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AIBU?

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Original poster

I ate all his honey cheerios

146 replies

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:38

DH came back from work with some milk and cereal the other day.

DS has been wanting Cheerios for breakfast lately and I had a bowl today.

DH just come upstairs whilst I was in bed and had a go at me for eating his honey Cheerios. Apparently I should have asked!

I told him we're married and have a family. If he brings in cereal I assume it's for all of us,not just him. When I do our big monthly or fortnightly shop, I don't tell him off for eating the last packet of mini cheddars.

He says it's courtesy to ask.

AIBU?

OP posts:
foulksmills · 17/08/2023 21:41

Do you eat the last of them and there was none left or did you have a bowlful from near the start of the pack and there was loads left?

minou123 · 17/08/2023 21:42

Did he get to have a least one bowl?

Or did you and DS eat the lot?

YouveGotAFastCar · 17/08/2023 21:43

Did you finish it off? Had he had some, or did he buy it, DS had some and you finished it today?

It's one thing sharing it; it's another using it all... That is really frustrating.

Original poster
tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

OP posts:
Nevermay · 17/08/2023 21:44

a long as there was some left for him, YANBU. If he bought them especially for himself and you and DS ate them ALL, YABU - a little bit. Its only cereal, and presumably you could buy him some more, and presumably he has alternatives to eat right now.

FrogsWormsandCaterpillars · 17/08/2023 21:44

I think buying something you fancy for yourself is different to the family weekly shop to be fair.

Original poster
tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:45

@FrogsWormsandCaterpillars noted

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FrogTaped · 17/08/2023 21:45

I think I'm with your DH and it would have been nice to have asked him.

If I bought something for myself and DH ate it, I'd be miffed.

Nevermay · 17/08/2023 21:46

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

ok, so he bought them, and there is none for him for breakfast now, yes, he has the right to be annoyed . A bit. He just misses out tomorrow and communicates better next time. It is only cereal.

SpongeBobSquarePantaloons · 17/08/2023 21:46

Let the poor man have his Cheerios lmao

VinEtFromage · 17/08/2023 21:46

foulksmills · 17/08/2023 21:41

Do you eat the last of them and there was none left or did you have a bowlful from near the start of the pack and there was loads left?

This.

Theres no 'right' answer to your question, every couples relationship is different.

but I'd be a bit annoyed if I had been out to buy something specific & I was expecting it to be there for after work & someone else had eaten it & not told me so I could pick up more on my way home.

i don't think you need to 'ask' it's cereal not his award winning lovingly grown marrow. But letting him know so he coukd pick up more would have been the considerate thing to do if you couldn't have just not eaten it

Rollonsept · 17/08/2023 21:46

I think you need to start ordering them in your shopping OP. The box was practically empty and I would replace them.

LoveThisUsername · 17/08/2023 21:46

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

Based on the op I'd have said yanbu. Based on this post, I now think yabvu. And greedy & selfish. Did you eat them to make a point about something?

Gymnopedie · 17/08/2023 21:46

There's a thread on here at now from a woman who is fed up of her greedy husband. General view is that it is polite to ask.

And your title says you ate them all. Which is it?

Original poster
tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:47

@SpongeBobSquarePantaloons 😂

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ScarlettSunset · 17/08/2023 21:47

If he bought it himself because he really wanted it then it's not really on to eat it without even asking. If he'd bought it as part of a more general shop then I could understand you feeling like you shouldn't have to ask, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.
If I'd bought something especially for me because I wanted it, I'd be very annoyed at others just helping themselves to it without asking.

LoveThisUsername · 17/08/2023 21:48

Nevermay · 17/08/2023 21:44

a long as there was some left for him, YANBU. If he bought them especially for himself and you and DS ate them ALL, YABU - a little bit. Its only cereal, and presumably you could buy him some more, and presumably he has alternatives to eat right now.

Presumably there was something else the op could have eaten then, instead of eating the specific thing he fancied.

When men do this in here they are ripped apart for being greedy, so and making a power play, which it sounds like exactly what the op did fir some reason..

Original poster
tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:49

@Gymnopedie he came up and accused me of eating all his Cheerios hence the post. I didn't. I had one bowl. DH had 1. DS ate the rest.

OP posts:
LoveThisUsername · 17/08/2023 21:49

*selfish, not so

AdoraBell · 17/08/2023 21:50

YANBU

He has to ask for everything he wants eat/drink if you have to ask.

neilyoungismyhero · 17/08/2023 21:51

You only had 1 bowl so that's not overkill but I think it was a bit off allowing your son to pile into them every breakfast until there was none left for your husband to enjoy.

RedDedRedemption · 17/08/2023 21:52

YABVVU if they were specifically a treat for him. YANBU if not.
Need more info,

Holidaystress11 · 17/08/2023 21:54

No sorry, everything is shared in this house. If it was something special or expensive and it was a gift maybe not. But cereal is cereal. Buy a bigger pack

Blottingpaperscript · 17/08/2023 21:56

He's being ridiculous- all food in the house is family food surely?! I think buying and expecting to keep food only for yourself is just childish when you live in a family household. He's being rude by not buying enough for everyone!

Deathbyfluffy · 17/08/2023 21:56

AdoraBell · 17/08/2023 21:50

YANBU

He has to ask for everything he wants eat/drink if you have to ask.

No, this was blatantly a one off treat if he went out specifically to buy them - not part of the general shopping.

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