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I ate all his honey cheerios

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tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:38

DH came back from work with some milk and cereal the other day.

DS has been wanting Cheerios for breakfast lately and I had a bowl today.

DH just come upstairs whilst I was in bed and had a go at me for eating his honey Cheerios. Apparently I should have asked!

I told him we're married and have a family. If he brings in cereal I assume it's for all of us,not just him. When I do our big monthly or fortnightly shop, I don't tell him off for eating the last packet of mini cheddars.

He says it's courtesy to ask.

AIBU?

OP posts:
Holidaystress11 · 17/08/2023 21:56

Also if it isn't to be shared then it needs to be highlighted to others

phoenixrosehere · 17/08/2023 21:56

ScarlettSunset · 17/08/2023 21:47

If he bought it himself because he really wanted it then it's not really on to eat it without even asking. If he'd bought it as part of a more general shop then I could understand you feeling like you shouldn't have to ask, but it doesn't sound like that's the case.
If I'd bought something especially for me because I wanted it, I'd be very annoyed at others just helping themselves to it without asking.

Same.

DH and I always ask each other especially when we know it’s things that the other really enjoys.

mrsm43s · 17/08/2023 21:59

Is DS old enough that he is helping himself to cereal, or have you been serving him the cereal that you know that DH bought as a treat?

If DH had one bowl, and you used the rest of the packet by eating and/or serving it up to a child, then it really is "you" that took all his cereal, even if it was DS doing the eating.

If DS has been helping himself (and hasn't previously been told that it's not for him), then he's not to blame, but he probably needs a reminder not to take more than his fair share in future.

The general consensus on here seems to be that treats that people buy for themselves shouldn't be taken without asking, and most certainly more than a fair share should never be taken.

Miscellaneousme · 17/08/2023 22:03

Lol. Woman comes home with milk and cereal and it’s shopping. Man buys milk and cereal and it’s a special treat to be set aside? I’m with you OP. YANBU.

crostini · 17/08/2023 22:05

You should be getting more than three servings out of an entire packet of cheerios?

WandaWonder · 17/08/2023 22:09

Sure we are a family but we all have things we buy for ourselves so would ask if OK

We all kind of know what is ours and what is shared though even a simple basic could be something one of us wants particularly

minou123 · 17/08/2023 22:13

Miscellaneousme · 17/08/2023 22:03

Lol. Woman comes home with milk and cereal and it’s shopping. Man buys milk and cereal and it’s a special treat to be set aside? I’m with you OP. YANBU.

It depends on a lot of things.

To you honey cherrios are bog standard cearel,but to others it might be a special treat.

I love Kellogs Crunchy Nut Cornflakes.
But it's not part of my normal shop because its too expensive for me to buy all the time.
When I see it on offer I'll buy it, and I consider a special treat.

I'd be mighty pissed off if all I got to eat was 1 bowl.

MuddlingMackem · 17/08/2023 22:14

Have to say YWBU.

All of us often come home with something specific. Unless that person says it's for general consumption it's obvious it was picked up as they specifically wanted it and anyone else needs to keep their grubby mitts off it.

When the kids were younger, I'd often say, nope, that's your dad's cereal, you'll have to ask him if you can have some because I knew that he bought it specially even through they were too young to.

Nanny0gg · 17/08/2023 22:15

tattooedteagal · 17/08/2023 21:43

@foulksmills I didn't eat the last of them. There was enough left for DS breakfast but not enough for a grown man. I've only had one bowl.

So did he eat any of them?

If not, then you were being unreasonable

RedDedRedemption · 17/08/2023 22:17

crostini · 17/08/2023 22:05

You should be getting more than three servings out of an entire packet of cheerios?

The son has had multiple servings. OP 1, DH 1. HTH.

Whattodo112222 · 17/08/2023 22:19

I think its a bit unreasonable if it was a treat. I'm sure you'd feel the same if you bought a lovely bar of chocolate and he woofed if all and saved you one square

Cowlover89 · 17/08/2023 22:20

FrogTaped · 17/08/2023 21:45

I think I'm with your DH and it would have been nice to have asked him.

