To think my friend is treating me like her maid

[Grabhands]

For context, this is a friend who I have known for years, haven't seen since before COVID. We booked and are on a 7 day all in beach holiday in the Med.

Meals are buffet service, tea service and cakes etc at certain times from a pool bar and a bar where you can go and get alcoholic drinks etc. At meal times waiters will bring you water for the table and you go to bar for anything else. Bar a few mins walk.

At every single meal we have had since arriving, she tries to send me to the bar to get her a drink, if I am going anyway absolutely fine, otherwise get your own!

She also keeps taking food from my plate to try it, with fingers , and then says can you go and get me some of that.

When I get desert, she gives me a list and asks me to bring back plates of various things.

Tea, she doesn't want to go to bar to get cakes, in case she misses some sun so again even though I don't want anything asks me to go.

I know its petty, and I'm usually easy going but after 3 days I have just said you go, you have legs too, and please stop taking food from my plate.

She is now very offended and huffing and puffing!

Am I being a cow?

I just can't get over the CFuckery of this 'friend' of yours. This is entitlement is off the scale!! Her parents must be loving it without her home atm!! 😂

She can be as frosty as she likes, she wouldn't be getting any more towels, sun cream, drinks, food from me! You've gone above and beyond OP and she's taking the absolute piss.

Could you say ‘I’ve noticed I am the only one going to the bar’ and then say nothing else.

If she changes the subject, say it again.

and be quiet again

this is the way to deal with it in a non confrontational way and you are not saying the word ‘you’

just sit in the silence and don’t let it stress you out, let her acknowledge what you are saying and stay calm.

I have 2 friends like that, both single so always holiday together.
One is spoilt as hell, picks when and where to eat/visit, and talks down the other constantly.
Over the years she's collected submissive friends to use and abuse.
So sad.

Well bolstered by this thread, I got myself a plate with 2 slices of pizza and another plate of salad, came back with just that for me.

Said I couldn't carry anything else and was too hot to go back again. She said I will have some pizza then, as she reached out to take a slice, I moved plate and said please don't touch my food

We have just had a row and I've been accused of being selfish and she is hungry and too tired to queue at snack bar

I am genuinely thinking of booking another room for last few nights either here or next door now

Well done OP.

Let her starve. 😄

I think your own room is a very good idea!

Are you on holiday with my sister OP? She has been like this since a toddler.

No wonder your friend is single. Dump her when you get home. Don't have it out with her. Why give her the benefit? Let her keep doing this to other people.

Well done OP!

She sounds beyond annoying. I cannot get her angle on this at all.

My niece stayed over-night with a friend. This friend and her family were going away a day or later. She tried to get my niece to pack her bag and tidy her room. Niece didn’t stay over-night.

Well done! If you can afford another room go for it.

I've had a couple of bad holidays with friends but nothing remotely like this sort of behaviour.

Too tired to get off her sunlounger to get some lunch? Poor love.

<searches for tiny violin>

Separate rooms sounds a very good idea!

Well done for speaking up for yourself op! I wouldn't move rooms, let her take the expense!

Wow

I am amazed at her complete and utter gall.

I'd get a new room, move your stuff, and then send her the link to this thread along with a note that she can make her own way to the airport/home.

I wouldn't let her drive you out of your room (unless rooms are mega cheap or you're mega well off).

Just do your own thing and keep your headphones in as much as possible in the room.

She is one cheeky fucker.

I have my passport and there is a similar all in next door , think I would prefer to be at a different place so I am not bumping into her once I have moved room.

Have looked online and 3 nights room not that expensive at all

I can come back here for transfers to airport

Thanks for replies, if I hadn't posted I think I would still be seething inwardly and being a skivvy

Now for 3 days of relaxing at the hotel next door, And no drama !

Taking food from someone's plate with fingers is incredibly rude

I cannot tolerate that, it really angers me

There’s definitely a funny side to this @Grabhands and I’m glad that you’re seeing it too! Confession - I’m guilty of doing this to my DH. I text him from bed asking for a coffee pretty much every morning and I do probably creep into treating him like a butler territory when we’re on holiday. He tells me that he only puts up with it because I’m occasionally a good shag 😂. But I would never do this to a friend!

I've been accused of being selfish

wtf she is on another planet!! Definitely book another room, you'll be resentful you have to spend the extra money but the peace you will feel when you walk into your own space will be worth it!

@Grabhands what did she say about you being selfish?

She is extraordinary. I cannot believe selfish people like this exist.

How on earth can she justify this? How can she not offer to help you?

OP given that you have now had a row, can you just send her a link to this thread and ask her to explain herself to us?! Nothing to lose now!!

I am genuinely intrigued by her mindset!

Have a lovely end of holiday.

Good for you! Enjoy the rest of your relaxing holiday

Yay, OP!!! I inwardly cheered when I read your update. Moved your plate away like she was an annoying insect hahaha!

I was going to say I was amazed that she had the gall to call YOU selfish but actually I'm not. That is exactly how someone like her thinks.

"Tired"? WTF? Has a lie in every day and goes to the gym and pool aerobics ... but it's too exhausted to get off her arse and walk to the bar/buffet.

I reiterate my earlier comment that she thinks she's special and you should rightly be serving her. Now you've resisted it's become a battle of wills. Hold firm OP we are rooting for you! She's gonna be very hungry and thirsty if she keeps this up.

It's going to be interesting when she realises you are leaving her to go next door. Probably best not to tell her where you are going or she might rock up and stalk you there.

She said she thought it was a bit selfish of me to only get something for myself when I was there anyway