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Minor celebs wife being rude in pub

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cattreatsanddragrace · 04/09/2023 09:28

Went to a country pub yesterday with my partner. Nice little place in the Surrey countryside, part of a chain, not fine dining. Very busy as the weather was really good, some stressed looking teenage girls trying to serve everyone. Kids play area in the garden and a bar in the garden area for drinks. We were sat on the patio attached to the restaurant.

A minor TV celeb, his wife, and another couple were sat across from us. The wife of the minor celeb complained a few times (that I heard).

First time: That one of the starters came out fractionally behind one of the others. (It was busy, there were four of them, the waitress can only carry two plates?!)

Second time: that the prawns in their prawn cocktail were inedible. (To be fair, I'd let this complaint slide as I didn't eat the prawn cocktail. It could have been bad). The waitress apologised and had a new dish made for them.

Third time: and this is the one that got me. The mains came, and the waitress went to put the plates down. The wife of the celeb laughed and stopped the waitress, and told her that "you don't serve plates from that side" aka the waitress was stood on the wrong side of her putting her plate down. She made the waitress go round the other side and put her plate down. This wasn't a silver service Michelin starred restaurant where you might expect such things. Just a standard pub.

So my (lighthearted) AIBU - do I sell this story to the Daily Mail and name and shame?

OP posts:
Appleass · 04/09/2023 15:24

Yes do it, for the poor waitress !

Sheswearsby · 04/09/2023 15:24

You're sure it was his wife OP?
Might have been an agent, sister or friend.
Still, not a nice way to behave - but the thread makes me feel uncomfortable.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 04/09/2023 15:25

Lambiriyani · 04/09/2023 14:57

Was Bradley Walsh rude?

I've always imagined actors on Doctor Who are kind souls irl

exactky! He might be mortified by his DW but powerless to stop her.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 04/09/2023 15:28

Oh his wife is an ex model dancer. My aunt is a fairly well known (by her face) pre 80s (70s) model. She is generally lovely but if you’ve had to rely on your looks for years then you can be a bit dismissive of others etc… I think.

SurreyMumOfOne · 04/09/2023 15:30

@cattreatsanddragrace which pub? I'm always on the look out for pubs with play areas! (DM appreciated if you don't want to say in public!)

butterpuffed · 04/09/2023 15:30

imagiantwitch · 04/09/2023 11:24

This doesn’t surprise me, as Bradley Walsh is actually a bit of an arse in real life too!

Ah , you know him . Friend, neighbour or colleague ?

HufflyShuffly · 04/09/2023 15:31

ImNotWorthy · 04/09/2023 13:59

To the thread police: if you are sincere, why do you keep posting? It keeps the thread in Trending, and won't alter other posters' behaviour one jot.

What thread Police?

No-ones said this is fine or not in regards to MN as a site.

Some people have said it's not fine at all in regards to lots of other things.

Thread Policing is 'this isn't acceptable here on this site because of these rules'.

Saying this is shitty anywhere is just people expressing their opinions and some people objecting to that by citing 'thread policing' and wanting to not be called out about their horrible and abusive behaviour.

If it stays in trending and people see it, that's a good thing. Far too many MN threads where people are nasty, abusive bullies lacking in comprehension or evidential skills are left standing.

Daisyislazy · 04/09/2023 15:32

I would just leave it

Maverickess · 04/09/2023 15:38

Appleass · 04/09/2023 15:24

Yes do it, for the poor waitress !

In the nicest possible way, I'd be feeling shit enough after being treated like that by any customer, in front of a garden full of other people, without it then being dragged through the press as well tbh, I once got named on a review wrongly, I wasn't even at work, they got someone else's name wrong and it happened to be mine. And more than one person peered at my badge and announced that I was 'the one who didn't like children!'.

Her colleagues will all know who she is already, and any regulars. I wouldn't want to be the focus of this type of attention when I had done nothing to court it at all, but my job.

Though no-one seems that bothered about the backlash on the waiting staff involved here, as long as the feelings of a badly behaved 'celebrity' customer are observed it's all good (that's not a dig at the poster quoted, but a general observation).

If anyone is wondering why no one wants to work in hospitality, this thread is a prime example.

