To think my friend is treating me like her maid

[Grabhands]

For context, this is a friend who I have known for years, haven't seen since before COVID. We booked and are on a 7 day all in beach holiday in the Med.

Meals are buffet service, tea service and cakes etc at certain times from a pool bar and a bar where you can go and get alcoholic drinks etc. At meal times waiters will bring you water for the table and you go to bar for anything else. Bar a few mins walk.

At every single meal we have had since arriving, she tries to send me to the bar to get her a drink, if I am going anyway absolutely fine, otherwise get your own!

She also keeps taking food from my plate to try it, with fingers , and then says can you go and get me some of that.

When I get desert, she gives me a list and asks me to bring back plates of various things.

Tea, she doesn't want to go to bar to get cakes, in case she misses some sun so again even though I don't want anything asks me to go.

I know its petty, and I'm usually easy going but after 3 days I have just said you go, you have legs too, and please stop taking food from my plate.

She is now very offended and huffing and puffing!

Am I being a cow?

If that is for me OP then sadly not.

Hope you can get this sorted and enjoy the rest of your holiday.

Just seen the Mirror link

Let's just hope she doesn't...could be an awkward few days

the buffet thing is like a version of what i used to see a lot of older couples doing (including my parents). My dad would never go to the buffet, my mum would get his food. But then My mum would never go to the bar my dad would so there was a bit of give and take!

OT but Interesting the headline says ‘mum’. I know it’s Mumsnet but I cannot see where you have mentioned being a mother.

Jesus wept - as a journalism grad from 20 years ago, I can't believe what journalism has become. It's one thing to chat this over on a forum, but to copy it like that and pass it off as 'NEWS' is beyond ridiculous, lazy and invasive. The last throes of a dying industry and good riddance when they act like that.

@Grabhands sorry the scummy Mirror ‘journalist’ has scrapped the barrel for stories and just copied someone’s from Mumsnet. Real journalism there. 🙄

It’s just the online but so hopefullly will disappear into the void soon.

frankly if your friend read it she might realise some home truths about herself. Doubtful… either way you won’t be seeing her again after this catch up so nothing lost.

Good luck with the CF and hope you relax for the rest of your break.

Same! It's fucking embarrassing isn't it? Imagine being Amber O'Connor and having your actual real name attached to this barrel scrapping masquerading as journalism. Fucking hell. That will follow her around forever. If I was going to do that job I'd at least insist on not having a byline!

Simple if she does... Crack on it's not about you and say 'oh that poor person, she's so good to her friend etc etc etc and the friend just takes it for granted. So glad you're not like that big smile
In the world of people on holiday right now, there's no way she's the only CF doing this to a so-called friend.

have only read the OP: I'd be slapping her hand away from my food (or stabbing it with a fork) and ignoring all requests to fetch things.

Are you on holiday with my sister? She thinks everyone is her personal slave and last time we holidayed together she tried to grab food off my plate. I grabbed my plate and told her I would stab her with my fork if she tried that again. I’m very territorial over my food! And I can’t stand people who think the world owes them a favour.

Does your friend write for the mirror? Same level CF there! 😂 don't worry I've had a post taken off here before and in a few different newspapers/websites the CF I posted about at the time, never saw it.

Just ignore her op, she knows she's done wrong and that's why she's sulking.

I actually think it would serve her right if she saw it; some hard truths in her behaviour will be spelled out for her in black and white through all the comments here.

Honestly OP, you do have the balls to stand up to this cheeky fucker

If you go to get cutlery and she asks you for something, say why can’t you get it? Or ok great, can you get me a fork while you get your bread roll

If she sulks, ask her why not? What is wrong? Why has she been behaving like this all holiday? Is there something she hasn’t told you as it’s really weird and actually annoying.

I think I'd want to point out to her that that is not what the waiters are for. Otherwise they are going to be avoiding your table like the plague.

Can't you say no, I only want a napkin, that's not in the same place as the rolls/chips?

Or maybe deliberately misunderstand her - "Oh, you're getting some more chips? Great, could you pick up a napkin for me while you're there?"

Have you tried asking her to get you something? What happens then?

She is awful and you are a saint for dealing with it how you have so far OP. Glad you’re getting a relaxing couple of days in. Some people are just off the charts!

i think you should get your phone out over dinner and open the Express page and say "oh look! look what this CF is doing to her friend!"
(but maybe better doing that in the airport on the way home)

Well done for speaking up and I hope things improve
She has the rhino though, and I imagine she might conveniently forget by dinner
Don't be afraid to repeat it to the point of being rude( it's hard when you're a polite considerate person)
Don't even bring a plate back now you've told her
I hope you manage to enjoy the rest of your stay and don't bother when you're home

Maybe do it as you wave from your non-shared taxi from the airport!

hide of a rhino

Avoiding her.

Organising yourself so you don't get up.

Saying no.

If you can book a different seat going home do.

I wouldn't want to be around her again.

Sadly holidays can expose people badly.

She has just found me, asked me to get her a burger , in a roll with salad but no cucumber and chips when I go to the snack bar

Obvs doesn't read Mirror thank God

I didn't answer , it wasn't a question, it was o when you go can you get this for me

Might slope off soon and find a quiet spot

She sounds a real pain. I think I might try and eat at a different time if you can. Taking stuff from your plate is so unacceptable. She sounds horrific,

I think if she keeps up the cats bumface I'd send her the link to this thread and the crappy article!