To think my friend is treating me like her maid

[Grabhands]

For context, this is a friend who I have known for years, haven't seen since before COVID. We booked and are on a 7 day all in beach holiday in the Med.

Meals are buffet service, tea service and cakes etc at certain times from a pool bar and a bar where you can go and get alcoholic drinks etc. At meal times waiters will bring you water for the table and you go to bar for anything else. Bar a few mins walk.

At every single meal we have had since arriving, she tries to send me to the bar to get her a drink, if I am going anyway absolutely fine, otherwise get your own!

She also keeps taking food from my plate to try it, with fingers , and then says can you go and get me some of that.

When I get desert, she gives me a list and asks me to bring back plates of various things.

Tea, she doesn't want to go to bar to get cakes, in case she misses some sun so again even though I don't want anything asks me to go.

I know its petty, and I'm usually easy going but after 3 days I have just said you go, you have legs too, and please stop taking food from my plate.

She is now very offended and huffing and puffing!

Am I being a cow?

Oh. I was fully on your side but moving hotels without telling her is a bit much. If I was on holiday with a friend and she just vanished for three nights I think I’d be calling the police and reporting her missing. She’s clearly a nightmare but I actually feel a bit sorry for her just finding she’s been abandoned.

The OP has tried an adult conversation, the friend, however, is incapable of having such a conversation. I think the OP is right to move rooms, the atmosphere in the shared room after today would be awful, why should OP have to put up with that? The friend has shown that she has no intention of changing her behaviour towards the OP.

You both sound like 14 year olds in completely different ways. Quite unbelievable.

Why on earth haven't you asked her what her last servant died of?

NannyOgg

You're waaaaaay behind the times

Here for the plane home updates.

OP, I'll give you a tenner if when you see her at the airport go 'oh hi, so glad to see you. I'm gasping. Be a love and grab me a diet coke, will you. Extra lemon. No ice. A straw please. Oh I think I've got the minches could you grab some snacks?'

Desperate to hear the update of when the penny drops

The pizza incidence is class. I genuinely hope this is a genuine thread, as it’s so entertaining.

Well done for moving hotels away from this entitled lazy spoiled woman.

I’d leave her a note saying that you need a rest and to please not disturb you.

Then completely ignore the inevitable messages from her.

Btw, you’ve done brilliantly, under very difficult and awkward circumstances.

OMG. Read the OPs posts. She has had adult conversations with her friend, and her behaviour hasn't changed. Just click on 'see all'.

So what would you do in this situation?

I think I would leave her a note to tell her you’re moving hotels, just to forestall the remote possibility that she thinks you’ve come to harm and calls the police.

Short and sweet - I’ll be staying somewhere else for the duration, I’ll be back to pick up the airport transfer.

Don’t apologise.

Yeah, OP literally just said this 🙄

I’m delighted for you, OP!! You started off saying you were cross with yourself for not having the balls, etc. BUT you’ve highlighted the issue multiple times AND MOVED HOTELS WHEN SHE HASN’T LISTENED TO YOU!!! You are steely, OP! This is phenomenal! Enjoy your peace and quiet.

I would put her in her box once and for all and ignore her sulks and tantrums but then I wouldn't want to spend on two hotels! That way lies madness!

But then I am actually physically disabled and still wobble my way to the buffet on my own!

When she asked you that final time for the burger and chips, you should have come back - sans food - and handed her a copy of The Mirror.

Or left a copy on her bed when you left.

I must say, I am really impressed by your lack of people pleasing. In your shoes, I would probably be terrified of the prospect of sitting next to each other on the flight home, but kudos to you for being so chill about it and just making the best of the rest of your holiday.

I think it's worth preparing yourself if you have any mutual friends. No doubt she's going to spend her last few days sobbing to them about what a bitch you were (you weren't - but she'll pin the blame on you).

Hope you can relax and enjoy the rest of your stay

I vote for this to be added to the classics

OP just has to send them the article/thread.

Me too

Hope you're friend is not hungry. It's past dinner time and you're no where to be seen.