Bobbotgegrinch · 04/09/2023 15:39

MaggieFS · 04/09/2023 15:18

That's interesting. I haven't got around to listening to it yet, but was pleased to note in the trailer that they did NOT mention Clegg at all.

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To be fair, it was a really interesting interview, but they spent a huge amount of time talking about Cleggs time in government, and not much talking about Marias "Inspiring Girls" organisation.

I get that they're both all about the politics, but if that was all they were going to talk about, they may as well have interviewed Clegg instead.

Dramatico · 04/09/2023 15:42

FullFatPhil · 04/09/2023 14:41

"Posting an opinion about a celeb is not the same as being a 'mob' (how can one person be a mob anyway?) and is not the same as behaving like a bully."

Christ, it's like banging my head against a brick wall 🤪. For one last time...You and other posters together make up the mob. It is mob mentality. And it's disgusting, cowardly, bully behaviour.

No. What happened was that I posted a perfectly innocuous opinion based on my long experience of food service (and small business ownership although that's another matter).

You then swung in, all guns blazing, to tell me I was wrong, and to ascribe all sorts of characteristics to me, which I had not evinced. You had plucked them out of thin air.

I mildly responded to you several times, because I don't like aggressive bullying posts like the ones you made.

You, for whatever reason, seem to become quite disturbed when people disagree with you online, so you began flailing, baselessly imputing all sorts of motives to me, making assumptions, ad hominem attacks, accusing me of things I hadn't done, and reaching for more and more ludicrous conclusions, all whilst using an unnecessarily aggressive tone, and oddly violent language.

I don't know why you're so angry today, or if it's a permanent state. I don't care enough about you to say that I'm sorry you feel the way you do. I stand by all my opnions, and I'm enjoying interacting with people on this thread. You feel free to keep flailing, but I won't be responding to you again, because your posts are starting to bore me.

limitedperiodonly · 04/09/2023 15:44

MadeleineMummy · 04/09/2023 14:22

When I was quite young teenager before leaving for University, I worked as a waitress in a quiet swanky restaurant. A quite rich looking woman sent back her fillet steak and asked for it to be cooked more as it was underdone.

the chef took the steak in his hands, pulled down his trousers and wiped his arse with the steak, then wiped the floor with it and all the chefs took turns spitting on it before putting it back underneath the grill until it was nearly burnt to buggery. Then he served it and I took it out to the woman. She said it was lovely. I will never forget this.

I never send food back nearly 40 years later and just don’t eat it if it is not good.

I call bullshit.

travelogue · 04/09/2023 15:57

I have no idea who Bradley Walsh is. So I'm going to have to google him. "Celebs" could definitely misbehave in front of me without fear of it being on MN or in the DF!

I would have had an eye roll to myself if I saw anyone making a big show out of which side to serve food in a pub. Half the time you are so squashed in to corners they have to pass your plate right across the table anyway.

FullFatPhil · 04/09/2023 16:00

"You feel free to keep flailing, but I won't be responding to you again, because your posts are starting to bore me."

Love it when people get called out for bullying and their response is to get all pass agg. Mate, thank god you're not responding, me neither, your posts were boring me ages ago. I'm not angry at all.

Don't know why we all need to know you're a business owner Confused but maybe next time you're having a big business lunch, trust the waitress to deal with taking a dodgy prawn cocktail back to the kitchen. No need to seek out her boss and patronise her. However discreet you think you are.

Sorry to have upset you so much you need to repeat the word "flailing" lots and practise your gcse Latin 😅

pinkyredrose · 04/09/2023 16:06

MadeleineMummy · 04/09/2023 14:22

When I was quite young teenager before leaving for University, I worked as a waitress in a quiet swanky restaurant. A quite rich looking woman sent back her fillet steak and asked for it to be cooked more as it was underdone.

the chef took the steak in his hands, pulled down his trousers and wiped his arse with the steak, then wiped the floor with it and all the chefs took turns spitting on it before putting it back underneath the grill until it was nearly burnt to buggery. Then he served it and I took it out to the woman. She said it was lovely. I will never forget this.

I never send food back nearly 40 years later and just don’t eat it if it is not good.

That chef should've been reported and sacked.

