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Don’t like not knowing when someone is coming round

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Lasagnaandpotatoesfortea · 30/08/2023 12:13

On holidays this week as a family and just want to chill in pjs, go out for the odd walk etc.
Friend has some books for Dd, says she will nip by at some point or leave them on the doorstop.
Tried to arrange a time for next week, but she wants to drop them
Aibu to hate this?
Am I weird?

OP posts:
CleverLilViper · 31/08/2023 17:57

I'm the same.

I don't get the "On MN, it's normal, In real life, it's weird," comments. So, people who post on MN aren't real people living real lives? Odd comment.

I don't like unannounced visitors. If people are going to come around, I'd prefer to have a specific time when they're doing so. If not, I just end up feeling like I have to wait around all day for them and don't feel comfortable getting in the middle of something i.e. a book, a movie or a meal or whatever because it could get interrupted at any minute.

I am an introvert, though and when I'm chilling, I like to be "switched off." I don't like to be on edge, thinking when I'm going to have to "switch on."

There's a few posters on here who clearly fall on the more extrovert side of the spectrum and that's ok, but some of the comments here fall into the "lack empathy and understanding that not everyone is like me and likes/appreciates impromptu visits."

I would be willing to bet that they're likely the sort that deliver impromptu visits to their friends and their friends may be too polite to tell them that they don't always appreciate it.

I also like to slob around in my PJs all day if I've nowhere to go and no one to see and I don't care. Of course-you had to cue the "Oh, I could never sit around in my PJs all day-gross!" comments! 😆

Lasagnaandpotatoesfortea · 31/08/2023 19:06

@CleverLilViper Exactly!

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Miaminmoo · 31/08/2023 21:41

I hate ‘poppers’ there is no need in the age of mobile phones - I don’t mind a ‘text and pop’ but minimum 30 mins notice is appreciated. My very closest friends have ‘popping privileges’ as they will accept me and my house in any state/mood and won’t care - everyone else can bugger off - especially when they bring all their kids - which one of my husband’s friends used to do on a weekend when his wife was having a ‘lie in’ and he”d just turn up at our house with his kids and expect to be entertained - I stopped answering the door in the end, it was so irritating.

MrsRonaldWeasley · 01/09/2023 08:47

I’m exactly the same OP so if it’s weird then I’m weird too! I’m an introvert and can’t just ‘switch on’ at the drop of a hat (or the ring of a doorbell!)

Needanewadventure2021 · 01/09/2023 19:24

This has happened to me a few times and I've hid lol. I don't like people turning up unexpectedly

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