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Would this mum also annoy you

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blulight · 01/09/2023 21:21

Sometimes I think I'm just a mean / evil person.

This is rather lighthearted btw.

There's this mum at school, who used to go to the school she's now sending her DC to and she just won't stop going on about it..

we had a teacher meet up and I heard her telling the same stories about how she used to go to the school to three different sets of people. She has also managed to reference it a few times in the watsap group..

I find this really irritating and find her annoying.

Am I just an evil person ?

OP posts:
Thedogscollar · 01/09/2023 23:42

blulight · 01/09/2023 23:39

@Thedogscollar yet others are so angelic that they're never irrationally irritated at anything I guess!

This was supposed to be a bit of a fun lighthearted thread about the inner evil monster which lives in all of us to some degree. Some of you angels could lighten up a bit. No one actually dislikes the woman.

Well your post has irritated me. There you go I'm not so angelic as you think😇

Emz6103 · 01/09/2023 23:42

😂 ill bet her voice was louder than everyone else's too..... sometimes you just wanna tell them "Oh stfu" no one cares either, no one gives a stuff if she went there or who she hung around with, (that's sooo yesterday darling) people are more interested in their OWN children. I'll bet she's also one of those mums that thinks so highly of themselves that the genuinely think people will be interested in her school days and who her friends were!! No it would wind me up too, I'll bet she totally ignored her own kid preferring to talk about herself and expected everyone else to ignore theirs too whilst she whiled away the day talking about her childhoods. I'd give that one a wide birth OP

Fairydustxox · 01/09/2023 23:43

BitOutOfPractice · 01/09/2023 23:32

This is a genuine question because I honestly don’t know the answer. Why were you proud?

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Because he's being taught the same school values I was taught, I thoroughly enjoyed my time at that school and he is too. I'm proud of where I come from, it's a lovely village school in a sought after area. Iv travelled but there's nowhere else that's been 'home' and that's personal preference, each to their own ☺️

TheaBrandt · 01/09/2023 23:44

It’s not something to boast about. It’s quite tragic really.

Thedogscollar · 01/09/2023 23:47

What's really tragic is some of the attitudes on here.

Emz6103 · 01/09/2023 23:48

Meaow, now now, no need to be catty, you're sounding a bit spiteful with that comment.

Azandme · 01/09/2023 23:49

greenmarsupial · 01/09/2023 21:47

My evil confession is that I find people who haven't left the area they grew up in a bit odd so I wouldn't hear this as a boast!

Just going to the same school doesn't mean someone never left.

My dd went to the same nursery school I did.

But in the years between me turning 18 and her starting there I went away to uni, then remained in my uni city, moved twice more for work, got married, moved to Northern Ireland, then Yorkshire, then Cyprus, then Germany - and only moved back here because my mum was ill.

Got an awesome job and stayed, but travel frequently.

WhyShouldThatMeanItIsntReal · 01/09/2023 23:52

I don’t know why she’s, in a sense, “bragging”about this? If I sent my kids to the same school I went to, I’d feel I hadn’t achieved anything in life. I’m proud of studying hard, going to university, moving to a lovely area, and raising my children in a more affluent place than I was raised. I’m not stuck in the same area I grew up in, I’m striving for better for my children.
I did laugh at the poster suggesting you’re jealous because you can’t send your children to the school you went to!!

Emz6103 · 01/09/2023 23:52

So why bother replying? Was it just so you could be mean to OP? After all it wouldn't bother you so why didn't you just say that without being nasty? Pot n kettle......

whereaw · 01/09/2023 23:55

You could argue it's tragic she's the odd one out in being from that area. Lack of community, care for elderly population, shared values, responsibility, pride.... nothing wrong with staying where your roots are and wanting to build connections over generations.
The odd thing is that when visiting a 'far off' and exciting place these same things would be respected and revered in local people met on one's travels...

@WhyShouldThatMeanItIsntReal but would you judge someone in your now 'lovely area' that had lived there all their life?

Emz6103 · 01/09/2023 23:58

Wow, what a spiteful comment at the end!! OP sounds like a bore? Trust me honey you sound a lot worse! You obviously just turned up to say something nasty, it's Friday night OP comes with a healthy dollop of self-righteous spirits n spite.

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Thedogscollar · 02/09/2023 00:00

Emz6103 · 01/09/2023 23:48

Meaow, now now, no need to be catty, you're sounding a bit spiteful with that comment.

If this is aimed at me then how ironic. If you need a definition of spiteful just read your first post back.

Emz6103 · 02/09/2023 00:02

Haha 😂 well said OP, doesn't sound like she's got many values left tbh....

