To have told my friend exactly what I think of her?

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Now ex-friend. In February I hurt my wrist and had to cancel meeting up with her because I couldn’t drive. Turns out that I broke it. She never once since that day reached out to me to ask how I am, spoke to me at all or asked to meet up.

Shes (from her Instagram) out with friends most weekends and yesterday after I saw she was going on a spa weekend I just snapped and told her what I thought and that I didn’t want to be friends anymore, she’s never checked in on me and that she’s selfish. She messaged me back saying it was odd I was still worked up over something that happened ages ago, that it’s attention seeking and she “won’t react to it” and then blocked me.

If it was life saving surgery I would get it. But it wasn’t. Anyone else would contact the friend a few days later to rearrange but you sulked. Your behaviour is odd and attention seeking.

Do you have many close friends?

I did laugh at an adult saying, ‘I don’t want to be friends anymore’.

I like her response. I think it’ll do you both good.

It does sound like you have overreacted massively. Is there more to this than you are telling here?

If you just cancelled last minute with a text saying you had a sore wrist that sounds really lame. If you actually told her you broke your wrist and she ghosted you that sounds a bit heartless.

Wow this is a slow flash to burn.

This sounds like a reverse.

It's hard to believe anyone could have such a huge overreaction and post thinking they are in the right. It's a hurt wrist, not a near decapitation.

It's a two way street. You were just as capable of contacting your friend to rearrange and didn't. From her perspective you cancelled because of a sore wrist, didn't rearrange, went quiet for months then sent her an angry message dropping her as a friend.

Probably best for both of you to leave it there

This

Well I guess you lost this one...

Waiting for the 'The OP has asked us to take this down as it's causing them distress' post...

Because you hurt your wrist, she's not allowed go to a spa six months later? Mental.

It wasn’t a “sore wrist”, it was swollen and bruised and I sent her photos of it and she said nothing. I found out it was broken a couple of days later.

So once you'd got it sorted why didn't you rearrange, considering it was you who cancelled? People who don't drive still manage to have social lives, there's public transport and taxis.

You sound very immature.

Well at least you'll be a factor of chat at the spa!

How old are you, yours wasn't a mature reaction.

I have broken both my wrists. Apart from laughing at myself on Facebook and friends laughing along with me it didn’t impact them at all. I didn’t expect anything more from them and I am not sure why you do.

What a loss for your friend 🙄

I don't think it would cross my mind to check in on a friend with a broken wrist unless there was some sort of mitigating circumstances that meant they weren't able to manage day to day and might need some help. By mitigating circumstances I don't mean 'ridiculously needy' just to clarify.

Blowing up about it months later because your friend has a busy life is entirely bonkers and I'm not surprised she blocked you.

YABU, in case I wasn't clear.

Why did you send her photos?

The mature thing to do would be to invite her for a coffee and mention in passing that she hadn't asked after you when you had to cancel because you broke your wrist.

Exactly this.

Just move on from this friendship.

Massive over reaction. I don't blame your friend for ending the friendship. Neediness is something that turns people off

You didn't want to be friends with her anymore so you contacted her after no contact for 6 months to tell her you'll not be contacting her?

Swollen and bruised would be a "sore wrist". I've broken both of my own more than once.

Sending photos of your sore wrist is all a bit dramatic. It feels like drama and overreacting might be something that you could be prone to.

You are equally as liable as each other for this friendship falling apart.

You cancelled, surely it was on you to make contact to rearrange when you were able to make it. You broke your wrist, you didn't sustain life changing injuries. I broke mine one Friday night and went to work Monday morning.