If I bought something for myself and DH ate it, I'd be miffed.

This

CandyLeBonBon · 17/08/2023 22:20

Did dh actually eat any of them?

cornflakesandtea · 17/08/2023 22:21

Would you normally buy honey cheerios as part of the weekly shop? Or was this well out of the norm? Was it obvious he'd bought it as a treat?
I'm erring on DHs side tbh. I'd be annoyed if I'd bought something as a treat and found that it was all gone.

SanFranBear · 17/08/2023 22:29

YABU purely for allowing Evil Nestle cereal in your house!

burnoutbabe · 17/08/2023 22:36

I can't work out how they all went.

Surely a box is around 10 or so servings?

So that seems to suggest he had 1 bowl one morning and then didn't bother having any for quite a few mornings until son had eaten then all -relying on you to work out how many bowls everyone had had.

When he should have matched everyone else for consumption (or put it away in daddy's special shelf)

Your only unreasonable if you fed son a bowl for 3 meals a day.

CandyLeBonBon · 17/08/2023 22:37

burnoutbabe · 17/08/2023 22:36

I can't work out how they all went.

Surely a box is around 10 or so servings?

So that seems to suggest he had 1 bowl one morning and then didn't bother having any for quite a few mornings until son had eaten then all -relying on you to work out how many bowls everyone had had.

When he should have matched everyone else for consumption (or put it away in daddy's special shelf)

Your only unreasonable if you fed son a bowl for 3 meals a day.

This was my query too!

TimeFlysWhenYoureHavingRum · 17/08/2023 22:38

Why not buy some more?

Twinklemacfinkle · 17/08/2023 22:40

I don't think it's a big deal. He has had 1 serving so he did get to eat some of his treat. If they were left in the same place as the rest of the family food then in this house they are fair game. If he wanted them as a treat purely for himself he should have put them away separately. That is what pretty much every person I know in real life would do. I couldn't get this worked up over a common cereal that you can buy in pretty much any shop that sells food.

If he had not had any I could see why he would be a bit miffed but again where he stores them is important. In a shared space is fair game.

always2323 · 17/08/2023 22:41

I would sit in bed next to him now with the last bowl of cheerios 😂

Squeaky2023 · 17/08/2023 22:47

AdoraBell · 17/08/2023 21:50

YANBU

He has to ask for everything he wants eat/drink if you have to ask.

This. Especially you do all the normal food shopping.

slithytoveisascientist · 17/08/2023 23:05

The other day I bought cool Doritos as part of weekly shop

We never get these, they were a treat for me. The kids always have the same crisps, as does DH. I rarely have crisps.

I bought a multi bag. Fancying 1-2.

Over 2 days unknown to me DH and kids had all 5 packets.

When I told him why I bought them he was mortified, went out and bought me more.

No nastiness no grief but he understood.

Sounds like the honey Cheerios were the same as my Doritos.

CarpetSlipper · 17/08/2023 23:22

YANBU. Food is shared in my house, can’t imagine buying a box of cereal (or box of anything) exclusively for myself.

saltinesandcoffeecups · 17/08/2023 23:25

CarpetSlipper · 17/08/2023 23:22

YANBU. Food is shared in my house, can’t imagine buying a box of cereal (or box of anything) exclusively for myself.

But do you get annoyed when you don’t get a full serving of something you bought?

Rollonsept · 18/08/2023 05:35

CarpetSlipper · 17/08/2023 23:22

YANBU. Food is shared in my house, can’t imagine buying a box of cereal (or box of anything) exclusively for myself.

The Box was empty. OP said there wasn't enough for an adult sized bowl of cereal. Me and my DC have the same size bowl so it's sounding like the box was empty.

How odd you never stop off at the shop and buy an item you fancy? The issue is there's none for OPs DH.

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