Hello,
Me and my ex, partner, who knows what the fuck he is we have been on and off for a few years. Our whole relationship has been 12 years, since I was 15.
We split in 2020 for 5 months with no contact and I slept with somebody else, he wanted to get back together I was honest told him what I'd done. He still, chose to come back home however just made my life an absolute misery, throwing accusations around all the time.
We have 2 children, he just disappears off with no contact quite regularly. He always uses the 'I'm a cheat' excuse.
Hes hit me, slammed my ankle in the car door, mentally abused me and just damaged my own self esteem.
He left again 6 weeks ago because I wouldn't do a lie detector with him in the room for the 3rd time (I did the test, passed it because I only slept with one person), no contact AGAIN, I called he just left it to ring, I text he never replied. Didnt contact the children, hasnt provided anything financially for the children. Then yesterday out of no where he comes to the house, the last 6 weeks I've been really mentally unwell and I've done some very silly things (to myself not anybody else), I have been a total wreck but the last week I've kind of picked myself up a little bit. Took the children swimming, cinema started feeling a little bit brighter and enjoying my freedom being able to go wherever I want, whenever I want.
I was physically sick when he came yesterday, he stayed about 4 hours no explanation, no conversation with me. Now I'm back to square one I'm back feeling like a helpless little girl who's lost. Please give me some words of advice, police are no help! They arrested him in April when he assaulted me, no bail conditions, no court hearing, nothing.