking teenage girls trying to serve everyone. Kids play area in the garden and a bar in the garden area for drinks. We were sat on the patio attached to the restaurant.

A minor TV celeb, his wife, and another couple were sat across from us. The wife of the minor celeb complained a few times (that I heard).

First time: That one of the starters came out fractionally behind one of the others. (It was busy, there were four of them, the waitress can only carry two plates?!)

Second time: that the prawns in their prawn cocktail were inedible. (To be fair, I'd let this complaint slide as I didn't eat the prawn cocktail. It could have been bad). The waitress apologised and had a new dish made for them.

Third time: and this is the one that got me. The mains came, and the waitress went to put the plates down. The wife of the celeb laughed and stopped the waitress, and told her that "you don't serve plates from that side" aka the waitress was stood on the wrong side of her putting her plate down. She made the waitress go round the other side and put her plate down. This wasn't a silver service Michelin starred restaurant where you might expect such things. Just a standard pub.

So my (lighthearted) AIBU - do I sell this story to the Daily Mail and name and shame?

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Throwncrumbs · 04/09/2023 17:33

I met a very famous actress once, she was very ‘don’t you know who I am’, I pretended I didn’t know, and she told me ‘she’s been in many film and on tv’ I said ‘ I don’t waste my time watching television, I have better things to do’ she was very put out. I’m not pandering to someone who makes a living out of ‘acting’ ….they are no better than anyone else!

Sallyh87 · 04/09/2023 17:33

Anyone rude to wait staff are scum as far as I’m concerned. It’s like a bizarre power play against someone who is weaker. Simply bullying by little people.

VeloVixen · 04/09/2023 17:35

My Dd waitresses. Someone treated her in a similar manner once and Dd said to her “do you know you’re being really fucking rude”. Customer obviously complained but Dd wasn’t sacked. The manager said to her afterwards the customer probably deserved it. A lot are vile to the staff.

One day this celebs wife will say something to someone like my Dd, who I can assure you would ignore any suggestions to serve from the other side, she’s more likely to tip it in someone’s lap!

londonmummy1966 · 04/09/2023 17:36

SurreyMumOfOne · 04/09/2023 15:30

@cattreatsanddragrace which pub? I'm always on the look out for pubs with play areas! (DM appreciated if you don't want to say in public!)

Pretty certain this won't be the pub in question as it isn't that rural but The Refectory in Milford has a play area and lots of tables next to it - have spent many a happy lunchtime there when DC were small as I could supervise from the table.

MadeleineMummy · 04/09/2023 17:37

pinkyredrose · 04/09/2023 16:06

That chef should've been reported and sacked.

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I was very young and did not want to rock the boat. the chefs ruled the roost at the time in the 80’s and their words were law. The amount of sexual harassment and racial harassment of the kitchen porters were off the scale. Everyone just had to laugh it off.

I also subsequently worked in a few restaurants and they were the most toxic work environments that I have ever worked in. This is so far in my past but am not sure that things have changed.

I am so glad I now have a choice.

MadeleineMummy · 04/09/2023 17:39

This is why I never send anything back.

Tinkerbyebye · 04/09/2023 17:39

Yes I would

Sallyh87 · 04/09/2023 17:40

One way or another this is guaranteed to be picked up by the Daily Mail 😂

londonmummy1966 · 04/09/2023 17:42

true story - a footman dropped a load of plates during a formal dinner at Buck House. Majority of people in the room turned to look - the late Queen and Princess Royal both continued eating and looking at their plates so as not to disconcert him even more. The next day the Queen asked to see him to check that he was alright and to say that everyone has the occasional accident and not to worry about it. ie never ever embarass staff for an honest mistake. I've always thought what was good for the Queen was probably good enough for the rest of us.

VeloVixen · 04/09/2023 17:45

TGGreen · 04/09/2023 11:36

Serve food left, clear right.

I just consider it a bonus these days if I get served from either side….so many times they stay one side of the table and lean over! Even then I wouldn’t be as much of an arse to say anything

VeloVixen · 04/09/2023 17:50

DragonFly98 · 04/09/2023 12:58

She was rude but the waitress should have served from the left really. Nobody wants to be leaned over when being served. I would have kept quiet though.

How does serving from the right rather than the left increase the amount of leaning over?

Charlize43 · 04/09/2023 17:51

Isn't pub food normally chucked over from the bar?

Yes, get onto the DM and name and shame!

