Would this mum also annoy you

[blulight]

Sometimes I think I'm just a mean / evil person.

This is rather lighthearted btw.

There's this mum at school, who used to go to the school she's now sending her DC to and she just won't stop going on about it..

we had a teacher meet up and I heard her telling the same stories about how she used to go to the school to three different sets of people. She has also managed to reference it a few times in the watsap group..

I find this really irritating and find her annoying.

Am I just an evil person ?

I went to the same schools as my DC and felt more embarrassed that people would think I was dull and has never travelled or been away from where I grew up. I largely kept quiet!!
Maybe she’s keen to make new friends and is using it as an opener?

This is about 90 percent of parents at my kids school. I'm the odd one out as I didn't go there.

How do you know? She sounds quite fun.

Is it an independent school by any chance? I’ve known a few people who send their kids to independent school and like to remind people they’re alumni

I know a parent like this and she’s been like this since nursery. The kids are now in year 9 and she still goes on about it. She’s very annoying.

I'd def think she was boring tbh, does she still live with her parents too? My first thought.

Weird thing to mention - the school will be totally different. Another reason I’m glad I avoided the school gate gossip by using breakfast and after school clubs

Thedogscollar · Today 22:37
MrsSkylerWhite · Today 22:36

I think I’d just feel a bit sorry for her. Smile and nod.
Why would you feel sorry for her? What an odd comment.”

Because she’s living in the past. Obviously.

Why odd?

You're so right on one thing in that I don't have to agree.

Living in the past. Another odd comment.

No, you’re not evil. But you’re also not very kind.

It’s one to thing to feel a private and irrational irritation at someone else’s habits. It’s quite another to try to gather together a group of people to also mock and denigrate another person because of those habits.

It comes from the same nasty place as school yard bullies. You’re too old to be one of those. It doesn’t matter that no one here knows her and she doesn’t know everyone is talking about her and bringing her down, the intention and the outcome is still the same.

Just shrug it off and move on.

Who's to say she hasn't left? I've met loads of parents who grew up in the area we live in but all left for uni and worked away. They just returned to have children.

Thedigscollar.

”Living in the past. Another odd comment.”

because she went to the same school. In the past.

I don’t think having gone to the same school as your kids is anything to brag about

It is where I live, the people that attended my village school can no longer afford to live there.

Quite sad that you’re that invested in the conversations she had, so much so that you’ve made a post about it.
I’d not have noticed

There’s no way my children will attend the same schools as me but i can understand the nostalgia for her

I agree with the pp who advised you to spend more time actively observing what you send there for or chatting to parents more.
You’re not coming across well at all.
Thankfully she sounds like she was having a great time and won’t have any headspace to register your meanness

Nail on the head.

Just because you moved to a 'small' area with your big ideas and salary doesn't make you better than someone who was born and raised there, it doesn't make you more cultured or interesting or intelligent, and thinking this shows quite the opposite.

So you move your children here, but if your children choose to stay long term they will be judged by you? Odd. But perhaps this type of persons child will want to move away from their parent.

If you live in a small shit village with nothing going on then never leaving I can understand people being snobby about.

But being able to afford to live in a really nice area you grew up in is something to be proud of where I live. Only my friends who left for uni and worked elsewhere in decent paying jobs can now afford to return.

She would annoy me!
People who repeat themselves most often don't listen to the other person in conversation, they sit waiting for their moment to repeat the same thing again.

Oh wow this is getting fun. Hit a few nerves I didn't even intend to hit.

But just so you know, I live in london.. so your presumption about a small area is off. I didn't judge the mum for potentially living in the same part of london she grew up in ( it didn't cross my mind in this instance ).

But it's something I have thought about in the past in certain situations. Which is why I agreed with the poster mentioning that.

@blulight my comment wasn't really to you as it was to the several posters who made the comments about staying in the same area and being 'small minded'.

This is a genuine question because I honestly don’t know the answer. Why were you proud?

@blulight but in response to your initial question I do think it's quite odd to be annoyed by someone you haven't actually spoken to personally.

I was not born in this country but I love how people can be proud of their roots and connections over generations in an area they love and feel at home in.

Her comment about her child now attending the same school as she did does not mean she is living in the past though, it was merely a comment that they both attended the same school.

Living in the past generally means thinking too much about the past and believing that things are the same as they were in the past.

This poor woman mentioned this fact to three different people and has been painted as boring, small minded and annoying on this thread. Some of you on this thread are so judgemental of someone you've never met.

@Thedogscollar yet others are so angelic that they're never irrationally irritated at anything I guess!

This was supposed to be a bit of a fun lighthearted thread about the inner evil monster which lives in all of us to some degree. Some of you angels could lighten up a bit. No one actually dislikes the woman.