I'm spitting !! Juvenile I know but I want a little revenge .. AIBU

[salpelly]

So long story short I was dating a man (47) r a few months at the beginning of summer. He had only left a volatile relationship. Incompatibility by the sounds of it .

Anyway, he unceremoniously announced after we slept together a few times after a dates over that period that he wasn't in the right space for anything despite a few plans discussed.

It took my heart a while to accept what my head was telling me so having pushed it, I realised he was still tolerating crying and begging texts and phone calls from his ex. I posted about this.
He was feeling guilty and upset that he had hurt her.
Not so much me by all accounts, clearly.

He suggested we catch up in a few months to see if his life had settled down and we were both in the right place for something. He does have a lot of other stuff going on that would not be conducive to a relationship at the moment.

So fast forward to now, the relationship remains over and she is still terribly upset and regularly blocks/ unblocks , leaves nasty messages etc . She is however still a friend in his social media, as am I.

I was very much a secret bar his friends and a brother knowing. He is very enmeshed with his family and appears afraid of their disapproval about nearly everything.
He watches my social media but doesn't like any posts etc.

His ex comes up as a suggested friend on mine nearly every day so I reckon she has cottoned on to him having had a fling and she is having a look . We literally got together the weekend they finished which I'm sure she is curious about.
So, he is on holidays with his kids and has posted some beautiful photos of the resort I went to earlier in the year.

The bitchy part of me wants to like his post, possibly comment on it but he would be mortified as I am persona non grata, a dirty secret . HIS EX would probably go nuts. He may be annoyed with me for letting the cat out of the bag so to speak.
The nice person in me says not to stir the pot.
WWYD ... kind of light hearted here btw ...
So please don't attack me ! I'm
Still human !

And I know that living your best life is the best revenge but I'm really fucked off that I was essentially used and discarded under false pretences.

Thanks for reading if you got this far ..

Unfriend him, block her and move on. Volatile ex relationship and enmeshed family are big red flags so probably done yourself a big favour there. Take some responsibility if you feel you were used for sex. Reflect on why you did it and work on your boundaries/take it as lesson learned if you don’t like being someone’s rebound shag. Ask yourself what did you get, or what did you think you were going to get out of it? Revenge is an easy click away and it’s harder but more worthwhile to spend the time and energy on working on improving yourself and your mental health instead of plotting ‘revenge’.

You can’t seriously have expected anything meaningful from getting together with someone who was literally fresh out of a relationship? If you engage with them at all, you’re going to look like a proper sad case. Block them both and give your head a wobble.

Anyway, he unceremoniously announced after we slept together a few times after a dates over that period that he wasn't in the right space for anything despite a few plans discussed.

This is what you wrote.
So he did tell you he wasn’t in the right space for anything but you chose to continue.

I assumed his kids were also her kids, which was the relevance of why you wanted to post and annoy her.

Sorry OP but you sound pretty childish.
I understand that you’re hurt but it sounds as though he was pretty clear with you and I don’t understand why you’d want a relationship with someone who’s just got out of one anyway as you know he’d need time to get over it.

Bunny boiler

Op do you have daughters?

Add to that was a very distressed ex partner who believed she was moving in with him and that a left with very little.

So he’s got form for making plans with women he has no intention of keeping.

Bullet dodged.

Jesus Christ. Block him and move on. This is all nonsense.

I have an adult daughter. She is 23. Why do you ask?

Bock him. Move on. Slower with the next guy.

I'm not sure what the bloke is meant to have done wrong here OP but sounds like you fell hard and fast

Bloke future fakes vulnerable women @ohcrums

Honestly just remove him from your social media and move on, it's not healthy and ultimately you only seem to have gone on a few dates with him. It's not worth all of this headspace and drama

This.

Some people will lie just to get what they want.
Someone just out of a relationship isn’t going to be the best person to get with.

Don’t let this put you off just go very slow in the future.

Where's the future faking?

You will get piled upon on Mumsnet.

If his friends know about you, then what if they were available ?

What on earth are you on about, @Hawkins009 ?

@Herejusttocomment why such mean spirited comments ? Is there a need for that?
I think that final comment says more about you than me tbh!

OP you need to chalk this up to experience and move on. Just block him now, don't fall for his friendly chats - he's not able to give you what you need.

If I read correctly his friends know about the op, and if the op wants revenge, then if any of his friends are single then bingo ?

Why is there need for any of this circus OP?

You are so very, very peculiar...

You're right, I'm sorry, I've requested my post to be removed...

Thank you, I'm very strange me, I try to be polite and considerate, but I'm very strange.