Husband says I’ve signed over the house to him without me knowing

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My husband often jokes that he has tricked me into signing the house over to him. He has said it for years. It’s really tedious but last night he said it again and added ‘check the deeds’. We paid off our home about 10 years ago and it is quite a valuable property for our area.

There have been occasions when I am busy working and he has put papers in front of me and asked me to sign so he can get them in the post (mainly to do with correspondence to our accountant for example).

But this is not possible surely? I mean as a married couple I am entitled to half anyway aren’t I? He is playing mind games with me and I’m not sure what to believe anymore

He's probably just teasing you because you blindly sign things without checking them over. As others have said, just check the deeds.

If you have signed it over, as others have said, it is still considered a marital asset and you'll be entitled to half if you divorced. If he really was trying to be sneaky, then he's a sneaky numpty for not knowing that.

"It’s really tedious but last night he said it again and added ‘check the deeds’. "

This isn't joking.

It's bullying. I'm worried that you are not able to tell the difference?

He's making fun of you and enjoying your discomfort, for his own entertainment.
That's what bullies do.

You just have to pretend it's a joke because his feelings are more important than yours.

Well, you need to check the deeds and then contact a solicitor.

This!

Go check the deeds just now. Easy peasy.

What is it with men*?

This is the second post today about mean gaslighty jokes (the other, entitled "Am I being too sensitive?" was a woman whose newish boyfriend of 3 months joked about ignoring her , being out of contact as he was off with other women and made some crappy run for the hills comment on the only occasion in their relationship where she had a bad day and sought a modicum of sympathy and support).

*NAMALT yadda yadda yawn

This.

but fgs check the deeds and whenever he tries to get you to sign something when you are distracted again put it to one side and tell him youll get your solicitor to read through it.

what else have you signed?

Cancel the cheque
Get on land registry and you'll know in seconds. If he has then divorce him and take half anyway.

As I commented earlier, he's a twat. However, I also don't understand why you'd sign any documents without knowing what they are - especially as you're married to a twat.

Haha @Oysterbabe I was just about to write "cancel the cheque" and saw you got there just before me!

Check the fucking deeds OP.
If it turns out you aren't on them, come back and let us know. Maybe someone can advise you.

If it was me I'd check the deeds, not tell him, if the only name was on the deeds was his I'd be at a solicitor's by the end of the week to ask for advice.

I have genuinely no idea why you’re asking mumsnet and not just count a quick check and why you didn’t years ago.

I’d check the deeds, if he has that would be the end for me.

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The house is an asset of your marriage,so if you divorced him it wouldn't make any difference whose name he'd transferred it into.

But the deeper issue is the fact that he tries to stoke your insecurity like this. The man's a tosser.

I’d ask him to confirm he put market value for the transfer into an account in your name and paid Stamp Duty.

It does yes.

Signed and witnessed. So unless he has forged someone's signature/contact details...

Quite!
Sometimes I'm in disbelief of what I read on here.

Oh this is going to be one of those threads where the OP never comes back and I'll always be left wondering what happened.

OP even if you never come back, please please check the sodding deeds!!

I hope one of the documents you signed wasn't you agreeing to be a live organ donor for him - joking aside, you could be signing anything, don't be so lazy, check what you're signing and check the land registry.

I hope you’ve spent that £3 to find out whether you are going to the police or just telling him he is in the doghouse until he agrees that it isn’t funny and he will stop (& never ever sign anything he puts in front of you- just say I’ll look at it later when I have some hesdspace. No I can’t just sign it, you see I married someone who thought it was funny to make jokes about tricking me into signing awya the house which is both unkind and fucking weird so I have to read every word of anything you put in front of me.)

Does he think he's funny? <<He Isn't>>

Or is he just a nasty bastard?

It’s not a funny joke. Either way you have a dh problem.

Check the deeds, £3 online and comes back instantly. Then if has removed you (which although would require your ID and a witness to your signature - which can easily be fraudulently obtained) you register a matrimonial home rights notice asap. Then divorce the prick.

Knew I’d get to the end with no response from OP; long gone!

Same. Pm in case she returns 🤷🏼‍♀️

I must missing vital information. OP only posted today so why make this comment ??