AInightingale · 04/09/2023 16:33

It would be more of a story if it turned out not to be his wife.

I quite like Bradley Walsh and Blankety Blank is a guilty pleasure of mine, but his wife sounds a twat. Pulling someone up in public for 'bad table etiquette' is screamingly bad manners in itself.

Galatine · 04/09/2023 16:37

I used to work in a job were I dealt with both political and academic "celebrities". I found that in general the major ones were courteous and polite whilst the minor ones could be rude and unreasonably demanding.

Tatslookawful · 04/09/2023 16:45

I think it’s a bit of a myth about major celebs, having made it being beyond reproach. It’s like the Mumsmet myth of old school aristos & old money toffs being decidedly chummy & affable to working class types & new monied, vile.

IME the major (celeb) ones often better know how to play the game & they vary.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 04/09/2023 16:51

AInightingale · 04/09/2023 16:33

It would be more of a story if it turned out not to be his wife.

I quite like Bradley Walsh and Blankety Blank is a guilty pleasure of mine, but his wife sounds a twat. Pulling someone up in public for 'bad table etiquette' is screamingly bad manners in itself.

She’s a faded has been married to a minor celeb. Of course she wants to pull rank where she can. Silly woman. If that’s where she gets her kicks bring unpleasant to pub staff in a restaurant then I pity her.

Bradley does say about her that she’s his rock etc so she must be good in some ways.

GonnaGetGoingReturns · 04/09/2023 16:52

Galatine · 04/09/2023 16:37

I used to work in a job were I dealt with both political and academic "celebrities". I found that in general the major ones were courteous and polite whilst the minor ones could be rude and unreasonably demanding.

Generally this is true but not all the time.

Ghostjail · 04/09/2023 16:54

That is lovely. You should still apply for The Chase.

YouJustDoYou · 04/09/2023 17:18

Oh she's enjoying her little bit of imaginary power isn't she? Bitch.

limitedperiodonly · 04/09/2023 17:20

Galatine · 04/09/2023 16:37

I used to work in a job were I dealt with both political and academic "celebrities". I found that in general the major ones were courteous and polite whilst the minor ones could be rude and unreasonably demanding.

What a load of old bollocks. I interview celebs. One of the biggest cunts I've ever met was a multi Oscar winner. His director, not a shrinking violet, was actually apologising for him at the press conference.

The film was a 7 out of 10 considering he's done a lot worse since then.

Your comment is to be filed under "old money with their moth-eaten clothes know how to behave rather than the ghastly nouveaux riches and the Queen Mum, Gawd bless her, liked a flutter and who cares if she didn't pay her debts?"

Stop licking arseholes.

One of the most appalling people I have ever met was a prominent Duke (it wasn't Harry, who I think is a whiner but not in this man's league). He was a shocker and his son is worse and doesn't have the excuse of a personality-changing stroke like his dad did.

You'd know who they were because you've quite possibly paid to have a peek at their stately home.

I was also shocked by a celebrated and now deceased female academic who told a younger female friend of mine, so about 40 years younger than her, that she should go out with an awkward young man in her department because it would be good for his self esteem.

WTF?

Cherrysoup · 04/09/2023 17:21

I think a tweet would be perfect. Totally ridiculous to call out a pub server on the side she served on, it isn’t the Ritz! Why was she being such a jerk?

justteanbiscuits · 04/09/2023 17:23

cattreatsanddragrace · 04/09/2023 10:53

Hahahaha posted this then disappeared to do a bit of work, didn't think I'd get any body interested!
You're all right, probably not worth a fiver.

It was Bradley Walsh and his wife, who I'm led to believe is called Donna Derby.

And yes I referred to her as his wife, because I didn't have a clue who she was and didn't think anyone else would. He is the more famous so that is how it goes, I'm not being sexist.

And to those of you who said I'm boring or gossipy for noting these obvious interactions at a table directly in front of me...yep, I'm a gossip. Live freely in the knowledge that you're a better and more holier person than I :)

They live sort of local-ish to me, and I've seen them in local restaurants etc a few times. Bradley has always been really friendly and lovely to everyone around them. His wife hasn't crossed my radar. Maybe she was having a bad day - I've had plenty of those recently.