Lullaby1973 · 04/09/2023 17:55

Did you get pictures. My DD was in a restaurant last year, and sent me a photo of a celebrity and her ex looking cozy. I told her to contact the sun newspaper. They bought her pictures and she got 400 pounds.

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 04/09/2023 17:56

@VeloVixen How does serving from the right rather than the left increase the amount of leaning over?

I think it's about predictability, back in the downton abbey type era, when someone is stood to your right shoulder they're not trying to serve you they're serving the person next to you and then they come round with your food.

Less awkwardness and spillage, overall. Nevertheless, in this day and age I doubt most customers even know the 'rule' and I find people who have a go at waitresses to be unbearable insecure bullies.

TheFutureMrsWolowitz · 04/09/2023 17:59

I’m baffled by this. It’s a bit tawdry to sell like this surely. People going about their lives.

TheFutureMrsWolowitz · 04/09/2023 18:00

That was to lullaby

OhChacha · 04/09/2023 18:01

I wouldn't be surprised if it were vogue Williams

justasking111 · 04/09/2023 18:03

I like Bradley Walsh. Poor bugger being married to a cringe making partner.

We have a lovely Marina restaurant/bar and had a lot of Corrie folks over the years. Most of them nice but we've had a few horrors. Two of my sons worked there during school and university holidays. They said mum they're big spenders so the boss tolerates them.

BirdiePlantaganet · 04/09/2023 18:11

Lullaby1973 · 04/09/2023 17:55

Did you get pictures. My DD was in a restaurant last year, and sent me a photo of a celebrity and her ex looking cozy. I told her to contact the sun newspaper. They bought her pictures and she got 400 pounds.

This is vile.

snurtifier · 04/09/2023 18:16

The title of this thread sounds like a really good cryptic crossword clue. Just needs a number in brackets to tell us how many letters.

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 04/09/2023 18:21

limitedperiodonly · 04/09/2023 17:20

What a load of old bollocks. I interview celebs. One of the biggest cunts I've ever met was a multi Oscar winner. His director, not a shrinking violet, was actually apologising for him at the press conference.

The film was a 7 out of 10 considering he's done a lot worse since then.

Your comment is to be filed under "old money with their moth-eaten clothes know how to behave rather than the ghastly nouveaux riches and the Queen Mum, Gawd bless her, liked a flutter and who cares if she didn't pay her debts?"

Stop licking arseholes.

One of the most appalling people I have ever met was a prominent Duke (it wasn't Harry, who I think is a whiner but not in this man's league). He was a shocker and his son is worse and doesn't have the excuse of a personality-changing stroke like his dad did.

You'd know who they were because you've quite possibly paid to have a peek at their stately home.

I was also shocked by a celebrated and now deceased female academic who told a younger female friend of mine, so about 40 years younger than her, that she should go out with an awkward young man in her department because it would be good for his self esteem.

WTF?

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In fairness to @Galatine, she did say that in general the major celebs were courteous and polite, while the minor ones could be discourteous. She didn’t say it was true in 100% of cases, @limitedperiodonly.

ittakes2 · 04/09/2023 18:21

Bobbotgegrinch · 04/09/2023 10:02

Why does it matter that she was a celebs wife? What's wrong with "Woman rude in pub" as your thread title? Why define this woman by her husband?

Disclaimer: I know I'm ranting unreasonably here, but literally just finished seething at Alistair Campbell and Rory Stewart's interview with "Nick Cleggs wife" and there may be some transference of rage going on.

I wondered the same myself - or the celeb is defined by his wife - no mention of celeb acting badly

Lullaby1973 · 04/09/2023 18:22

Your opinion is irrelevant

VeloVixen · 04/09/2023 18:26

stillplentyofjunkinthetrunk · 04/09/2023 17:56

@VeloVixen How does serving from the right rather than the left increase the amount of leaning over?

I think it's about predictability, back in the downton abbey type era, when someone is stood to your right shoulder they're not trying to serve you they're serving the person next to you and then they come round with your food.

Less awkwardness and spillage, overall. Nevertheless, in this day and age I doubt most customers even know the 'rule' and I find people who have a go at waitresses to be unbearable insecure bullies.

Sure I get that, but it doesn’t actually increase the amount of leaning over the seated person like a pp suggested. I agree, most people don’t know/care anymore so especially in a chain pub the predictability issue isn’t really a thing anymore.

SurreyMumOfOne · 04/09/2023 18:30

@londonmummy1966 Thanks for that, I'll look it up!