DD starting uni and I suddenly feel so sad…

[PuddleMud]

DD is starting uni shortly, she’s going to a very good uni and I’m immensely proud and exited for her… Today it’s suddenly dawned on me how much I’m going to miss her and I feel almost bereft… I keep feeling panicky and then crying at the thought of her not being here anymore, although I’m overwhelmingly happy she’s going, iyswim?

She’s my only daughter and I had her fairly young. It was just me and her for a long time and we’re very close. I know I’m going to be a complete mess for the days leading up to her leaving and the days afterwards and I feel selfish and unreasonable…..

@reegee so much truth in that. It's not just them going away, it's the total change in vibe and realising in lots of cases that all those things you were holding off for aren't going to happen either. General family business I think with teens around can disguise an awful lot of dying or dull relationships

@Titsywoo , i wish i could find it

So I dropped her off at the weekend and feeling very sad now, especially walking past her bedroom door or watching the TV show alone that we never finished… She seems very happy though and that’s a massive comfort.

Keep hold of that, the fact she is happy. You have a lot to be proud of

I have dropped mine and it is incredibly hard, no one tells you about this, its like physical pain and grief. You are all mixed up as you are proud and happy but it is so hard also for the mother,.

It is really hard. Proud and happy for them but feeling a loss like bereavement at the same time and not showing it at all.

What I dislike about this thread is the sly implication that those of us weeping daily love their kids, have a better relationship with them, than those of us who are more sanguine about it.

@Lastchancechica i thought your post to @BustyDin was especially snide in that respect sorry. Really nasty undertone to it.

I don’t like having my feelings dismissed or minimised, or worse still mocked.

Those whom had children at boarding school for instance, won’t notice the difference. So of course will feel ‘sanguine’ about it.

Most people accept it’s a major life change and it can be extremely upsetting for parents. I miss my child desperately despite them being very happy at uni. I can’t even eat. We are very close: it hurts: