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Would this mum also annoy you

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blulight · 01/09/2023 21:21

Sometimes I think I'm just a mean / evil person.

This is rather lighthearted btw.

There's this mum at school, who used to go to the school she's now sending her DC to and she just won't stop going on about it..

we had a teacher meet up and I heard her telling the same stories about how she used to go to the school to three different sets of people. She has also managed to reference it a few times in the watsap group..

I find this really irritating and find her annoying.

Am I just an evil person ?

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blulight · 01/09/2023 21:54

DysmalRadius · 01/09/2023 21:52

It probably came up in conversation though - 'are you local?' is a fairly standard question to ask at that kind of thing so it may just have come up.

However, if you are genuinely sad that you can't send your son to your old school, then maybe it jars more for you than it would for most.

Yeah it does just come up in conversation. It's just she repeated the same details about it and also on the WhatsApp group too. For no reason. Just to slide it in again..

No I'm not particularly sad about not sending my child to my old school tbh.

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TomatoSandwiches · 01/09/2023 21:55

I don't think you're evil no 😂

QueenAstrid · 01/09/2023 21:56

She sounds really tedious. She’d annoy the shit out of me.

DiscoBeat · 01/09/2023 21:56

You say it's lighthearted, but it's actually quite mean.

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blulight · 01/09/2023 21:57

QueenAstrid · 01/09/2023 21:56

She sounds really tedious. She’d annoy the shit out of me.

I think it was the thing of sliding into the WhatsApp for no obvious reason that was a bit overkill. I think she wants people to say ' oh wow that so nice ' amazing. Everyone completely ignored it..

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YesitsBess · 01/09/2023 22:00

So what's your issue? If you're going to pitch your position this early on because she annoys you just a little bit for something fairly standard...school life isn't going to be fun for you?

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blulight · 01/09/2023 22:01

DiscoBeat · 01/09/2023 21:56

You say it's lighthearted, but it's actually quite mean.

It is lighthearted in the fact that I know it's not right to actually feel annoyed about this or dislike this poor woman because she's said this a few times. I know if I actually disliked her and was horrible to her, that would be mean and evil.

Having these little internal annoyances is a different thing. Asking people anonymously on here if they also are sometimes have evil feelings like this, is just a bit of fun. It's like a dirty confession.

She might become my best friend. I wouldn't ever discriminate against her for that. I know it's on me.

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blulight · 01/09/2023 22:02

YesitsBess · 01/09/2023 22:00

So what's your issue? If you're going to pitch your position this early on because she annoys you just a little bit for something fairly standard...school life isn't going to be fun for you?

I'm just pitching it on here. I wouldn't do it in public. It's like my dirty little secret. No one will ever know...

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Thedogscollar · 01/09/2023 22:02

I wouldn't say you're evil but you don't sound like a kind or patient person.
This wouldn't bother me but obviously irks you for some reason.

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 01/09/2023 22:03

Why would she want to be your bf when you're so awful about her?
Are you a mean girl who expects adulation?.

berksandbeyond · 01/09/2023 22:04

Fairydustxox · 01/09/2023 21:34

Yep you are. I sent my DS to the same primary school I went to and I was proud that he went to the same local school I went to.
It obviously means something to this mum for her to mention it and I don't understand what is irritating about that?

I don’t get why this is something to be proud of?

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blulight · 01/09/2023 22:06

MyHornCanPierceTheSky · 01/09/2023 22:03

Why would she want to be your bf when you're so awful about her?
Are you a mean girl who expects adulation?.

I have lots of thoughts about people, good / bad / mean / nice and they're still my friends, because I don't act on every little bitchy impulse that comes up within me. I can see it for what it is.... it's unlikely this would ever show in my interactions with her..

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Sunnydays41 · 01/09/2023 22:06

greenmarsupial · 01/09/2023 21:47

My evil confession is that I find people who haven't left the area they grew up in a bit odd so I wouldn't hear this as a boast!

Ha ha, same!

I shudder when I hear new-area friends realise they went to school with so-and-so's mum or old-area friends yap on about local gossip and what thingymajig who we knew 30 years ago is up to now...

I can't think of anything worse than going into town, knowing you're going to bump into an old school friend, friend of a sibling, neighbour, teacher or anyone else who knew you as a child!

YesitsBess · 01/09/2023 22:07

blulight · 01/09/2023 22:02

I'm just pitching it on here. I wouldn't do it in public. It's like my dirty little secret. No one will ever know...

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That's fair!

I don't agree with you, I think it's a mild irritant if that (but my kids are much older) amd if I have any useful advice?

stay away from parent WhatsApp groups. Pretend you have a brick phone, no good ever comes of those groups. If it is important you'll get a letter from school.

Meowandthen · 01/09/2023 22:07

You are not evil. She sounds dull.

That kind of repetitiveness irritates me too. I’m in groups with a woman who finds a way of mentioning she is vegetarian in every other post, even ones with no food link. She makes me roll my eyes so much that they may be the most exercised part of my body.

Mummadeze · 01/09/2023 22:08

I tell the same stories to different groups of people if I have had a good response to them from the first group. I think it is fairly usual to do this. It was probably her way of breaking the ice. I think it’s a bit weird you are judging her for it. If she had told you the same story three times then that would be different. At least she was being friendly and making conversation.

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blulight · 01/09/2023 22:09

Meowandthen · 01/09/2023 22:07

You are not evil. She sounds dull.

That kind of repetitiveness irritates me too. I’m in groups with a woman who finds a way of mentioning she is vegetarian in every other post, even ones with no food link. She makes me roll my eyes so much that they may be the most exercised part of my body.

This would make me eye roll too. I probably repeat stuff myself, but because it annoys me- I try really hard not to !

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Hufflepods · 01/09/2023 22:10

It’s not like she mentioned it 3 times to the same person! Mentioning it to 3 different people when it’s somewhat relevant to the new school topic isn’t that weird. Your irrational hate of her is much weirder.

MrsDBaddiel · 01/09/2023 22:10

You’re pretty repetitive yourself op, so long as people are agreeing with you.

sunshineandshowers40 · 01/09/2023 22:11

If their child is in Ks2 it's very irritating but if they are in reception given the time they will hopefully calm down!

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blulight · 01/09/2023 22:11

MrsDBaddiel · 01/09/2023 22:10

You’re pretty repetitive yourself op, so long as people are agreeing with you.

Just agreeing with like minded mean girls Grin

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MichelleScarn · 01/09/2023 22:13

This, so your being a judgy dick because she's chosen to stay and live in the area you've chosen to live in?
But you think you're better than her because you weren't born there?

MichelleScarn · 01/09/2023 22:14

MrsDBaddiel · 01/09/2023 22:10

You’re pretty repetitive yourself op, so long as people are agreeing with you.

Meant to quote this!

Prescottdanni123 · 01/09/2023 22:14

It depends if she has mentioned it in 3 seperate chats with people she hadn't told yet - in which case she is just making conversation. Or does it has more of a "I went to school here as a child, and when I was here, this, this and this happened and I know some of the current teachers because I went here and now my son is going here and did I mention that I went to school here?" tone.

JANEY205 · 01/09/2023 22:14

greenmarsupial · 01/09/2023 21:47

My evil confession is that I find people who haven't left the area they grew up in a bit odd so I wouldn't hear this as a boast!

Same 😂