Emz6103 · 02/09/2023 00:06

Oh the irony

ancientpants · 02/09/2023 00:19

You're not "evil" but you are tedious. Yes you're a cool mom and everyone is clapping.

stayathomer · 02/09/2023 00:23

Uh oh I could be that mum! (Not really but kind of!). My friend’s daughter started last year in our old school and I find I can’t stop talking about it!

Moveoverdarlin · 02/09/2023 00:31

If I meet new people I tend to say the same thing to different sets of people, if people overheard me yeah I’d be a bit mortified as it seems you are harping on and repetitive. It must be quite rare in London for children to go to the same school as their parents so I’m guessing she’s proud of this and perhaps bragging that she knows more about the school and area than some other parents.

dooneyousmugelf · 02/09/2023 00:42

How banal. Why are you spending enough time around school mums to hear multiple convos anyway. Drop kid off/pick kid up= Jon done. Honestly unless one of the school mums had fucked another one's husband over the summer hols I wouldn't be intrigued enough to stick around eavesdropping

LynnBenfieldsnephew · 02/09/2023 00:43

WhyShouldThatMeanItIsntReal · 01/09/2023 23:52

I don’t know why she’s, in a sense, “bragging”about this? If I sent my kids to the same school I went to, I’d feel I hadn’t achieved anything in life. I’m proud of studying hard, going to university, moving to a lovely area, and raising my children in a more affluent place than I was raised. I’m not stuck in the same area I grew up in, I’m striving for better for my children.
I did laugh at the poster suggesting you’re jealous because you can’t send your children to the school you went to!!

But what if you’d grown up in an ‘affluent place?’ Are you bitter about the fact others had childhoods in nicer areas than you and would you still consider those who grew up in the lovely area to be ‘stuck?’ I guess that’s where some could confuse this kind of snobbery for jealousy. How do you know those people also haven’t studied and worked hard and then chosen to raise their kids in this ‘affluent place.’

TheaBrandt · 02/09/2023 06:32

I mean there’s a big world out there. How can you not die of boredom sending your kids to the exact same school you went to?! You would spend literally years of your life hanging round the exact same buildings! I actually think it’s quite an odd thing to do.

TheaBrandt · 02/09/2023 06:35

To me the niceness of the area is neither here nor there. We moved “back” to the broad area where I grew up but bought 20 miles away I viscerally felt I didn’t want to be in the exact same place despite that place being very lovely and desirable. It’s my parents territory - I want my own life! Plus I knew every turn in the road.

cravingmilkshake · 02/09/2023 06:36

Evil no... but maybe a bit jealous over something.

Sounds a bit like transference. Who does she remind you of.... someone you used to go to school with ? A family member that grates you?

This would not bother me at all

Myfavouritepenguin · 02/09/2023 06:58

@MelroseGrainger

*It’s one to thing to feel a private and irrational irritation at someone else’s habits. It’s quite another to try to gather together a group of people to also mock and denigrate another person because of those habits.

It comes from the same nasty place as school yard bullies. You’re too old to be one of those. It doesn’t matter that no one here knows her and she doesn’t know everyone is talking about her and bringing her down, the intention and the outcome is still the same.*

Well, that’s not really true, is it? Actual bullying has the intention of hurting the target, which is also almost always the outcome. The intention here is to explore, without any real possibility of hurting the person, whether others experience similar irrational bursts of irritation. Quite different.

I don’t believe that all the holier-than-thou posters have never been irrationally irritated by a person, whether it’s their voice, their laugh, their repetitive comments. It’s human nature!

I don’t think it’s really about how intrinsically good/bad it is to send your kids to your old school. There are many variables at play there. It’s the tedious need to repeat this fact that seems irritating.

MelroseGrainger · 02/09/2023 07:14

Myfavouritepenguin · 02/09/2023 06:58

@MelroseGrainger

*It’s one to thing to feel a private and irrational irritation at someone else’s habits. It’s quite another to try to gather together a group of people to also mock and denigrate another person because of those habits.

It comes from the same nasty place as school yard bullies. You’re too old to be one of those. It doesn’t matter that no one here knows her and she doesn’t know everyone is talking about her and bringing her down, the intention and the outcome is still the same.*

Well, that’s not really true, is it? Actual bullying has the intention of hurting the target, which is also almost always the outcome. The intention here is to explore, without any real possibility of hurting the person, whether others experience similar irrational bursts of irritation. Quite different.

I don’t believe that all the holier-than-thou posters have never been irrationally irritated by a person, whether it’s their voice, their laugh, their repetitive comments. It’s human nature!

I don’t think it’s really about how intrinsically good/bad it is to send your kids to your old school. There are many variables at play there. It’s the tedious need to repeat this fact that seems irritating.

Edited

Actual bullying has the intention of making the bully feel better about themselves. The hurt to the victim is just a by product.

And of course I’m irrationally irritated by people. All the time.