My parents sold my childhood home and lied to me about it. AIBU to be heartbroken?

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Just venting.

They told me they had rented it out, just to tell me eight months later that they had actually sold it.

AIBU to feel heartbroken?

I wish they had told me the truth initially

YANBU, I'd be gutted to not be able to say goodbye. When my parents sold their house we had a lovely final meal and took lots of photos. Have they given you a reason for why they lied?

AIBU to feel heartbroken?

Were they just avoiding the inevitable drama/tantrums/emotional blackmail?

What was their explanation for not telling you the truth 8 months ago?

Maybe they were emotional about it themselves and didn’t need to deal with you being “heartbroken”. Maybe they didn’t want the drama. Maybe they’re awful and selfish and just trying to hurt you. Only you really know what they’re like OP.

I think being hurt by the lie is reasonable. Bring “heartbroken” (as opposed to a bit nostalgic or a passing sadness) over the sake of a house that isn’t yours and that presumably you didn’t live in anymore is less reasonable.

Did you? Because you’ve added in detail that OP didn’t provide. Her post is totally unclear wether she’s heartbroken about it being sold, or her being lied to. She just says she’s wishes they’d told her 8 months ago.

I was heartbroken when my childhood home was sold, even though I did the selling. It's allowed to be upset by stuff.

You sound bonkers

Third thread in a row of adults acting like babies.

Assuming you are an adult and no longer in their care. your parents do not have to tell you they sold their home. They don’t even have to tell you why they sold their home.

That's all very very strange.

Normal families...
'We're selling our house'
'Oooh exciting, where are you moving to?'

Is that your inheritance gone? Is that why you're so heartbroken?

Agree with PPs, it's not clear what you are actually heartbroken about.

PILs messed us around so much about DHs childhood home, he was very upset and angry about it all. (I was massively relieved as it's the last place I would have wanted to take on!)

How dramatic. Is everything always about you in your life? Or your parents lying is par for the course?

I'd expect someone to be sentimental about their childhood home being sold. I wouldn't expect them to be 'heartbroken'.

Also, the OP hasn't said why her parents lied about it. So I think most people have inferred that they actually lied because they knew she'd kick off and they didn't want to deal with the drama.

If the OP had given any context or explanation, people wouldn't have to guess what's gone on.

Do people not have boards outside their house when they are selling it anymore?
Or had you not visited them for a while and not seen the sign?

Sounds like you and your parents have a really odd dynamic if they lie over the selling of their home. Wonder why they lied?

WHY did they lie to you? Did they think you'd try and talk them out of selling it/downsizing?

Are you upset because you wanted to buy it? Was there anything there that you hoped to keep (presumably furniture was moved out to wherever they live now)? There are a few harsh replies here - I think lying to you about this seems unusual and perhaps odd, but then again were they trying not to upset you?

We need more info for sure.

Are you heartbroken it was sold, or heartbroken they lied?

It does seem odd they lied.

Well YANBU about being lied to

YANBU to feel you would like to have a chance to say goodbye.

YANBU to want right of first refusal if you have the means.

YABU if you want to want to control when your parents sell

YABU if you would have made your parents feel guilty about it.

YABU if you wouldn't have been able to be supportive of them and upbeat for their next move even if sentimental/sad for you

Personally I would have wanted the opportunity to look around the house one last time, to say hood bye. Perhaps they knew you'd be upset, and couldn't cope with that added onto the stress of selling/moving.

Lying about it is very strange. I find that people don’t lie about things like that, unless there’s a reason.

Since you have given little info I can only guess the reason they didn’t tell you is because you would be very upset about it.

You mean they sold their house?

They did mention selling it a first, which I was fine about. Their house not mine. I even helped them with the agencies etc...

They ended up telling me they wanted to keep it, rent it out but keep it in the family. Then they said they had done exactly just that.
I was the last one to know about it. My sibling knows that they sold it. So do my aunts and uncles.

They live abroad and I go visit them once a year. I'm just sad I didn't know it was the last time I would be in the house.

I'm more heartbroken that they lied to me unnecessarily.

My mum said they had kept it from me because they were ashamed of the price they had sold it at. Much lower than what they had anticipated. But I don't understand what's that got to do with it.

They are BU for lying to you and you are BU for being upset about them selling the house, it’s theirs to do what they went with.

Are you saying your parents have to keep a house even if they don’t need it anymore or can’t afford it or need the funds for others things just because you grew up there?

It would be interesting to know reason why they felt the need to lie in the first place.

Cross posted!